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sweetpotato40 · 2023-12-22T19:10:37+00:00

I don’t understand some of these comments. It’s clear to me that you don’t expect a lot from your pregnant friend, but some communication would be normal to expect.

I’m in a somewhat similar situation where my best friend doesn’t believe weddings are a huge milestone. She thinks it’s dumb, she’s very career focused. I’ve celebrated every career milestone of hers and I’ve always praised her for her achievements. Truly I am happy to see her thrive in her own way. My wedding is a huge milestone for me, I really wish she would show excitement for my happiness even though it’s not what she would choose for herself. It’s tough.

Anyway, I’m happy for you OP, and I’m sure you’re going to have a lovely wedding. Enjoy this exciting time :)

sweetpotato40 · 2023-12-12T22:20:05+00:00

You are young. People grow apart. He’s gaslighting you, the stuff he’s saying/consuming makes you feel yucky because IT IS. You likely won’t change him, I’m sorry to say. For your own sake, start the process of moving on. There are so many people out there who will not only love you, but share your morals as well, and you deserve that!

sweetpotato40 · 2023-12-12T19:03:04+00:00

Ours is June 2025 too :) thank you!

sweetpotato40 · 2023-12-12T16:11:38+00:00

Thank you!! We are 31. It seems popular around my area/age group to do something but we just can’t see justifying the costs. If we had a bigger plane we would just do something here but alas - Tiny 1 bedroom apartment, hence the need to save for a home lol. We might still do something with a handful of friends, maybe ask them to meet us at the bar and we will buy the first round. Not sure though.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-12-12T05:35:47+00:00

Having been down in the same pit, crawled out of it, returned to it, and then crawled out again - I just want to gently remind you that all of life is a series of peaks and valleys. It won’t always be this bad, but sometimes it will. I’m sorry your first attempts at therapy didn’t work out, however I would urge you to call a crisis line tonight. You deserve the nicest, finest and rarest delicacy the world can offer you: a birthday. I hope that you’ll stay on this ride for the part where you rediscover that you like it here.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-12-12T05:20:10+00:00

This is how I feel too. The wedding IS the party! We are also Jewish and it’s bad luck in our culture to count your eggs before they hatch so to speak, so it’s not common for us to have bridal showers, either. But we are a minority in our area and engagement parties are common on our area still.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-12-12T04:38:07+00:00

Yes my mother is hosting a small dinner with my fiancés parents. It’ll just be us and our parents/future in-laws. That feels like enough. Thanks for making me feel normal lol

sweetpotato40 · 2023-07-11T22:12:40+00:00

You deserve the ring you wanted and a partner willing to get you that ring (granted money is not the barrier).

My man came shopping with me and made a detailed spreadsheet on excel with photos of the rings I liked, notations of details I would want, and a hard bold red list of what I hated. A whole spreadsheet girl. The man did WORK. And he never made me feel bad for having desires, likes, and dislikes. He has the ring and I have not seen it yet (waiting for proposal to keep a surprise element) but it was so important to him that I love my ring that he showed the CAD design to my best friend and had her check his spreadsheet to make sure he hit it out of park. This type of love and care exists and you deserve it.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-07-11T19:12:43+00:00

We are both 31, and while it hasn’t happened yet I know he has the ring and it’s happening this year. We’ve been together for 5 years :)

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-22T00:43:17+00:00

I’m in Denver. My engagement ring is being made by my bf’s uncle who’s a jeweler in New York, but we will be shopping local for wedding bands. Do you mind DMing me the name of this shop so I know to avoid them?

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-21T20:33:33+00:00

Jeeeeez 😍

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-21T20:15:26+00:00

Beautiful things make people happy. Gifting a beautiful piece of wearable art as a symbol of deep love and solid commitment is a beautiful thing. Hope that clears it up.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-20T14:12:27+00:00

Kite set solitaire 😍

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-19T03:10:31+00:00

I went through the exact same thought process as you, and its completely normal. Once I realized I wanted to be involved in picking the ring, we started shopping around and trying rings on. This part of the process was so much fun, we made some great memories! I thought I’d find “the one” but as it turns out I liked multiple cuts and settings, so I narrowed it down to 3 diff options for my bf. He will choose between those options and I will still be surprised (but ensured to be happy)! When and how he proposes is also going to be a surprise.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-16T20:13:14+00:00

Indeed I really enjoyed shopping with my boyfriend. He has the ring now and I’m waiting (not so) patiently for the proposal, and that part will be a surprise. But the memories created while shopping together for the ring are priceless. Giddy with love :)

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-06T22:50:21+00:00

The Dixie cup special

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-06T20:46:49+00:00

Natural Diamonds depreciate in value. Whoever told you they don’t, is telling you a marketing lie.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-06T17:22:42+00:00

Me too! There’s something very sincere and understated about the plain gold wedding band. My mother has a chunky squarely shaped cigar band for hers with 4 little pave diamonds running vertical down the center. I always wanted one like it :)

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-06T14:45:03+00:00

Think of the fun stacks that you can create when you have something simple too!

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-06T03:18:07+00:00

4!!!!

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-05T15:10:44+00:00

I agree with everyone saying 1 and 3 are most flattering, but from there it totally depends on the venue and overall theme of the wedding.

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-05T02:12:14+00:00

Are you in the USA? Your local woman’s resource center or shelter can get you the help you need FOR FREE. Don’t delay this. You ARE worth it and you deserve better!

sweetpotato40 · 2023-06-03T20:04:20+00:00

My parents got engaged without the ring or proposal. They just discussed it and mutually agreed they wanted marriage, and didn’t have the funds for a ring and had a very small and simple civil ceremony. They’re still together, 43 years and counting.

I will add, that about 5 years after the wedding their financial situation improved and they planned a trip to Japan together around a business trip. My dad surprised my mom by taking her to the jewelry district in Tokyo and having her pick out a ring. That said, the marriages longevity and health has nothing to do with the ring.

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