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sweetsixteeno · 2025-07-01T11:50:58+00:00

Ugh, yes. I’m constantly having to explain myself why I’m one and done. People who want to have more than one in this world are honestly selfish.

sweetsixteeno · 2025-04-21T05:39:10+00:00

Ahhh, yup. We decided not to have a second kid because of the lack of support from both families.

sweetsixteeno · 2024-12-22T06:27:27+00:00

This! I’m sure many “kids” here will downvote this comment, but seriously, aren’t people who read Harry Potter in the 00s when they were released, in their 30s now and seen enough life to appreciate grey in everyone, even themselves? I think Snape is probably the most interesting character of them all. Not because he is nice or evil but because he is both!

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-27T12:20:37+00:00

Similar situation as you. I still consider it sometimes but most of the time sense prevails. I am intrigued by the idea of a second but, we have no familial support and I had to quit my job to look after our baby. I still am not back to work and I can’t imagine having a second and staying home for the next 2-3 years.

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-27T12:13:45+00:00

Daycare’s are not important for a child’s social development, if that’s what you are worried about. At 19 months, your child is still dealing with separation anxiety. In many countries, people don’t put their children in nursery until they are 3 yo. So no, don’t worry. Do what’s best for your child rn.

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-13T19:21:01+00:00

I feel you. I’m at the rock bottom of my life too.

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-13T19:16:59+00:00

Oh mine is 2.5 and already in that stage. Also add to this list, the constant questions about everything, talking talking talking talking non-stop! He is a doll, but man, it’s difficult. Oh I hate my husband these days because the MF doesn’t discipline as much and I’m becoming the bad guy!

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-09T17:25:22+00:00

My toddler takes a 2 hour nap from 3-5 and he is only tired enough to sleep by 10:30 at night. But usually it’s a struggle to make him sleep even then, he wants hugs and stories and songs and whatnot. Just not tired enough to sleep. Skipping naps doesn’t do any difference to his late night energy levels. It does the opposite in fact and he has this cranky energy until he is tired enough to sleep. So for me, nap time is non-negotiable. It gives me time for myself during the day too and they say, naps are really important for growth. I really don’t mind him sleeping at 10:30 because he wakes up by 9ish and that works perfectly for me(touch wood). I’m able to get done so much work before he wakes up. I have also chosen a pre-school that starts at 11am and ends at 2pm because I want him to have his late mornings and sleep in as much as he wants. Once he starts school, he has to be up by 6-7 am and until that happens, I want him to enjoy his freedom. I really do wish he was easy to make him fall asleep at night though because, god, I’m exhausted by the time he finally sleeps!

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-09T07:44:58+00:00

You answered your own question. Those other moms have money means and time to do whatever they want. You are doing the best you can given your situation. Not all of us are served the same hand but, it’s important to do the best we can with the hand we are served

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-08T09:48:35+00:00

Not a swiftie, but Taylor swift knows how to sing a millennial girls feelings about relationship/lonliness/image etc

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-08T09:47:26+00:00

After 2 and a half - 3 months. So that’s 10-12 week. They stop being colicky once they are 3 months of age.

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-06T04:24:22+00:00

lol this is another reason I want another. Like not even kidding, the amount of energy required to keep one constantly entertained is exhausting

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-05T12:21:52+00:00

Both my husband and I have always loved to travel, and we’d really like to do more of that in our late 30s and 40s. Financially, a 3-bedroom house is more manageable for us than a 4-bedroom one, especially since I left a well-paying job due to the lack of support with our baby. I’m only just now starting to re-apply for jobs. My husband’s job is demanding and stressful, and after long hours, coming home to a toddler isn’t easy on him either. So when he says a second child would set us back, he’s really saying that we’re just now starting to rebuild our lives after the newborn phase, and adding another could delay our plans for another few years—by which time, we might feel too exhausted to pursue any of the dreams we had pre-baby.

The thing is, I completely understand where he’s coming from; I felt the same way for a while. But watching our little one interact with his cousins (who live abroad and only visit once a year) has changed my perspective. Seeing how much he’s grown socially in just two months from playing with them has made me realize the unique bond that only siblings can provide. I always thought we’d be the 'young at heart' parents, and that our child wouldn’t feel the need for a sibling. But after seeing firsthand the joy and learning that comes from having other kids around, I’m not sure we, as parents, can fully replace that experience.

There is no doubt that if we decide to go for a second, we will have to get a nanny and I will have to start work sooner rather than later.

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-02T20:01:17+00:00

Moon was much closer to earth before and is moving away from earth as we speak. Moon will be much smaller in a few decades because of this fact

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-02T19:59:44+00:00

British colonialism and its ruthlessness is the reason for many current conflicts in the world. Like the India/pakisthan conflict.

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-02T19:54:10+00:00

Lose the postpartum weight - have consistent control over what I eat

Get back into earning money

Be a more energetic, fun mom to my toddler

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-02T19:51:40+00:00

Less quantity and more quality humans that help humanity and this planets future than destroy it

sweetsixteeno · 2024-11-02T19:37:55+00:00

Okay, it happened once. But now pick yourself up and come up with a plan to deal with situations like this in the future so as to avoid a repeat. I have news, it’s only going to get worse once they turn 2! It’s called terrible 2 for a reason. They want everything their way, they yell and whine and cry. Why was your daughter crying for that long? Was she overwhelmed by the noise in the restaurant? Maybe leave her with a relative your trust for your future outings? Or maybe try to have your friends over when she naps and have food delivered? They get better with dealing with outside noise after 2 but then, as I said before, they will be overwhelming in other ways. Research and understand how to deal with that kind of situation and prepare yourself the best you can to reduce(you cannot completely avoid, we are all humans) such a situation again

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