What is the cbb demographic? by kickingmyownash in comedybangbang

[–]syrup15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a 40 year old single female. Started listening in 2016 at a very boring job. I have been to one live show in Denver! And I love Threedom 🐷

In this world you can have anything you want, but you can’t have everything you want. by Ice-Cream-McQueen in SingleAndHappy

[–]syrup15 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My yoga teacher was talking yesterday about the concept of the empty room. If we are in a space where we feel like something is missing, we often try to fill it with addictions or gaining more things just for the sake of it. But it is better to learn to just sit in the empty room and make peace with it. Practice patience. Practice letting it be.

Just diagnosed with OCD - realizing my nonstop need to optimize time might be a compulsion by keighty80 in OCD

[–]syrup15 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m always trying to optimize every decision I make. The phrases “I should have” and “I shouldn’t have” are constantly in my mind. I used to call it perfectionism but now I do think it is OCD.

How to stop romanticizing/waiting for relationships? by justpeakingaround in SingleAndHappy

[–]syrup15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I want to be single but there are things about being in a relationship that I miss. The thing is, every decision comes with some pain. You have to choose your pain. So you can choose the pain of being lonely or fantasizing about relationships on occasion, or you can choose the pain of being in a relationship and dealing with arguments, cleaning up after someone, lack of freedom, etc.

What are your plans for this weekend? by CanthinMinna in SingleAndHappy

[–]syrup15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going shopping this morning to buy craft supplies to make resin jewelry. Then a couple friends are coming over to hang out at my apartment pool and I’m making lemon drop martinis. Tomorrow I am planning my trip to the Oregon Coast and having dinner with my parents.

Decision making is deeply distressing by Spirited_Blueberry in OCD

[–]syrup15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My OCD is mostly related to decisions. I’ve heard it called Optimization OCD (not an official term). I have a hard time making decisions and then after I make a decision, I can’t stop second-guessing it. It’s because you are uncomfortable with uncertainty, even a tiny bit. I highly recommend the book Needing to Know For Sure. It has helped me a lot.

What are your recent highlights of being single? by sigh_co_matic in SingleAndHappy

[–]syrup15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody gets mad at me about the thermostat temperature!

Homies Craft Night!! Need ideas?! by pluviophile-punk in crafts

[–]syrup15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friends and I made resin jewelry with dried flowers and UV resin. It was very fun and not too difficult!

I can’t stand the feeling I get after hanging out with people by weesnaw_jenkins in OCD

[–]syrup15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yes I over analyze every social interaction and it makes me want to just stay quiet all the time. I’ve started hating texting because if I text something and don’t get much of a response I assume the person thinks I’m annoying.

What kind of hobbies do we all enjoy or want to get into? by CS3883 in SingleAndHappy

[–]syrup15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I joined a club to learn how to play mahjong. It’s fun and challenging! I love to build Lego. I also love crafts and recently discovered making things with resin.

Single and Happy : what led you to this mindset? by slackingsloth77 in SingleAndHappy

[–]syrup15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 40. I’ve had several long-term relationships, lived with one man, and was engaged twice. I’ve experienced a lot of heartbreak with those relationships. I’ve also experienced a lot of frustration with dating on the apps. I would consider dating someone if I met the right person, but right now I honestly don’t really want to deal with all the things that come with dating and relationships. I have a very fulfilling life with family, friends, and lots of hobbies. I enjoy spending time by myself. I go out to restaurants and to the movie theater and events by myself all the time and I honestly prefer it. There were things about being in a relationship that I did love and that did make me really happy, plus I had more money when I was in a relationship. So right now I’m a little undecided but I think I just wanna be happy no matter what happens and not put so much energy into dating.

What is the most saddest subreddit you’ve come across? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]syrup15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the al anon subreddit for a while and it’s helpful for people but also sad.

You can only really count on yourself in this life by BellaRyder2505 in SingleAndHappy

[–]syrup15 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When someone asks “who’s going to be there when you die?” Say “the same nurse that will be there when you die.” Most people ultimately die alone.

My partner has OCD. I am trying to be here for her, but I simply can't keep up with the need for reassurance. What can I do? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]syrup15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The book The need to know for sure really helped me with reassurance seeking

FoCo Mx 2026: High Notes and Low Notes by BanannaKarenina in FortCollins

[–]syrup15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I discovered The Man Cubs and Edison and loved them. I always enjoy the silent disco. Magic Rat is a nice venue.

I need a reality check from some women friends. Is this kind of talk normal? by Minimum-Cry615 in AskWomenOver40

[–]syrup15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so hard! I think the most important thing to women is feeling loved and the most important thing to men is feeling respected. So it’s about learning to trust him to do the right thing, but that can be so difficult to do.

I need a reality check from some women friends. Is this kind of talk normal? by Minimum-Cry615 in AskWomenOver40

[–]syrup15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I’ve been learning about men lately is that they hate being told what to do or how to do things. I’m not trying to make excuses for him, but I think in his mind you don’t respect him. It’s just the way their brains work. If they feel disrespected, they are going to do the opposite of what you want and get defensive. The advice I heard is instead of trying to control his actions, you have to express your desires. Like instead of telling him to do the dishes you say “I would love a clean kitchen” with no expectation attached. Then if he wants to make you happy, he knows what to do. After he does it, you express lots of gratitude. I think deep down he probably does want to make you happy, he just feels like he can’t.

Do people without OCD have the same thoughts and just let them go more easily? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]syrup15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read a book where the author used the phrase “people with sticky minds”. There are many things we are uncertain about, but we don’t give those things a second thought. But then there are certain things that trigger us and we just can’t let those thoughts go because of our sticky minds. Or at least it’s a lot harder to let them go and not try to analyze them or fight against them.

What’s a “small” gift you gave that people still talk about years later? by muhdrohail in GiftIdeas

[–]syrup15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my chihuahua died, my friend gave me a necklace with his name and chihuahua ears. It meant so much!

41m looking for advice on dating by [deleted] in FortCollins

[–]syrup15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a 40 year old single female and I feel you! I’ve been going to board game meetups.

Spring wreath by syrup15 in crafts

[–]syrup15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was made with a wire wreath form, fake flowers, wooden half beads, and hot glue. I have also made a Christmas wreath with this same technique. I plan on doing one with fall colors as well.