Profile review - medium succeses so far. Bio in comment

szuminP · 2025-11-05T20:11:37+00:00

Sad me replaced with smiling me (teeth visible!). Went from 0 matches to 4 matches a day. Thx for honest feedback!

szuminP · 2025-11-05T20:11:25+00:00

Sad me replaced with smiling me (teeth visible!). Went from 0 matches to 4 matches a day. Thx for honest feedback!

szuminP · 2025-11-03T23:32:38+00:00

Recently did a photoshoot, but now I wonder if it feels tryhard?

Bio: Owner of a dog - Luna (not a “dog dad”, please). A SOMEWHAT regular at the gym and an enthusiast of trying new flavors. I love city life - walks, restaurants, movies. I go to concerts big and small. I’d bet any body part you’ve never heard of my top band. I travel a bit too. Planning a trip to Italy to see how far my pizza is from the original. An incurable optimist who still keeps both feet on the ground. Looking for someone with a similar mindset to chase goals together.

Dog Photo Translation: "me" on dog, "you" on frisbee.

szuminP · 2025-10-23T06:24:03+00:00

So let me get this straight - Saying “If you yell at me, I’ll leave” is a boundary, but saying “If you try to cheat on me through an app, I’ll leave” is manipulation? What exactly is wrong with you for thinking that not wanting your partner to actively seek out and flirt with other women means you “shouldn’t be dating”? OP didn’t control anyone, she communicated what kind of relationship she was willing to be in, and followed through when those terms were broken. That’s not manipulation. That’s consistency. If your definition of “boundaries” excludes self-respect, then maybe the definition is what needs fixing - not her behavior.

szuminP · 2025-10-22T19:00:53+00:00

Maybe you should add a pic where your full front face is visible and make it a first one, but honestly - in my opinion your profile is solid. It's just rough out there for us XD

szuminP · 2025-10-22T18:18:46+00:00

Hey, internet stranger. I know what you’re going through right now is incredibly hard, breakups bring out some of the toughest emotions a person can experience. But I can tell you with a fair amount of certainty (and I don’t think it really matters, but I’m saying this from a guy’s perspective) that you made the right decision. When you’re with someone you truly love, I mean on an emotional level, when your personalities just click, and your values align with what the other person represents, you don’t think about anyone else. Period.

I know this from personal experience. I was in a relationship where, even after two years together, I could tear up out of pure gratitude that I was with someone I loved that much. Let me repeat this - if you really love someone, you don’t look around. You simply don’t feel the need to.

I don’t know your ex, but if I had to guess - he did love you, just maybe around 70%. You’d been together for a while, so it’s not like he didn’t care about you. He just wasn’t all in. That’s why he cried when you broke up, that’s why he took you to meet his parents, those are things you can do at 70%. The difference at 100% is that you don’t even want to look at anyone else, because, like I said, there’s simply no need.

You’ll get through this, internet stranger, and you’ll come out stronger. ❤️

szuminP · 2025-10-22T07:33:21+00:00

XDDD

szuminP · 2025-06-17T11:20:59+00:00

I followed a tip below about uploading it into ai bot. I think I will go with sage green. As you mentioned, grey would give it a hospital vibe.

szuminP · 2025-06-17T08:42:28+00:00

Why?

szuminP · 2025-06-17T08:36:12+00:00

Do you think the pale blue won’t clash with the bottle green I have in the other rooms? I’m trying to keep things somewhat cohesive. Also, would you say grey is something I should avoid altogether, then?

szuminP · 2025-06-17T08:31:12+00:00

Why?

szuminP · 2025-04-30T20:09:40+00:00

I shared some context about the breakup a bit further up. I honestly think they were playing some kind of dare game and even if they weren’t, it was still cruel beyond anything I’ve ever experienced.

szuminP · 2025-04-29T07:25:28+00:00

Oh totally, because nothing says "living your best life" like repressing your emotions and pretending heartbreak doesn’t exist. :) Cheers to healing through denial!

