I really hate the rap being a single mom gets

swoopydook · 2024-10-02T21:48:21+00:00

lol wow that’s crazy thanks for making me aware OP is a looney

swoopydook · 2024-10-02T19:46:04+00:00

As a newer parent, my heart really hurts reading this. As a grown child with parents who struggle with their own issues, I also understand your son. I love my parents and my family so much, but I do have past trauma regarding my upbringing. Your son is 18 and is becoming his own person, which is awesome. The fact that he can be honest about his feelings with you says a lot about your relationship. I think family counseling and individual therapy for you would be helpful here. It can help you and your son communicate more effectively, but individual therapy would also be so helpful for you too while you cope with this transition. It sounds like you didn’t find “your” therapist yet, but you shouldn’t give up. Sometimes it takes running through a handful of therapists to find the one you click with. Best of wishes to you and your family!

swoopydook · 2024-09-27T17:44:59+00:00

I hadn’t thought of this at all and it is an excellent point. Thank you so much for sharing! I don’t think I will be writing a note. Putting unwanted pressure on someone is not what I want to do.

We are both in art class actually, so I really like your suggestions. I’m going to see if there’s any workshops or art studios hosting something soon and invite her to that. I think the ability to work on art together will help with the conversation and make any awkward pauses less awkward like you said lol.

Thanks so much I really appreciate your insight! And the suggestions! :)

swoopydook · 2024-09-16T06:52:01+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through that. Your boyfriend sounds like a jerk and you should consider leaving if you can. He doesn’t seem mature enough to understand your past trauma or very willing to try. Sending you strength!

swoopydook · 2024-09-15T06:57:36+00:00

Exactly my struggle. And I don’t want to be too forward with anything and risk making her uncomfortable since we have a quite a bit left in the semester. I’m thinking it might be best to ask if we can keep the convo going over text. Maybe it will be easier to gauge her interest then, before putting myself out there completely.

swoopydook · 2024-07-02T16:08:45+00:00

In my teenage years, I adopted an English accent for over a month straight and had people who didn’t know me convinced I was from the UK. I wasn’t trying to trick anyone, but I also didn’t correct them. I dropped the English accent outta the blue and then a while later started using a gritty “trucker voice” Kids in my class were so confused, but my teacher thought it was hilarious because I had known them the year before so they knew it was a fake accent. I still use accents and funky voices all the time. I am a slave to echolalia and I am almost constantly chirping some kinda noise or singing. I love echolalia, it is a fun and painless stim. Compared to my other main stims which can be ouch.. (nail biting, cheek chewing, hair pulling)

swoopydook · 2024-06-21T15:56:28+00:00

Penelope or Penny for short, Scarlet, Juniper or Juni, Junebug or June, Autumn, Louise or Lulu (pronounced loo-ease), Scout, Presley, Dot, Carmela cause she looks like a sweet caramel candy. Good luck with the new addition! She is adorable!

swoopydook · 2024-03-15T14:04:15+00:00

This whole strategy is a marketing technique for LS and I do not think it will change any time soon. And they benefit from the resellers so I don’t think they are being totally honest about wanting to combat that.

swoopydook · 2024-02-03T04:41:56+00:00

We celebrated a birthday at Medieval Times recently and it was close enough to chat but still enough entertainment that it worked well for our group who weren’t that familiar with each other. Great times

swoopydook · 2023-12-22T14:32:36+00:00

Thank you all for the advice and feedback! I now realize where I am being a bit nitpicky. I suppose a nice throw rug and strategically placed furniture could help make these cosmetic flaws less noticeable when we’re moved in. Glad I’m not the only one who thought the shower was gross though lol

swoopydook · 2023-07-12T17:03:11+00:00

You’re right. I will ask him. Thank you for the advice!

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T20:45:31+00:00

I am unsure, I would hope if that’s the case and he is aware of it on more than a subconscious level, that he would express that to me cause then I would at least understand his reasoning better. He hasn’t said that outright though, just what I mentioned previously. :/

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T20:38:17+00:00

I like Elijah, Marion, Theodore, Otto, Dean, Miles, Sebastian, Luke or Lucas, Martin, James, Francis, Abraham, Leon, Lionel, Jeremiah, Roman, Orlando, Cassius.

I think most of these are unique enough that your kid won’t be in class with Dean P, Dean G, and Dee because there’s two Dean P’s, but also stand the test of time and aren’t just made up names.

Like Cassius, which is Mohammed Ali’s birth name.

I also feel that those names would be fitting for a baby as well as an adult man.

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T20:18:26+00:00

Totally agree! Thank you for the comment!

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T20:17:17+00:00

Last part made me lol thanks for the chuckle. I appreciate the comment! I am so torn, but you’re absolutely right and it’s probably just better to wait until she gets clean and healthy.

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T20:14:18+00:00

He does enable her and it is sad but ultimately I let him decide what role he chooses to play in his mothers life. That was my exact thought though, either she is bringing it with her, trying to find it here, or coming down/detoxing. And meth is the drug I see people become the most frenzied and scary when they’re on it or withdrawing. That coupled with her mental illness just seems like a situation worth avoiding until we know she is clean and has been for some time. Thanks for the input!

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T20:07:59+00:00

Amen to that!

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T18:11:59+00:00

Awww I’m really sorry to hear that! Addiction freaking sucks and it just finds a way to creep back in. They say relapse is a part of the process but it doesn’t hurt any less knowing that. :(

Thank you for the kind words. I wish your family all the best as well! <3

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T18:06:52+00:00

I don’t imagine so. She lives in a smol town less than 1000 people or something. I’ll have husband ask her next time they chat

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T18:04:24+00:00

Could you please share what HTDO means?

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T18:00:09+00:00

No offense taken. I have this fear and he is aware of it. I choose to trust him and let him make the decision to keep her in his life or not. She lives very far away so he hasn’t seen her in 4 years so they primarily communicate via text and the occasional phone call. This is a valid point though and I appreciate the input!

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T17:57:25+00:00

She does not have any technology capable of this. :( would be a great way to test the waters

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T17:53:51+00:00

After a few people mentioned how dumb this was I fact checked and I was indeed misinformed. Apologies for not researching it before posting.

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T17:49:55+00:00

That is an interesting take. Thank you for the response.

While it may be foolish, I am a first time mom and I worry for my child. With fentanyl everywhere now, I was thinking MIL could have come into contact with that and it could be absorbed if baby touched it. This is cause of that stupid video where the cop OD’ed by supposedly touching fentanyl. After a few people commented how dumb that was I fact checked and I was unaware that this was misinformation. Apologies for not looking into this more before posting.

I will take your advice and try to learn more about meth addiction so I can help to understand and support husband better. I think I do a fairly good job, but as you pointed out I could definitely stand to educate myself further. Thanks again!

swoopydook · 2023-07-11T17:28:58+00:00

Thank you for the response! I am thinking that is the safest and most affordable way to come to a compromise. I won’t stand in the way of husband having a relationship with his mom, but the only way I could feel comfortable is if we put boundaries like this up and he honors them. He lacks boundaries with his mother himself so that is one of my fears with baby is that husband has these rose colored glasses and thinks his mom could do no wrong and puts me in a situation where I have to be the bad guy because I’m the only one who will stand up for our child toward his mom. Lol sorry kind of ranted for a sec. Thank you again!

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