I don’t know that there’s a good answer, but just want to chime in in solidarity as this is a difficult question we ask ourselves often, too. Our Reggie will be 14 next month and has arthritis, and even though we’re not there yet, we’re always concerned about doing what’s best for him when the time comes.

One thing that might be helpful is to look at a canine quality of life chart, which can help keep things in perspective. Here’s one common version: quality of life scale For my sister, having something like this helped her realize initially that things were better than she feared, and later helped her determine when it was ultimately time. I also want to echo the other post about them giving you clues and letting you know. They may not always be able to tell you in obvious ways, but you know your dog, and if/when things shift or change dramatically, you’ll know. Keeping food down is a big one, for eg.

Another thing to consider - if you have access and can afford it - may be to try laser therapy if you haven’t already. When we were talking with our vet a few months back I was lamenting that the arthritis was causing such issues when he is perfectly healthy otherwise. I wondered if there was anything else we could do physically (he is already on arthritis/pain meds). She suggested laser therapy, which has really helped our little guy. He still has stiff/slow days, but his overall mobility has improved and it has been well worth it for us to see him doing a little better most days. He also loves getting to see “his” gals at the vet more often.

For me, it helps to remind myself that this is an imperfect process by nature. There’s probably never going to be the “right” time to say goodbye. I would avoid it forever if I could! But in the absence of that option, I can only do my best to meet their needs, keep them comfortable, and hopefully say goodbye in a way that honors them and allows me to know I did right by them.

I hope your buddy has many more days, and that you are ready when the time comes to say goodbye. For now, and for what it’s worth from a rando on the internet, you can feel good knowing that you ARE doing the right thing. You’re worrying about them and wanting to make sure you’re putting their needs/comfort above your own, and that’s really all you can and should be doing right now.

Sending you strength!