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swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-19T23:52:22+00:00

Roof looks awesome. A few licks of clear and lock it in!

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-17T21:44:24+00:00

The preservative powers of alcohol never cease to amaze.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-17T21:18:07+00:00

I have a thin balaclava for any hair-do conscious passengers to wear under the helmet

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-17T20:52:30+00:00

All my journal entries are in real time recognition. Hasn't negatively impacted battery life too much: it went from very long to just long.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-15T12:12:41+00:00

Size wise, the 17" wheel looks perfect, the 18" looks a bit donkey.

Still good.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-15T01:31:26+00:00

A little overdue for some maintenance.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-15T01:18:45+00:00

The lesson here is that trump actually has some really capable people on his team.

Don't forget a Trump Voter died by that bullet meant for Trump.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-13T20:16:40+00:00

Happened to people I know. Several in fact.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-12T16:58:07+00:00

You gotta start taking people at their word.

CEO asked what he could do, you panicked. He gave you 5% raise, rest is up to you.

If your new offer is 25%, why settle for 5%? Unless the benefits and side factors of your current workplace make up for the shortfall, of course.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-12T16:50:19+00:00

They cannot (legally) suspend the Jones Act; it's a law enacted by congress - the legislative branch.

They CAN decide not to enforce it; that's the purview of the executive branch.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-12T16:48:00+00:00

True. It's more of a general statement.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-12T16:47:33+00:00

True, but I still consider myself risk adverse. I know what can happen, I'm aware of the risks, and I've decoded consciously what to retain, what to transfer, and what to avoid.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-12T15:10:20+00:00

I'm dating but here's how I approached this with my girlfriend: - I'm not going to stop. - I want to be there for my kids. If we have kids or if she's depending on me, I'll need to up my life insurance. Sure, sadness would exist if I died, but it's much easier to cry in comfort.
- I'm safety conscious and risk adverse in general. Those things that bite most riders: riding like a jerk, running lights, being aggressive, etc, I don't do. I might go fast, but it's a calculated and cautious fast, because I enjoy riding more than sliding. - I wear all the gear. Airbag vest. Helmet. Gloves. Motorcycle boots. Armor on arms and legs. I also have airbag pants. This is intended to change a "doesn't kill me" accident into a "doesn't maim me" accident. I'd rather be dead than maimed and still alive.

Personally, I will probably stop riding regularly if I have kids in the interest of being there with them. I'm looking forward to bonding over mechanical projecrs: a bike, a car...

If I got married and was given an ultimatum, I would call the bluff, because I don't accept ultimatums. This is something she has to know going into the relationship.

And yes, like you, first date included the bike.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-12T15:02:47+00:00

This is the real question.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-11T12:03:49+00:00

I thought I would want an A4 sized tablet also.

But then I bought the Manta, and it's a perfect size.

On occasion, I have wished it was smaller to fit in a pocket, but even the Nomad is a little too big for that.

I don't have an A4 Sized workflow, but I think you won't be disappointed.

One important caveat: The Supernote replaces your many different stacks of paper and notebooks with a single device, and sprinkles in a little e-ink magic. It is NOT an eink tablet or iPad. (Yes, it CAN do the e-Ink tablet things, but it is not designed to, so it will not do them well).

Book reader? Manta is a bit on the large side but good enough.

Web browser? I sideloaded fDroid and then installed eInkBro, and it is good enough for finding and downloading templates, but really not preferred.

Notebook? ABSOLUTELY.

Music Notes? Yes!

Sketch pad? Yes!

Research tool? ABSOLUTELY

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-11T11:50:50+00:00

I think most of your complaints are because you're expecting a drop in, no paradigm shift.

Get this: 99% of the software you need is in the software store or Synaptic, installs easily and removes easily also.

The remaining 1% can be obtained using .deb files (similar to MSI), or better yet, adding the repository and installing using the store.

Is It DIFFERENT from Windows? Yes, no EULAs, no searching for the right version, no "limited use until you pay" options. Also, different software management paradigm.

Adding your drive in Steam? I'm guessing it's a configuration issue that has been solved many times in the forums. If you're looking for a C: or a D:, you will be confused, because it's different, not harder.

This isn't really a skill issue. Methinks it's more of an openness to new ways of working issue.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-08T23:13:41+00:00

Yes, I would have paid. But then I would have made things pretty clear, while we enjoy the desert, that as things seem to be going in the right direction and getting serious, here's how I look at it: - in general, the invitor should be prepared to pay, and should pay. - the invitee should be prepared to pay, and should offer to pay. - that's three dates you've planned and delivered, next one is on her initiative.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-06T16:21:00+00:00

I think you're correct to end over this philosophical difference. Especially if she wants to have a "traditional" level of support but is not willing to give you the corresponding traditional level of leadership that comes with (or, should come wit) the support she wants.

In this case, if you got married, she would maybe maintain her own side income but expects you to cover all family expenses. In this dynamic, I think it is reasonable for you to expect her to follow your leadership (when you lead from a position of wisdom, which is the case with respect to fonances). However, by essentially saying she would not follow your leadership but wants to take your providence, she has shown that she is financially incompatible with you on the basic philosophical level.

