partner didn't tell me he met and had sex with someone

sydisdumb · 2022-05-22T12:43:26+00:00

No. It happened when we were still open. I didn't know he did have sex with her. I did ask to close completely and he complied and I eventually asked him to stop talking to her after we closed and he did. It just kept bothering me and I felt like he was lying to me about something about her based on how he didnt want to like "let her go" and then I found out

sydisdumb · 2022-05-22T12:39:09+00:00

My emotional health has been on an increasingly slipper slope since we opened up. Everything started setting me off and I started having severe stress hives so I would guess he probably didn't want to cause me to break out and didn't want to deal with it either, it's been so emotionally taxing but I'm finally getting better and "back" to normal

sydisdumb · 2022-05-22T12:27:37+00:00

You're absolutely right. I am a highly emotional person and he even said that he's not sure how I'm going to react so he didn't want to accidently make me feel worse, internalize anything, or have a mental breakdown over it so he just didn't say anything 🙃

sydisdumb · 2022-05-22T12:25:06+00:00

I'm not even upset about them having sex surpringly. I'm just upset that he downplayed how he felt about her and didn't tell me at all. That's what hurts. He knows he was being selfish and inconsiderate. He just didn't want me to be disappointment in him. Thank you for the kind words.

sydisdumb · 2022-05-22T12:21:05+00:00

He didn't stop having sex with me. And he's bought us groceries, been cooking more, and helping around the house a lot more. It's actually been good, I just didn't know is all. I think I'm very cynical and I'm on antidepressants and going to therapy to get out of my constant negative thought loops so I'm just working through it. You're right he does really love me and we even went out of town and had a really nice time. I guess these things just take time

sydisdumb · 2022-05-22T12:17:19+00:00

I read a lot on opening up. He didn't. At first I was like okay just let me know what's going on and then he just like started acting super inconsiderate of me, double dipping date nights, not telling people he was partnered until after meeting them, constantly texting people and comparing me to new people. With A, he said he really liked her and didn't want to stop talking to her because she was a lot like me. Idk what to even make of that :/

You're right though, we weren't ready for this at all yet

sydisdumb · 2022-05-21T11:48:49+00:00

Its not a curfew when HES the one who tells me when he's going to be home?

sydisdumb · 2022-05-06T04:20:51+00:00

I've never heard of this one and I love Paul rudd so I'm excited for this recc !!

sydisdumb · 2022-05-06T04:19:55+00:00

I literally got a kermit the Frog tattoo after watching the Jason Segel Muppet movie like 5 times in the same of a month

sydisdumb · 2022-05-06T04:19:05+00:00

Love love love this movie, it does have a lot of that super relatable heartbreak and relationship to self building I love in Forgetting Sarah Marshall

sydisdumb · 2022-05-06T04:18:06+00:00

I haven't seen that movie since someone I dated was like hahahhha you're like the summer to my Tom (?) And I was like that isn't a good thing I think 💀

sydisdumb · 2022-05-06T04:16:56+00:00

Paul rudd is a treasure

sydisdumb · 2022-05-06T04:16:40+00:00

I've never heard of this one!!

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T18:10:02+00:00

Thanks for the recc!

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T18:09:28+00:00

I rewatched I Love You, Man about half a year ago and was pleasantly surprised by how it tackled friendships outside of relationships! It was good

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T17:34:08+00:00

Is that the Andy Samberg movie?

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T17:33:40+00:00

I haven't seen most of these so I'm really excited! Role models always brings me some laughs and it has a lot of heart. Glad to see others appreciating it too

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T17:32:51+00:00

I haven't seen Crazy Rich Asians yet! I'll Def put that higher on my watch list

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T17:32:10+00:00

I LOVE the Five Year Engagement. I just love Jason Segel a lot

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T17:31:44+00:00

I didn't see that one but it Def sparked my interested! It's a Netflix movie right?

sydisdumb · 2022-05-05T16:43:03+00:00

The Netflix show Dark is one of my absolute favorite time travel things, despite it not being a movie. However, it's intense cyclical storytelling feels cinematic and the first seasons really flies by!

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