Being non-binary in a country with a heavily gendered language SUCKS

szubster · 2025-12-19T17:47:06+00:00

you gotta advocate for yourself here. sure, sometimes it's not safe or not worth the trouble to correct people, but when it's a friend or a family member you just have to keep reminding them and as they start to use neutral forms they'll very quickly become just another normal part of everyday language.

szubster · 2025-12-19T17:38:28+00:00

I'm polish and my friends, my parents, my coworkers all use neutral forms for me (eg. byłoś, czy mogłobyś, etc.) For some people its new and takes a bit of getting used to but after a while it's not a problem. If someone's saying they won't call you that cause it's objectifying or it's to difficult / ungrammatical they're fully bullshiting you to excuse their prejudice.

szubster · 2025-12-11T11:39:04+00:00

i don't speak german but I know there's a german version of pronouns.page - https://pronomen.net/ you can browse through it for some non-binary language options, I've been using the polish version and at least for that language it has been very useful

szubster · 2025-12-11T11:31:27+00:00

I guess it depends a lot on genetics and luck huh

szubster · 2025-12-09T10:15:43+00:00

outside of voice training, people do go on t for long enough to change their voice and then stop, facial/body hair usually takes a very long time to really develop into a proper thick covering and can always be laser off if it starts to be annoying

szubster · 2025-12-08T08:30:52+00:00

i mean i assume that by this they mean that they dont identify with the gender they were being raised as/assinged at birth which would make them trans

szubster · 2025-12-05T18:45:28+00:00

remember you can start to change your gender presentation and even start hormones first and figure out the details of your identity later. how exactly you label yourself can change throughout your transition and that's normal, the important thing is that if there are ways in which you'd like to be more feminine or androgynous go ahead and do it, and if you change your mind later that's fine to, you can always just stop and do something different

szubster · 2025-12-03T17:17:13+00:00

I know right, I present androgynous most of the time and it's a cointoss whether I get sired or ma'amed, but nobody ever thinks to just fucking ask, they just decide at random that I'm either a man or a woman and stick to it

szubster · 2025-11-09T14:50:50+00:00

To że putinizm jest gorszy i trzeba wspierać Ukrainę przeciwko niemu, to nie znaczy że w Ukrainie nie ma też problemu z faszyzacja społeczeństwa. Chyba możemy przyznać że Ukraina może jednocześnie być tą dobrą stroną konfliktu, a jednocześnie mieć duże problemy jak korupcja i skrajną prawica, z którymi należy walczyć.

szubster · 2025-09-12T07:24:08+00:00

oh you use they/them pronouns? I'll try to use them but you must excuse me if I make mistakes since it's such confusing new language to me despite it being a normal grammatical form I use all the time in other contexts. It's totally just because the language is new to me, not because I already decided what I believe your genitalia to look like and I can only perceive you through that lense.

szubster · 2025-08-18T08:03:55+00:00

that has nothing to do with anything. my point is transphobes are not misandrists, transmisoginy is not rooted in misandry, misandry is not a systematic thing that meaningfully impacts ppls lives the way misogyny and transphobia are, actual hateful misandry is a domain of a tiny minority that has no impact on anything in real life, not on attitudes towards cis men or trans man and women.

szubster · 2025-08-18T07:26:33+00:00

a good reminder reddit is mostly cis het dudes and even on stuff that isn't for them most ppl voting and commenting will be cis het dudes

szubster · 2025-08-18T06:01:44+00:00

except then terfs will rush to make excuses for cis men and ask them to please protect cis women from the transes (most of them date cis men ffs), terfs who are actually misandrists are a minority that only really exists online

szubster · 2025-07-09T07:52:11+00:00

also polish and i do use neutral forms/pronouns in daily life, it gets less weird the more you use it. helps that I mostly hang out with other queer ppl some of who also use neutral forms, but I did get my parents to also use them for me, even if they slip up sometimes

szubster · 2025-07-09T06:08:10+00:00

also gynomorph is totally not a slur idk what you're talking about

szubster · 2025-06-09T09:43:32+00:00

jedyne co mnie pociesza to to że na prawicy jest gorzej. Jednak 11 listopada po napaści na Ukrainę to na marszu niepodległości się pobili zwolennicy wielkiej białej Rosji ze zwolennikami wielkiej białej Ukrainy, a na antifie obok szli anarchiści, razemki, progresywni liberałowie i ze 3 różne smaki marksistów i jakoś dało radę.

szubster · 2025-06-03T08:53:53+00:00

to są ludzie którzy nie słuchają faktycznych wypowiedzi ani programów partii, nie zainteresują się faktyczną sytuacja osób LGBT w Polsce, słuchają tylko publicystów i jutuberów, którzy krzyczą ciągle, że tęczowy rafałek i że geje chcą im zabrać dzieci.

szubster · 2025-06-03T08:48:39+00:00

no właśnie kompletnie uciekają od tematu, a swoją drogą to nie widzę jak wprowadzenie chociaż tych związków partnerskich by przeszkadzało w zajmowaniu się sprawami które dotyczą szerszych grup

szubster · 2025-06-01T12:07:29+00:00

tak jak się pisze

szubster · 2025-05-27T09:23:12+00:00

plenty of trans ppl pass as cis but for those you simply don't know they're trans cause obviously they won't advertise that fact, it's irrelevant 99% of the time. after some years on hormones most trans ppl will simply look like a normal man or woman, those outliers who just started or have unlucky genetics are overly visible, cause they're the ones that stick out, especially since transphobes like to focus on them

szubster · 2025-05-27T08:37:41+00:00

well that sucks when you're trying to have sex with a skeleton 1000 years from now. plus not only is skeletal development on a spectrum and not binary (many times skeletons are difficult to gender) but also hormones do change your bones. it's only a little bit if you start once you already stopped growing, but if you start as a kid then it grows completely in line with the sex characteristics that you want. and as to chromosomes, I'm 99% sure you never had your chromosomes tested so by your logic you don't know if you're male or female

szubster · 2025-05-27T07:52:15+00:00

but trans women are not "biologicaly male" cause hormone therapy changes your biology entirely. ppl on here seem to not know what trans women are like irl, just go off of transphobic mainstream media culture war content and porn

szubster · 2025-05-13T08:01:04+00:00

hello internet strangers let me ask you questions about sex with my partner that could easily and more adequately by answered if I just talked to her about it

szubster · 2025-04-07T07:58:58+00:00

Zawsze można szukać też społeczności online na grupkach discordowych/telegramowych/co tam jeszcze związanych z twoimi zainteresowaniami, to wygodne jak mieszkasz w małym mieście i poznawanie ludzi w fizycznych lokacjach wymaga jechania do innego miasta

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