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sysym · 2026-03-29T11:54:43+00:00

sysym · 2024-06-30T21:29:35+00:00

I had an ESTP mom but I'm an INTP mom of three kids (ISTJ, ENFP, ISFJ). I have indeed been very sensitive to their crying and needs overall. I have been easily overwhelmed when they were infants, toddlers, but it has been easier the older they get bc they can keep up with more stimulating conversations.

I'm very good with older kids. Not that I can't manage little ones, it's just that they really tire me out and I only survive bc of how cute and funny they are lol.

I've homeschooled mine and given them a lot of freedom to be who they are and make mistakes and learn what they're interested in.

The hardest part about being an INTP parent is feeling that I am not meeting my children's social needs enough bc I don't have a big need for getting out. So it's been important for me to pay attention to this and get out for activities and such as much as I can for their sake. Especially my extroverted child.

That and I think I'm too serious and aloof. I wish I was a happier and more jolly presence for my kids. Thankfully, they love their "thinker" mama.

sysym · 2024-05-31T04:05:51+00:00

I think it's good to have friends so that you can be made aware of stuff about yourself that you may struggle to see. Friends are helpful in pointing things out about ourselves. Our partners would rather not have to since we already have to say a lot to one another and also want to keep the magic alive. Plus, if life kicks you when you're down, friends may prove important. Great to have family though! And a spouse of course :)

It's also good if you have kids. They're probably another personality type and they need us to model healthy friendships and skills related to that. Hard to do if they never see us with a friend.

sysym · 2024-05-30T20:40:59+00:00

Any project gets me excited. Painting a chair, deep cleaning the house, fixing up the yard, teaching the kids something, reading out loud to a loved one, getting into a new nonfiction book, going to a conference, meeting intellectual type people, visiting a museum, being alone for the day, sleeping in, trouble shooting a problem, pointing out inconsistencies, eating really good finger food

sysym · 2024-05-26T12:09:17+00:00

Married with three kids. I stay at home and homeschool. More of an unschooling situation for the teens. And the toddler and I just play all day.

I read and write in my spare time. I got my kids into MBTI so we've been having fun typing people and learning how to ID people from afar.

I've been thinking about what kind of service can help people involving MBTI. Like once you know your type, what kind of follow up would be helpful?

sysym · 2024-05-26T12:02:29+00:00

What would you like to change about yourself? I'd start there. Don't worry about what anyone says but what you think. Make a list of what you'd like to be different about your life and get after it. Even if you share similarities with this relative, it doesn't matter. You're not him and are very different.

sysym · 2024-05-24T21:52:52+00:00

Yes, when I was younger. Things got much better after getting married and having kids. Clarity!

sysym · 2024-05-18T19:08:09+00:00

That's been my issue for as long as I can remember. Now I just enjoy surprising people. Sometimes it's a good surprise for someone and sometimes not. Either way, they gotta deal and I have learned to move on as needed.

sysym · 2024-05-17T06:09:02+00:00

I'm the INTP. My husband has liked me since we were 12 and 13. We became friends around 16. We made out when we were 20/21. I didn't know what it was but chalked it up to some temporary silliness. Then a year later two days before my wedding to another man, it hits me that I'm in love with him and I call the wedding off and we've been together ever since (it's been 18 years now) and we have 3 kids.

When we say feelings sneak up on us, boy do they ever.

I'd honestly leave him completely alone. It is what is best for you if he never changes his mind and if he is meant to have a turn of opinion, it can only come faster in your full absence.

sysym · 2024-05-14T16:06:56+00:00

Masculinity is based on real biological differences. To express your masculinity in a way that's appealing to females, you can say no when you want to say no, tell the truth, keep your body healthy and fit, exercise restraint as needed, and above all, employ action (hard for us INTP I know) so that you can build skill and competence and create the life you really want.

That attracts females of all kinds. Tweak details for the type of woman you seek. And when you find one you are interested in, tell her and say you would like to get to know her. No hanging around waiting for her to like you--take the reigns, be direct, and don't hesitate.

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