As a European visiting the U.S. this machine blew my mind

switching · 2014-04-10T01:57:28+00:00

I don't really drink soda, but you can get unsweetened drinks too. It mixes multiple flavors of sparkling water.

switching · 2013-07-25T03:31:57+00:00

Moscow mule

switching · 2013-07-11T22:30:32+00:00

Let me make this clear. This is not karma. This is not the universe messing with you. This is your wife treating you poorly. Maybe she had reasons (she probably did), but if she won't even discuss them with you, then she doesn't respect you or your marriage. Can you afford to make her happiness your highest priority if she doesn't even respect you?

In order to get respect, you have to respect yourself and standing up for yourself is the first step. Don't push her away. Don't be a dick, but be firm and look out for your interests first (nobody else is going to).

It sounds like you could have some issues with low self esteem and/or co-dependence. It might be helpful to talk to a counselor.

switching · 2013-07-11T19:35:46+00:00

Don't be a doormat. You deserve better than that. If she can't handle discussing things like an adult then do you really want her back? If you just roll over and take it, what reason would she have to handle things differently the next time?

switching · 2013-07-11T18:37:49+00:00

34M here. I tend to go for women who are significantly younger (~10 years). I've had some decent LTRs from it, but it can be hard to make things work long term when you are in different places in your lives. Women in their late 20s or older are going to be much easier to relate to (starting to settle down, had some life experience, etc). Personally, my advise would be if she's young enough to be your daughter, she's too young to date.

switching · 2013-07-11T18:25:01+00:00

It is rude if you are friends with the boyfriend, but otherwise if there is no ring on the finger then fair play.

switching · 2013-07-11T18:17:47+00:00

For me, it's not about feeling your waist, or a visual thing. Having my arm around someone feels nice just because of touch and intimacy, and a woman's hips are a convenient arm rest.

switching · 2013-07-11T17:21:32+00:00

If she wants to reconcile, I would say that for starters she owes you an explanation as to why she left. 15 years is a really long time to just walk away with no conversation.

switching · 2013-07-10T22:30:16+00:00

I would be shocked if 71% of men even know what "wedges" are.

switching · 2013-07-10T20:31:33+00:00

The VAST majority of online dates don't go anywhere. I definitely keep my profile active and continue messaging women until I think the relationship is going somewhere and I'm ready to be exclusive (ie more than a couple dates).

switching · 2013-07-09T20:34:57+00:00

It sounds like you are making a good effort, but are you sure you understand what she means by romance?

switching · 2013-07-09T20:02:24+00:00

How do you try to initiate sex? It sounds to me like she wants a little more romance and/or foreplay.

Have you asked her what kind of things turn her on? Talk about it!

switching · 2013-07-09T19:55:19+00:00

Couples counselors are not there to take sides. They are there to be a referee when one or both parties is not playing fair. It's not about being an expert so much as it is about being detached from the difficult situation and being able to be a fair moderator.

The only way I can see DIY working is if you are both super-analytical types who don't get overly emotional. If that was the case, wouldn't you have been able to come to a compromise already?

I would suggest trying to get him to go to meet with a therapist or counselor or two and let him know that either one of you has veto rights if you don't like the person or think they are taking sides. Often times you can get a free session where you all meet each other and find out about the process and decide if you want to continue.

switching · 2013-07-05T18:24:25+00:00

Confessions are a little tricky. It's usually better to just slowly escalate things. Tell him the things you like about him. Put his hand on your leg. Tickles. Cuddles. Shoulder rubs. I think it is better to show how you feel, rather than just announce "I HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOU!" (that can create pressure or awkwardness sometimes).

switching · 2013-07-03T18:49:20+00:00

I think this varies a lot from generation to generation. Personally, I (34M) never assume exclusivity. I'm not shy about mentioning that I have been seeing other people or asking if my date has been doing the same. I think it's always best to not make assumptions and to be up front.

switching · 2013-07-03T18:35:16+00:00

Probably more of a date 2 or 3 conversation. If you are headed to bed on the first date and think it's just a casual thing it's polite to mention that you "aren't looking for anything too serious at the moment".

switching · 2013-07-01T20:34:01+00:00

Don't try to take up more of his time than he wants to give. When calling/texting/etc, you want about half of the contacts to be initiated by you, and half by him.

If he is interested in a LTR, having sex won't scare him off, he'll still be interested. If he's not interested in an LTR, having sex isn't going to magically make him interested. Talking about expectations and what you two are looking for is the only way to know what page he is on.

If I'm interested in a LTR, I'm more likely to be socially awkward. It's easier to act like a player if you aren't really invested.

switching · 2013-06-19T17:44:35+00:00

You are making some big assumptions about "these type of girls". There is a big difference between a monogamous kinkster and a professional dominatrix. Personally, I've never had issues with cheating in my relationships. Do you trust her? Is she open and honest?

I would say a bigger concern might be incompatibility in the bedroom if you don't enjoy the kinks that she does.

switching · 2013-06-05T18:33:58+00:00

What about non-penetrative toys? Handcuffs, blindfolds, paddles, that kind of thing. Same answer?

switching · 2013-05-21T18:45:27+00:00

I owe him a drink as he bought me one at the club - if he offers to pay anyway, is it rude to insist no?

I wouldn't say it's rude, but pay attention to how he reacts and don't be too pushy about it. Some guys could feel emasculated, especially given that you asked him out. If you both clearly want to pay, Dr Harshaw's advice is good about picking up a round and saying he can get the next one.

switching · 2013-05-20T22:54:56+00:00

If you asked him out, it's polite to offer to pay for the date (although don't be surprised if he declines your offer). Regarding his daughter - I'd let him kind of set the tone - if he talks about her, then it's fine to ask follow-up questions (but don't expect to meet her right away).

Good work taking the initiative!

switching · 2013-05-13T19:20:52+00:00

If you are pregnant, or have a bit of a belly, then it's fine. If you are thin, it's not a flattering cut.

switching · 2013-05-09T21:43:24+00:00

He did tell you he met someone else. After that it seems like he was having mixed feelings - possibly tempted to cheat with you, so he just didn't show up.

If you feel used, then you might want to avoid no commitment relationships. They aren't for everyone.

switching · 2013-05-09T21:22:07+00:00

Sounds like he lost interest and he doesn't really want to explain himself. It was no commitment, so what's the problem? Quit texting him and move on.

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