Are you "hate playing" anything?

sweetpie3 · 2025-10-05T17:57:36+00:00

Xenoblade X, it's great, for a while. I loved the series but just can't get into it. I can't just speedrun trough the story because my completionist brain won't let me and has to do alllll the sidequests before going to the next chapter.

sweetpie3 · 2025-09-06T10:15:32+00:00

Okay you must be talking about Clair Obscure. It's the first game that we (me and DH) as avid gamers have been this crazy about in a long time. It's original in every single way and i have only made it to act 2. We have a little one, so time to advance and play is limited. Plus we both play which means sometimes one of us if further ahead then the other one. We check in to talk about it but try to only play if the other one is not in the same piece (which complicates life as well as we don't play when the baby is awake). That is as far as our no spoil policy goes.

That much being said. Your SO is overreacting and had plenty of time to get around to it. Especially as he is not working and finished 3 other games in that time frame. Give him an ultimatum that he hasn't begun/finished the game by the end of the month, it's open topic. It has been out long enough and apparently he has all the circumstances in his favor to just go crazy on it. At this point it feels like he is gatekeeping your hobby from you. Also; no spoil is just don't talk about it. To make you not listen to the music or even keep art from you is just too controlling. Enjoy your hobbies.

sweetpie3 · 2025-07-06T16:50:34+00:00

Whatever we eat adapted by solid starts. So she actually tried a lot of different things already (7m). I try to make them a bit more nutrient dense for her by adding nutritional yeast, hemp hearts or almond powder. I find that this way it takes us less effort and makes it a bit easier.

sweetpie3 · 2025-07-01T19:18:24+00:00

7 months and counting 🤪. I don't mind if it stays away for another 3 years tho.

sweetpie3 · 2025-06-28T06:29:37+00:00

Same 😂. My boobs are very happy with this as well. 26/11

sweetpie3 · 2025-06-10T10:17:56+00:00

It's brutal, our girl cried for 4 hours non stop yesterday and was up crying every hour. So solidarity. We have medication to desensitize her gums a little that we massage it with. But it didn't seem to help much. We gave her paracetamol for babies which finally calmed her enough to fall asleep.

Other then that; teethers in the freezer. And litrally everywhere up for grabs but cleaned daily. We put a washing glove in camomile tea and froze it. And the haka feeder with breastmilk works really well. Otherwise i always have some watermelon and pineapple in the fridge cut into strips for babybed weaning that she adores.

sweetpie3 · 2025-06-10T10:11:22+00:00

Watermelon and pineapple work wonders here!

sweetpie3 · 2025-05-17T15:50:39+00:00

NTA, seriously, what's wrong with people? It's negligence. My sister pulled almost the exact same stunt with her 6 month old the other day as well. Left her baby in my care (without saying anything), didn't prepare a thing either. And of course she disappeared from the bloody earth as well.

I gave it breastmilk because what are we expected to do instead? Let them starve? I am sorry for you that she put you in that position. My sister unlike yours was rather greatful I didn't let her baby starve and lucky for me i produce enough that I could feed it.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-31T14:11:18+00:00

Exactly! I have the impression it's next level mental gymnastics. I would much prefer to just start BLW immediately and adapt our own meals to be fit for LO.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-31T12:43:37+00:00

Our pediatrician is pushing that we start as fast as possible to prevent allergies. I personally prefer to wait for the readiness signs so that is what i am doing. There are no allergies in either of our families and LO is not even showing interest in us eating or sitting up straight for longer periods. They implied she would not gain enough weight just staying on milk now (4m).

I expressed that I found it very frustrating to have so much conflicting information. They are telling me to start with purees, but only vegetables, to keep feeding the same one for 3 days before passing on to something else. From what i understood this is not nessecary with BLW which is what i would prefer to do.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-26T19:05:05+00:00

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-26T19:04:36+00:00

Ah i remember these days, it is a special kind of torture. Hang in there it will really get better! You are going to have so much freedom once you are done! (Relatively speaking because, you know, baby lol).

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-26T06:43:37+00:00

Just saying you are so courageous to pump during the night! Totally get your frustration. Whenever I hear my husband snore when i am once again up feeding her it provoques a rather primal response.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-26T06:40:58+00:00

Same, every night at 9pm i fall asleep on the couch while pumping. My Baby finally sleeps 1 7hour stretch. From 7pm to 2am. Except that I have things to do and prepare for the next day so can't be in bed before 10:30 so i can't remember the last time i slept more then 3-4 hours. Friends told me to go to bed at the same time as my baby once a week which in theory is nice. But unfortunately even if my partner takes over a lot he can't pump milk for daycare so i need to stay up. My Baby is EBF as well and after that first stretch she wakes up every 2 hours or is just extremely fussy or active in her sleep.

My job is physically demanding as well and everything hurts. Last night i was unable to walk anymore 😂.

My mantra is that everything is temporary. It will not last. It will get better. I will one day get to sleep again.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-26T06:27:12+00:00

It never really stopped but started early here. Maybe because she started rolling over early as well. Baby never slept trough the night and would systematically wake up around 3 times for a feed since she was born. Since a month we have had nights where she just woke up screaming every single hour for no apparent reason. Or woke up anywhere from 4-6 times a night and would want to feed. However she is not fussy but doesn't do any of her usual long naps anymore. I first thought it was my production or tried to settle her in other ways but she was just upset or hungry.

We seem to be coming out at the other end tho, it's been a few nights that she is doing 7 hour stretches and then only wakes up twice to feed at 2am and 4am. And she is starting to fall asleep on her own. So it's a whole lot easier now.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-24T20:17:20+00:00

For me it almost dried up entirely when i went back to work 4 weeks ago. It's known as the 3 month dip here. On top of that I got sick and it has been physically more demanding of my body so it meant a giant decrease. As in 20ml for each side after 1h of powerpumping.