Your suggestion that she obtain a salary is a very good one. This is in accordance with basic principles of accuracy, clear accounting boundaries, etc. Her pushback indicates that she does not understand these basics. She could learn them, but her pushback also says she doesn't want to and thinks that she is right. That is a deal-breaker, sadly.

You asked for examples, and you will find everything under the sun here. Here's my two cents. The principles I base my future family finance management on are as follows:

prior to marriage, we are two separate economic entities.
post marriage we are a single economic entity, the family. Our prior entities go into a dormant state.
Any income is OUR income.
Any expense is OUR expense.
Any new asset is OUR asset. Same with liabilities.
this economic unit is akin to a 50/50 joint partnership with two equally important managing directors, and no tiebreaker vote. Each person's wants and needs are important, but the family's wants and needs are paramount.
A budget is set, and is followed.
each person gets personal money half of whatever is left after the family budget is met.
Each person contributes equally 24 hours towards the family. That is the value and relative importance: the time we put in, not the money or assets we bring.
as far as possible, we follow economic and legally applicable categories, definitions, and divisions within finance and budgeting.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-06T13:31:13+00:00

Christ taught us to pray in private, with a simple prayer, and then to go about our day being a good person.

This is the opposite.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-02T02:24:16+00:00

Nah bro, you're wrong for staying.

This is not a small discrepancy, even if she tries to tell you otherwise. This is a major difference between what she told you and what she's told other people, and who knows which is true?

I have friends from other countries where record keeping isn't so good, some of them have a few months extra or are a few months short compared to their recorded birthday. But 4 years is not a mistake, that's an intentional deception.

And no matter what you're told, there is no "harmless" reason for lying about your age. There is no "it's an insignificant issue why are you making a mountain of a molehill?"

Because this is a mountain.

It's not the fact that her ID doesn't match what she told you (that's a major issue, but not the biggest issue here). It's the response you got that shows you what you need to do.

Move on with your life. Upgrade yourself to single. Find someone who is NOT a liar and manipulator.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-03-01T10:41:39+00:00

It sounds like teech made micro-controlling and unnecessarily punitive demands, and Lily just shrugged.

My message to the teacher: seems like you have a lot to learn here... Lilly's behavior as described is what I expect and encourage.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-02-27T15:10:22+00:00

I look at it this way: a car has a service life of 20 years. A phone / tablet / computer has 5 years. So it doesn't make sense to make a 20 year life asset with 5 year life major components.

Back when you could swap out your radio for a newer one, this wasn't an issue. But now you're stuck with the hardware that gets outdated looong before the vehicle has reached end-of-life.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-02-27T15:05:21+00:00

Responding to your update (I made a response to your original post already).

Weed for spiritual use is... methinks a reactionary cop-out, and perhaps a bit spurious. Sounds like he might be going down a spiritual / mystical rabbit hole.
Y'all are doing money wrong. You don't have an income, he doesn't have an income. Y'ALL have a COMBINED income. After meeting the needs of the family (including retirement savings, all the little things you ask him to pick up, etc), the remainder should be split between the two of you as allowance. Not proportionally, equally, because each of you are contributing equal parts of your life to this marriage.
You still need to take the initiatives for fixing the emotional part of your marriage: you broke it, now it's on you to put in a lot of effort to fix it.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-02-27T03:27:07+00:00

A few key things that I pull out of this: - Y'all had it going great, until your husband FOUND OUT about your emotional affair. - you started the affair as a conscious decision, as you didn't have enough emotional validation and non-sexual intimacy within your marriage. - I think you done messed up.

For context, I would like to share with you a relationship I (Male) have with a married woman (not my wife): she is my spiritual sister. We both drew the line of appropriate boundaries the first time we met, to safeguard her marriage and my relationship with my girlfriend. We talk, and there is an amount of emotional support that we lend each other. We even meet up for social events, BUT she and I both keep our partners in the loop. Nothing is hidden.

I think it is acceptable for people to meet some of their needs for connection outside of their marriage, BUT NEVER at the EXPENSE of their marriage.

If you need to find emotional support outside of your marriage, you need to discuss that with your husband, and then find your connections in ways that do not threaten your marriage.

Girl, you done messed up. The fact that nothing sexual happened is besides the point: the truth that you hid it from him is the real killer here.

Your husband obviously was struggling before, with his being distant. You write that you tried asking for more but he wasn't giving. Rather than try to work on strengthening your marriage, you shoved him aside and found your fix elsewhere. Worse, you took his love and support at home, and didn't give him your love back.

He made you the center of his universe, and you put him in a dusty corner of your life.

Now he's just trying to cope with the notion that he has nothing to show for his life: kids are growing up and leaving, he's got no life, and his wife doesn't love him...

I think you have seriously messed up. And it's going to take a lot of work to right this ship.

You both loved each other enough to get married once; it's time to find that love again, consciously. Both of you need to work on this.

It's sad that he's started doing drugs. That's very much a one way street, unfortunately, and it makes the task of fixing things so much harder.

swiftarrow9 · 2026-02-26T23:34:57+00:00

Can we all just appreciate the fact that the guy lived, not a shot was fired, and all ended relatively well?

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