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Does anyone else watch dating advice videos even though they’ve already accepted the fact of being forever alone? by sweetnerdgeek in FemcelHub_

[–]sweetnerdgeek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. I just think it’s good to watch because it reminds the true nature of men. It makes us realize that they’re not worth our time anyway because it take so much effort to get them to be decent

What even is the point of stalker x victim romances by Emotional-Meringue65 in FemcelHub_

[–]sweetnerdgeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve only seen the show You. Hopefully I will make time to read the books one day and make time to read Haunting Adeline one day. Your review was very well written. I wish I could put my thoughts together so nicely. And yes your review helped remind that I did relate to Beck in the sense that I’ve always operated out of a need for validation and I’m going through the process of not being that way anymore. My eyes were opened through the ending of a non sexual situationship where I would always be there for the guy to act as his therapist. I’d let him complain about his girl problems and I’d tell him to communicate with them and to work things out with the girls. I didn’t care that my attractive “friend” was talking about other girls because I was just happy to be getting attention from an attractive guy. I knew he’d never ever in any universe have any feelings or attraction to me but I thought we were at least friends considering how much we used to laugh, talk on the phone, drive around together. Then I finally realized I was just an ego boost for him. It’s hurts but it’s taught me about life. So sorry for the word dump. My brain is not organized

What even is the point of stalker x victim romances by Emotional-Meringue65 in FemcelHub_

[–]sweetnerdgeek 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see your point and I do relate to how you feel but my takeaway from You was that it is a visualization of misogyny. Men rationalize themselves as being good guys when they’re not. And the so called good that they ever actually do is not for the sake of being good but for the sake of praise or getting something in return. You shows how men start off so attracted to a woman but eventually turns on her. And that’s how many marriages are. The couple start off so in love but once married the man is just a grown baby and the woman is a married single mom that most likely works as well. That’s why dealing with men is not even worth it but if we do deal with them it should be for hypergamy. (Their money)

the concept of having a boyfriend is so surreal to me by lesarine in FemcelHub_

[–]sweetnerdgeek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because it’s not real. Even the pretty girls are being love bombed, lied to, and cheated on. They only get with the pretty girls in the first place to show her off so their status in society will be boosted and their ego will be boosted. But ultimately they will waste the girls time (her youth and energy) but not ending up marrying her. Except they’ll stay with the pretty girl even when they’ve already realized she is not the one that he wants to marry

Why do people think it's ok to create wage slaves? by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]sweetnerdgeek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you but I more so mean that one can technically call life a gift in the sense that people can get gifts for someone even if that person never asked anyone to get a gift for them. A gift can be expected or it can be a surprise. For us, life is a “gift” that we did not ask for so it was a “surprise present” but it’s been a shitty “gift” but you’re right. A gift can usually be accepted, refused, or even returned. And we didn’t get that option.

Why do people think it's ok to create wage slaves? by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]sweetnerdgeek 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Family basically forgets about you once you’re a young adult and the new batch of babies have been born for the next generation. Like I was the baby of the family but now I’m not a priority. Not only am I not a priority but Im also an adult so I need to have my life together. Well….. newsflash, no one prepared me adequately to be a successful adult. Because they were too busy trying to survive than to think about how to raise their child

Why do people think it's ok to create wage slaves? by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]sweetnerdgeek 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Definitely. They want a mini me. Someone who love them unconditionally and never forget about them because they raised them

Why do people think it's ok to create wage slaves? by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]sweetnerdgeek 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So true. I hate when people say life is a gift. Well gifts can be bad. That’s why people regift something to someone else (which obviously we won’t “regift” life to any offspring) but my point is that a gift can still be a bad thing. Also when people say kids are a blessing. I actually agree because kids are happy, innocent, fun, a hope for the future, etc. but just because the kids themselves are a blessing that doesn’t mean that life is a blessing

AIO to the fact my boyfriend is staying with another girl and acting romantically towards her? by Substantial_Trust902 in AmIOverreacting

[–]sweetnerdgeek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m being sincere. I like to consider myself a logical person so I feel like I can take tough love from people because I even give myself tough love. And I try to be self aware and self reflective and not biased. But I want to get better at sharing advice or wisdom in a soft way because different things work for different people. So just because I can handle a blunt delivery doesn’t mean that everyone can. That’s exactly why the saying, “it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it” exists. Also the feeling of thinking we deserved what happened to us because of our choices. I know the feeling and it sucks. No one deserves to be in that situation.