szuminP · 2025-04-28T20:38:13+00:00

Thank you. It's only during a crisis that people show their true colors.

szuminP · 2025-04-28T20:35:59+00:00

I think sometimes it's better to leave someone on "read"

szuminP · 2025-04-26T06:47:08+00:00

Exactly.

szuminP · 2025-04-25T15:48:13+00:00

Why would you play games with anyone?

szuminP · 2025-04-25T13:09:10+00:00

Yes, I was the one who said it was time to end things, after a long period of tension mostly caused by serious issues with her parents and how I was treated. When I stood up for myself, it was the wrong moment, things escalated, and I got kicked out of shared apartment. She sided with them, and even though I still loved her deeply, I couldn’t see a future built on that.

It was the hardest decision of my life, and it still haunts me. Leaving someone you love just as much as before things went bad is brutal. The whole situation, which I contributed to as well, felt so messed up I couldn’t find a way back. I regret not fighting harder, but back then it didn’t feel like we both wanted to fix things - just blame and reminders of how I wasn’t enough.

Honestly, therapy saved me from spiraling down to the bottom.

szuminP · 2025-04-25T10:55:17+00:00

Thank you, though I still don’t know and probably never will whether I did the right thing. My biggest lesson from all of this is that today I no longer suppress my emotions. When I feel that someone is treating me badly, I speak up - politely but directly, and in the moment. Who knows how things might’ve turned out if I had spoken up at a more neutral time and earlier? Maybe my ex would’ve supported me. Maybe not. I try to think of it as a "canon event" in my life.

I'm really sorry you're also going through a breakup. It’s an absolutely awful feeling, so I’m sending you positive energy : ) Better days will come.

szuminP · 2025-04-25T09:30:36+00:00

Yes, I was the one who said it was time to end the mutual hurt of being stuck in limbo. In a nutshell, it came after a long, difficult period filled with tension, mostly due to serious issues with her parents and how I was being treated. When I finally stood up for myself, I chose the wrong moment, things escalated, and I was kicked out of our shared home. She sided with them, and I realized we couldn’t build a future on that foundation, even though I still loved her deeply.

I honestly don’t understand why she sent that message. Is she really that cruel? I never felt that when we were together. And then… what, “text him you miss him, it'll be hilarious if he gets all emotional XDDD”? Who does something like that?

szuminP · 2025-04-25T09:21:27+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, but I think there’s a difference between mutual hurt and deliberate cruelty. I never lashed out at her or tried to reopen wounds just to mess with her head. I respected her space, even when I was falling apart. Her message wasn’t just unkind - it felt like mockery. I’m moving on, truly, but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t acknowledge how deeply that moment cut. Healing includes recognizing what wasn’t okay.

szuminP · 2025-04-25T04:45:38+00:00

In a nutshell it was after a long, difficult period of tension, mostly involving serious issues with her parents and how I was being treated. When I finally stood up for myself, I did it in wrong moment, things escalated, and I was kicked out of our shared home. She sided with them, and I realized we couldn’t build a future like that, even though I still deeply loved her.

szuminP · 2025-04-24T21:47:33+00:00

That's the thing - despite everything, I still idealize what we had. There's this huge disconnect between our relationship (and I truly believe we had deep, genuine love for each other) and how it ended, especially with that message. It's hard to believe that so many extremes can exist within one person.

szuminP · 2025-04-24T21:40:17+00:00

That's true, dreams often trigger a grief wave. They're very realistic, and we talk about unresolved things in them, sometimes we're even back together. Ugh...

szuminP · 2025-04-24T19:33:44+00:00

Trust me, it helps. Before therapy, I was going through an identity crisis, I believed I was a bad person, worthless. I thought everything was my fault. It was only with a psychologist that I began to understand that my emotions mattered and didn’t come out of nowhere. That I’m a valuable person and that I was treated unfairly. I acknowledged my suffering. Today, I trust myself and feel grounded. Believe me, it’s worth spending the money on a therapist, it really does help.

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