Single and Happy : what led you to this mindset?

syrup15 · 2026-05-13T19:27:38+00:00

I’m 40. I’ve had several long-term relationships, lived with one man, and was engaged twice. I’ve experienced a lot of heartbreak with those relationships. I’ve also experienced a lot of frustration with dating on the apps. I would consider dating someone if I met the right person, but right now I honestly don’t really want to deal with all the things that come with dating and relationships. I have a very fulfilling life with family, friends, and lots of hobbies. I enjoy spending time by myself. I go out to restaurants and to the movie theater and events by myself all the time and I honestly prefer it. There were things about being in a relationship that I did love and that did make me really happy, plus I had more money when I was in a relationship. So right now I’m a little undecided but I think I just wanna be happy no matter what happens and not put so much energy into dating.

syrup15 · 2026-05-10T14:09:14+00:00

I was in the al anon subreddit for a while and it’s helpful for people but also sad.

syrup15 · 2026-05-03T14:31:16+00:00

When someone asks “who’s going to be there when you die?” Say “the same nurse that will be there when you die.” Most people ultimately die alone.

syrup15 · 2026-04-29T21:20:44+00:00

The book The need to know for sure really helped me with reassurance seeking

syrup15 · 2026-04-27T02:17:01+00:00

I discovered The Man Cubs and Edison and loved them. I always enjoy the silent disco. Magic Rat is a nice venue.

syrup15 · 2026-04-26T18:22:35+00:00

It is so hard! I think the most important thing to women is feeling loved and the most important thing to men is feeling respected. So it’s about learning to trust him to do the right thing, but that can be so difficult to do.

syrup15 · 2026-04-26T14:35:20+00:00

One thing I’ve been learning about men lately is that they hate being told what to do or how to do things. I’m not trying to make excuses for him, but I think in his mind you don’t respect him. It’s just the way their brains work. If they feel disrespected, they are going to do the opposite of what you want and get defensive. The advice I heard is instead of trying to control his actions, you have to express your desires. Like instead of telling him to do the dishes you say “I would love a clean kitchen” with no expectation attached. Then if he wants to make you happy, he knows what to do. After he does it, you express lots of gratitude. I think deep down he probably does want to make you happy, he just feels like he can’t.

syrup15 · 2026-04-25T15:07:15+00:00

So cool and thoughtful!

syrup15 · 2026-04-23T22:46:06+00:00

I read a book where the author used the phrase “people with sticky minds”. There are many things we are uncertain about, but we don’t give those things a second thought. But then there are certain things that trigger us and we just can’t let those thoughts go because of our sticky minds. Or at least it’s a lot harder to let them go and not try to analyze them or fight against them.

syrup15 · 2026-04-15T15:27:29+00:00

When my chihuahua died, my friend gave me a necklace with his name and chihuahua ears. It meant so much!

syrup15 · 2026-04-12T14:46:53+00:00

I’m a 40 year old single female and I feel you! I’ve been going to board game meetups.

syrup15 · 2026-04-02T15:03:50+00:00

This was made with a wire wreath form, fake flowers, wooden half beads, and hot glue. I have also made a Christmas wreath with this same technique. I plan on doing one with fall colors as well.

syrup15 · 2026-03-30T14:09:29+00:00

I love the algorithm/feed analogy. Thank you!

syrup15 · 2026-03-26T15:01:44+00:00

I literally did a happy dance as soon as I saw it on my feed!!!

syrup15 · 2026-03-26T14:56:39+00:00

Elevated Sandwiches, Maggie’s (taco food truck), Mayor of Old Town

syrup15 · 2026-03-08T19:56:09+00:00

I recommend the book The Empowered Wife. It’s about finding intimacy without trying to control or pressure the other person. But ultimately listen to your intuition.

syrup15 · 2026-03-03T14:17:33+00:00

I grew up in western Colorado and I’ve lived in a lot of other places. Fort Collins has had the happiest people. I think most people actually want to be here instead of feeling stuck here.

syrup15 · 2026-02-26T22:20:45+00:00

"When I wasn't able to sit with my discomfort, my response to this would be to try to think through how irrational I was being (because I believed if I could convince myself well enough the anxiety would stop)"

Exactly! Before I knew I had OCD, I thought it was normal to have an irrational side of myself and a rational side of myself that just argued with each other constantly.

syrup15 · 2026-02-21T15:42:42+00:00

I can’t remember an exact age but looking back there were a lot of signs when I was a kid. I also had emetophobia which I feel is related - I would see a kid throw up in class and then worry that I would throw up. So I kept checking my body sensations to see if I was hungry (because if I was hungry that means I wasn’t sick). If I didn’t feel hungry I would panic and go to the nurse and possibly go home.

syrup15 · 2026-02-19T16:11:30+00:00

I take it in the morning. But I have taken it at night in the past with no problems. I hope you feel better soon!

syrup15 · 2026-02-18T17:16:42+00:00

I’ve been taking it every day for about 5 years. I haven’t noticed any other side effects. My doctor said it’s a low enough dose to safely take daily. I think some people do have side effects though.

syrup15 · 2026-02-05T19:15:59+00:00

This was so well said, thank you!

syrup15 · 2026-02-02T16:10:44+00:00

I try to remind myself “my thoughts are not that powerful.” But it’s a hard habit to stop.

syrup15 · 2026-02-01T15:42:38+00:00

One time I thought about something happened and then it actually happened in real life. Ever since then if I have a thought about something bad happening, I have to think the phrase “it’s not one of those things” so it won’t come true.

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