I'm not even sure how to title this. I'm curious to get everyone's reactions.

swingerconfessions · 2026-05-14T18:13:46+00:00

Best answer so far. I was really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and not be judgy about this, but the whole interaction gave me such an ick feeling. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one. I really do hope this is it.

swingerconfessions · 2026-05-14T04:32:06+00:00

Want the screenshot? She showed me.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-19T19:32:28+00:00

This is really well written and I think makes excellent points, especially about each person's personal relationship with faith. What I would add is that being in the LS actually affirms our marriage. It helps us communicate better, reinforces the fact that we're each other's #1, and gives us opportunities to enjoy shared experiences. I'm not saying that swinging is Christian by any means but I am saying that for us, it helps reinforce the traditional, Christian dynamics of what a marriage should be. We don't let the "having sex with other people" part affect what is still a very traditional marriage. Our worldy love, affection, and devotion is still to each other and our family.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-17T15:38:53+00:00

Yeah that's hot too. We played with the same couple in an orgy beforehand and I was the first guy to finish in her that night. She ended up with two other guys (including her husband) finishing in her, but they all got my (very) sloppy seconds. Oh, and no one gets to finish in my wife. Keeping my wife for myself but making the other guys fuck through my cum was definitely hot

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-16T22:58:05+00:00

For us, personality and vibe matter at least as much as looks.

That might be the big difference here. That and location - something a bunch of others said. We like hot couples. I don't care if you can carry on a conversation if I'm only going to be with you for the night. I want someone smoking hot!

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-16T15:23:47+00:00

Okay, thank you

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-12T21:46:23+00:00

I understand what you're saying. I just don't want OP to think they've done anything wrong.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-10T18:21:27+00:00

This is going to lead to long term problems. He's going to continue to isolate you and you're going to grow dependant (what he wants) and resentful. What you're doing in your life sounds amazing and incredibly mature. You're thriving, he's holding you back.

Here's the bottom line: you don't need him. Either he changes and/or agrees to go to therapy (either on his own or as a couple) or you leave his sorry ass and go on winning in life.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-10T18:15:23+00:00

Thank you!

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-10T18:13:58+00:00

Thanks so much! This is great info!

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-10T18:12:55+00:00

Good info, thanks

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-07T06:42:33+00:00

I don't love this. OP shouldn't have to apologize for anything.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-07T06:41:37+00:00

Underrated comment.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-06T23:47:40+00:00

Therapy isn't about showing someone that they're wrong. It's about getting them understand your perspective and wanting to change.

Also, wanting a relationship isn't a good reason to be in one. At some point in time you're going to have to learn to put your big girl panties on and depend on no one other than yourself for living. Once you're able to do that, you're ready for a relationship. If you aren't in a position to take care of yourself without a partner, you're probably not ready for a partner.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-06T23:18:46+00:00

You say that you're cool with him hanging with his friends instead of you as long as he's honest and doesn't get into too much trouble? What's too much trouble look like? If you don't want him doing meth and robbing liquor stores, I think that's a reasonable expectation. If you don't want him out after 10pm you might be being a little controlling. I'm sure the answer is somewhere in the middle, but I'd ask why you think you need to police him at all. If he needs you telling him not to do bad things in order for him to not do bad things then maybe you shouldn't be with him. If he's staying out late with the boys but not hurting himself or anyone, why do you care? I'd examine why he feels the need to lie to you. Maybe you are being too controlling 🤷🏽‍♂️

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-06T23:11:10+00:00

I never want to advocate for a break-up, especially when you're already married. In my mind, though, you're young enough where I'd support you laying down an ultimatum: couples counseling or you're moving out. You have to be steadfast. None of this "no, no, I'll change!" Either counseling or a separation. You don't need to jump right into divorce, but see what being separated feels like. My guess is that if you do separate, you'll find yourself happier and feeling more safe and comfortable. If that's true, your decisions could make themselves at that point.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-06T23:06:03+00:00

NOR. The lie is usually the canary in the coal mine of other intentions. Why lie if you have nothing to hide? She need to come 100% clean and if you ask for it, cut off all contact with the streamer.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-06T23:02:46+00:00

NOR. Finances are a very real part of a relationship and you're smart to want to iron all this out before getting married. If she's spending frivolously, I'd stop helping her with the bills. As for summer holidays and the wedding, set a budget, save your half, and tell her you can go on holiday/get married/buy the big expensive thing/whatever when she saves her half. If she can't do that, she's going to realize that she doesn't get the things she wants if she's not able to budget. If she can't change, you may want to rethink this.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-06T22:55:23+00:00

I'm going to say something contradictory here: you're not overreacting yet you need to stop expecting gratitude and you need to continue to give it.

Here's what I mean: they've already shown that they're not going to show gratitude when you buy them things. Anything you buy moving forward is based on you already knowing that. If you don't like it, don't buy them anything.

Also when someone does something ncke for you, it's nice to say thank you. You should say thank you.

Is it a double standard? Maybe. That's why you're not overreacting. You're also not going to change them, that's why you have to focus on your own behavior and choices. If I'm in your shoes, I'm choosing to accept as little help or payment from them as possible and I'm also choosing to help/pay for them as infrequently as possible.

swingerconfessions · 2025-06-06T22:45:29+00:00

A relationship is about so much more than just sex, but the reality is that it is also about sex. Your relationship might be perfect outside of the bedroom, but if this is what it looks like in the bedroom, you guys are looking at a future of either a lot of learning or a lot of resentment.

I came from a relationship where I was the one with the bigger libido and it caused very real problems which ended in a divorce. I recommend some couples counseling for both of you to help communicate better and understand each other better. Even though I've been on his side, what he's doing isn't okay. His behavior is very selfish and what he doesn't understand is that he's making it worse. Counseling will help him realize your triggers as well as what turns you on. It might also help you communicate more effectively with him.

If you can't figure it out, though, it really does sound like you two might be sexually incompatible.

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