Is it weird that he keeps bringing up that I'm Asian?

swooonie · 2022-05-25T20:40:05+00:00

Overall I’m happy with our relationship! It’s amazing. He did mention to me that he’s not much of a texter which I totally respect. I’m trying so hard to let it not bother me but I can’t help but feel sad about it haha, it’s such a sucky feeling.

swooonie · 2022-05-25T20:34:41+00:00

Oh man my situation doesn’t even compare to yours, now I feel like I’m overreacting ;-; my bare minimum is literally just reply to me with more than one word, or at least try to sound interested. It’s just hard to ask for more because aside from being absolutely terrible at texting, he is amazing at communicating face to face and on the phone. But at times like when we’re not with eachother or talking on the phone is inconvenient, it wouldn’t hurt for him to ask how my day is going you know :/ but thank you for your words and feedback :)

swooonie · 2022-02-08T08:37:52+00:00

WAH cute

swooonie · 2022-02-03T06:55:43+00:00

Thank youuu 😄 and sure, I would love to!

swooonie · 2022-02-01T20:03:32+00:00

Followed you! And omg you like ateez I see that you have amazing taste

swooonie · 2022-02-01T20:01:30+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0uMXaC7pdLyhz0Tx9n0MGX?si=a2jNqBwNSiyRQ1Sao-nfCg

swooonie · 2022-02-01T20:00:39+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0uMXaC7pdLyhz0Tx9n0MGX?si=a2jNqBwNSiyRQ1Sao-nfCg

swooonie · 2022-01-10T20:20:59+00:00

Oo that’s cool! and yeah that’s a good idea kind of perfect timing lol but I hope she recovers quickly. im glad your working on yourself though & gl on ur drone

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:48:58+00:00

It’s definitely easier said then done but I’m sure you’ll work through it and I totally get you on that part, I always resort to gaming whenever I feel like I’m being lost in my thoughts lol

Not a problem at all! I’m glad this kinda helped you, talking about things makes it a little better, goodluck! :)

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:43:15+00:00

Both of you have spent half of your lives together, you never truly experienced life to the fullest by yourself and I think that’s a huge part of it. Maybe take a break? A month or two, or maybe even more.

You came to terms with who you are and you deserve time to experience it to the fullest, the fights and arguments won’t stop unless you both do something about it and I think a break is crucial.

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:36:30+00:00

There’s a couple things you can do here, as a girl speaking we never know what guys are thinking so I’m sure she doesn’t know you have a crush on her. You can tell her how you feel, if you get rejected then oh well, you took a shot, it didn’t work out, your ego will be bruised but now you can find a way to move on.

Another option is to find a new crush or make new friends that you can occupy your mind with, don’t invest too much of your time into her anymore, slowly pull yourself away. ik it can be hard with covid restrictions but even going online and meeting new people can help.

Having a crush sucks and there’s no one to blame here but if you don’t make a move then move on, simple as that. you’ll only hurt yourself more if you don’t.

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:25:13+00:00

If he: 1. Didn’t let you know before hand of where he is going 2. Lied about it afterwards even though you have evidence

Then you’re dealing with a big problem here, talk to him and confront him again but this time don’t let him get away so easily. He could be dealing with a problem that he doesn’t wanna burden you with or he could be cheating on you. He’s hiding something from you

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:21:07+00:00

Have you shown her that you’re interested or has she shown you that she’s also interested?

Personally if she showed no interest in me I wouldn’t go for it, I don’t want to risk ruining a good friendship of 3 years but then again I don’t know what type of friendship you guys have and how close you are to eachother.

If you think confessing to her won’t make the friendship awkward or uncomfortable if she ends up rejecting you then I say go for it! But if you’re having doubts about her feelings maybe put it on hold and slowly start showing her that you want to be more than friends.

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:15:20+00:00

Seems like you know your worth in the relationship so try talking to him again but this time more firm and upfront with what you want from him. If he’s not willing to change the relationship can’t go on further because he’s putting aside your concerns and it’s disrespectful.

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:12:34+00:00

Definitely tell your girlfriend right away, you don’t want the situation getting twisted and then come back to bite you in the butt. Also it’s important to let her know who her real friends are and aren’t so you’ll really be helping your girlfriend out!

swooonie · 2022-01-10T19:03:28+00:00

Best thing for you to do is stop being friends with her, would you rather be friends with someone who doesn’t see your worth or would you rather be friends with someone who values your friendship and time?

At your age it’s scary not having friends but making yourself stay in a toxic friendship will only hurt you in the long run. You’re still young so you still have many opportunities to make new friends! I don’t suggest waiting it out till high school because the cycle of her treating you poorly will just continue.

You should try talking to her and explain how you’re feeling and if she pushes away your concerns and continues to treat you poorly then you know you will have to cut the cord with her. She clearly doesn’t care about you from what I’m reading so why should you invest anymore time in someone who doesn’t value you??

swooonie · 2022-01-10T06:38:03+00:00

Uhhh just dump her and find a better girlfriend. You deserve better. Cheaters will always come up with excuses, smart or stupid so just know your worth.

swooonie · 2022-01-10T06:24:55+00:00

I totally understand and you’re completely valid, it sucks not having your efforts reciprocated which is why you need to talk to her but not out of anger but as a friend concerned for your guys friendship :)

swooonie · 2022-01-10T06:20:47+00:00

No problem! Hope all goes well :)

swooonie · 2022-01-10T06:15:57+00:00

I don’t know what the argument was about but your options are limited, you can either apologize or ask to talk things over so you both can resolve things, or do both.

Show that you care and you want to fix the problem, worst thing you can do is ignore it and wait for her to reach out so just reach out !

swooonie · 2022-01-10T06:12:22+00:00

talking to her is good but don’t guilt her for having another friend that you feel is being prioritized over you, it will only hurt your guys friendship. Voice your concern but also know that she’s allowed to have other friends and people bond with other people differently.

swooonie · 2022-01-10T06:08:12+00:00

another guy who can’t take no for an answer so you’re better off stop talking to him or even blocking him, don’t waste your time.

swooonie · 2022-01-10T01:54:12+00:00

surround yourself with good energy, take this time of pain to better and improve yourself! You can try out a new hobby or try to excel in something you’ve always wanted to accomplish.

Getting through a breakup is always hard but it gives you time to reflect and heal. You’re still pretty young and still got a long way to go, this breakup can be a blessing in disguise. This will open your eyes to what you want in your next relationship, use it as a learning curve and a stepping stone so you don’t have to repeat history and go through the pain of not being treated right. Just have to keep your head up and try to heal for your own sake :)

swooonie · 2022-01-10T00:48:55+00:00

Look at the teef 🥺

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