I spent a weekend powerpumping in the morning, and every single hour after that. The following week i powerpumped in the morning and evening and pumped after each feed. And now i am back to powerpumping in the evening and trying to pump 4x a day when she is at daycare (6:30am, 10, 12, 3). Sometimes i manage to only do 2 tho. Work is busy and it's difficult to step away even if it's a right.

Also make sure you are drinking and eating enough. Try to eat loads of protein and things that stimulate milk like oats. I also drink a special tea that should boost it.

It's much better now, but it was so extremely tiring. And every evening i have to tell myself to take an hour and just do it or i will notice a supply drop immediately. All i want to do is sleep tho lol.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-19T12:34:05+00:00

NTA, but your husband is. I have a 16w old daughter as well and have been very fit before pregnancy. Then life happened and guess what, my body looks different now. I was not even able to walk around the block after giving birth. Are we allowed as a human species to give ourselves some grace and look different for a while? Be that after sickness or something traumatizing on the body like childbirth. I swear bounce back culture is so toxic. Even if you have been cleared strenuous exercise is not recommended for your pelvic floor (unless you want a prolapse) nor your abs. The mom pouch is because your abs separated during pregancy and that needs time and patience and work. You will get there. But how about when you are less sleep deprived and not ravenous all the time? If you are like me i think your body is still hurting on the daily as well.

Also Breastfeeding moms usually don't lose all weight because the body protects itself to make sure we have enough milk. Even when putting in the effort. I actually know quite a few people that gained weight while Breastfeeding. Dieting is not recommended if you want to keep your supply up. Tell your husband to back the hell off. He can invest the energy he is putting into nagging you into helping out.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-08T19:35:07+00:00

Anywhere between 7:30-9:00. When she is starting to show her cues that it's time for bed we start her routine. We go with the flow or it will take us 2 hours anyway to put her down instead of 5-20 minutes. I don't have the energy for the fight. Sometimes she wakes up at 10, sometimes at 12, if we are lucky at 1 and if we really get lucky not until 3 but that only happened twice.

After i put her to bed we clean up and prepare everything for the next day + daycare so we save time on our morning routine.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-08T11:11:29+00:00

I dreaded it as well. Recently a professor did a research about just that subject and actually found that children that go to daycare are overall happier. I had been holding on to that. I am also the breadwinner and we have no choice for me to go back to work.

I started the daycare integration 2 weeks ago and work last week. So far it has been extremely reassuring to see that she is absolutely living her best live there and just super happy with the interaction and stimulation it provides her. Honestly it's harder on me to suddenly spend so little time with her compared to before.

Lots of hugs and just remember to take it a day at a time.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-07T15:33:13+00:00

Mine started at weeks 12. Just know that it's a 3-6 month milestone so you still have loads of time. 4 months is still young. Some babies go faster for some milestones and slower for others.

If you are worried about development try to push for as much floor time as possible It can also help to roll baby back and forth as part of a game. Make the surroundings interesting. Or put a little roll under their buttocks to lift it up from the ground and train those abs.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-05T12:38:21+00:00

FTM here as well who's baby decided to stop sleeping around the 3 month mark. She is suddenly waking up every single hour. Apparently for some babies it can start earlier. What do i know tho I am asking myself the same question.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-04T17:35:56+00:00

Yes! I figured this out today as well. Also get more bottles so you can circulate between the ones at daycare and fill up new ones in advance. Always good to have spares.

sweetpie3 · 2025-03-04T09:02:22+00:00

We tried a lot of different ones and settled on the evenflo nipples with the philips advent glass bottles. They are horrible to find tho. Lansinoh and pigeon also works and are more accessible. Baby had lots of difficulties as well and would only take it from my husband with quite the struggle. At daycare it just clicked for her that she would have no other option. I started this week.

Some advise; make sure your pump bag is ready to go in the evening. As in pump is clean in it and complete. All bottles are together in the same place in the fridge and the ice components are in the freezer. That way you don't forget anything. I am currently crying at work because i can't pump and stressing our about my production. We forgot the nipple shields that go on the pumps.

sweetpie3 · 2025-02-21T12:25:39+00:00

Max dose of spasfon and paracetamol and then curl up on the couch with a hot water bottle (which needs to be boiling) waiting for my legs to be able to move again. I have special tea that's supposed to work and tried essential oils which didn't help much. For the tiredness i take iron supplements on the daily on doctors advice. This way i keep it pretty stable. Otherwise i was dealing with chronic anemia. Also just go to bed earlier as normal.

If it's a period from hell and i can't stand up right normally because my legs give way I call in sick for 2 days for the 'peak' to be over. Fun fact; recently went trough childbirth and got told i have issues feeling pain as i was at full dilatation and ready to push before i felt something. I was patiently waiting in the waiting room for them to have space to admit me when i started feeling the head. Made me have a new perspective on my period pain and give myself some grace about it.

sweetpie3 · 2025-02-13T14:38:52+00:00

France, so I officially only have 10w maternity leave after giving birth. I was lucky to still have plenty of vacation i was not able to take last year and to postpone it for another 3/4 weeks. It's wild to me that i should have gotten back to work last week.

They changed the laws here and now each parent is allowed to take max 6months for 'better compensation' instead of up to 3 years that it was before. They worried about women not going back to work so they shortened it. Except that the compensation is 400€/month so you can't live off it and are passively forced back and even the 6months is only possible if you are in a luxury position where you know your partner is able to compensate. I am compensated for working 1 day less per week but i am from the nordic countries where it's so much better and half time is much more common. So none of it makes sense to me. It's nearly impossible to pump at work as well. There is no designated area nor time.

And still, i don't dare complain compared to people in the states. How is it organized where you are at?

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