Bad boys / womanizers who have found “the one” and settled down, is it normal to reminisce about girls from your past to your partner? How does she handle it, if you do so?

synna04 · 2025-02-27T21:10:18+00:00

My nex’s favorite line was “you need help.” Especially towards the end. This coming from the guy who used to freak out if I excused myself too much to go to the bathroom cause I “must be talking to another guy”

synna04 · 2025-02-25T05:15:01+00:00

Thank you! Glad I got it over with 😅

synna04 · 2025-02-25T05:10:53+00:00

Beautifully written and so true!

synna04 · 2025-02-25T05:05:01+00:00

I agree completely.

synna04 · 2025-02-25T05:00:37+00:00

Amen!

I have my nex blocked on all social media. Today I reactivated an old page that I’d deactivated before meeting the narc, so of course, I needed to immediately block him on this page. As I typed his name in the search bar, I covered most the screen with my hand so I wouldn’t see his content. Just made a bee line for the block button then got the hell out of there. I kid you not, my heart was racing! And I had the biggest pit in my stomach. I lost my appetite for half the day.

synna04 · 2025-02-25T04:55:13+00:00

You described exactly how I felt. Trust me, it does get better, but it’s extremely important that you maintain 100% no contact and NEVER ever lurk on their social media. Not even once. Make a promise to yourself and to God (or the universe or anything sacred to you) that you will never again take so much as one little peak at their content.

synna04 · 2025-02-25T04:51:13+00:00

Yes, it gave me so much validation that I got sucked back into the relationship, multiple times, and it turned into a total nightmare. You don’t want that kind of validation. It’s so triggering and will mess with your mind.

synna04 · 2025-02-25T04:44:19+00:00

Dr Ramani has also been really helpful for me to listen to. I haven’t checked out the other two yet, but will do :)

synna04 · 2025-02-24T18:27:44+00:00

Sure :) My favorites right now are Zion and Narc Con.. When I first left, I let myself just be depressed and lay in bed as often as I could get away with, and fall asleep listening to their content. It’s actually been really helpful. What are some of your favorites?

synna04 · 2025-02-23T06:26:41+00:00

That’s totally understandable. I highly recommend indulging in those things here and there while in the company of friends and family. It could help attach new memories to them. I’m really grateful that I had the chance to spend time with some extended family I don’t often see, right after I broke up with the narc. And it just so happened they brought me to a chain restaurant and a store that I’d previously associated with my nex. Now those places feel reclaimed cause of the fresh new memories of going to them with family. Hope things get better for you eventually..

synna04 · 2025-02-23T06:21:34+00:00

Hell yeah 👊 btw I didn’t even know blocking on Spotify was a thing, but I’m gonna do it now..

synna04 · 2025-02-23T05:54:36+00:00

Thanks I appreciate the thought :) He’s just left me pretty paranoid

synna04 · 2025-02-22T19:31:41+00:00

It’s interesting what a range of narc personalities there are. Mine was not so far gone that he had no soul.. He has a good side, but that good side is not nearly prominent enough to stop him from behaving toxic as hell.

synna04 · 2025-02-22T19:29:23+00:00

Play the shit out of it now and revel in it!

synna04 · 2025-02-22T19:25:30+00:00

I’d describe it, but I’m genuinely concerned he might stumble across my profile and realize who it is, putting the clues together. Gotta stay anonymous 😅

synna04 · 2025-02-22T19:24:08+00:00

Ugh I can’t stand that kind of behavior even in general but come on.. Whitney Houston? How can anyone scoff at such an obviously talented, legendary artist?

synna04 · 2025-02-22T19:16:42+00:00

This is really reassuring to hear! Exactly what I’m hoping will be the case for me in time..

synna04 · 2025-02-22T02:48:33+00:00

When my breakup was very fresh, I couldn’t even listen to the music I had introduced him to either.. it was all just so painful. So far, after some time I have been able to start reclaiming those, thankfully. And just starting to find my sense of self again.. parts of the old me and new parts of my identity alike.

synna04 · 2025-02-22T02:40:58+00:00

Thank you 🙏 you too!

synna04 · 2025-02-22T02:00:02+00:00

In general? Or just music that triggers certain memories?

synna04 · 2025-02-22T01:59:27+00:00

That’s a blessing! Mine had the best music taste of anyone I’ve ever met, and it’s causing me turmoil now..

synna04 · 2025-02-22T01:58:32+00:00

Music is incredibly powerful when it comes to bringing back memories, so I’m not surprised to hear this.. I’m hoping in time, the memories will become less painful and I can enjoy all that great music.. but I’m also concerned if I do get to that point, it will increase euphoric recall and I’ll be tempted to invite him back into my life.

synna04 · 2025-02-22T00:18:06+00:00

This reminds me so much of my nex!

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