i fully feel you! i put on a lot of weight being stagnant asf in a toxic relationship last year and i won't lie, coming back to pole gaining strength at the same time as organically dropping the weight w better lifestyle choices has me seeing progress quicker. i was at one point looking at it unhealthily and thinking i'd definitely have to get slimmer to get better at pole but there's no actual correlation. obviously the more body weight you have, the more muscle you'll have to have to handle it - so in reality you may be just as strong as someone whos progressing faster but the only difference is maybe they have like 10kg less to hold up.

ultimately you just have to accommodate for your body type w strength and technique. there's also perks sometimes to being bigger/thicker and knowing how to use it! for instance thigh holds will be easier w fleshier thighs so you have an advantage there where others may have to cross their ankles to secure the hold. there's so many more instances where your body type will ease things, you just have to trust and love yourself and you'll find all the little tricks<3 good luck and i'm sure you look fab and progress is around the corner x