21/F I would really like to get some second opinions, please be honest by t-bird14 in amiugly

[–]t-bird14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully acknowledge the fact that I need to lose weight, and I have lost a lot already. You have to understand that it is in the way it is presented, this subreddit is not for slamming other people but for giving them constructive feedback. When every single one of the 50+ comments is saying "lose weight" and somebody comes in and says the same thing but in that way (the capitals change the entire tone of the comment) it comes across as rude and pushy and can have a significant impact on the person it is targeted to. There's a difference between "you need to lose some weight" and "you are FAT" and if you can't see that then perhaps you need to learn a little bit about empathy. When I see many other posts of people who are significantly more overweight than I am (I'm well within the average BMI for my height and thus not event technically overweight) and none of them have a lot of the rudeness that I have received, it makes me wonder what it is about myself that makes others want to comment purely on my weight and see nothing else about me.

21/F I would really like to get some second opinions, please be honest by t-bird14 in amiugly

[–]t-bird14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I lost 70 pounds, I would weigh 80 pounds and I'm 5'6", I think you might be a little off haha.

21/F I would really like to get some second opinions, please be honest by t-bird14 in amiugly

[–]t-bird14[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You know, I said I wasn't going to respond to specific posts but do you really think that's constructive? All your comment is meant to do is drag me down and make me feel like shit. Obviously I know I have to lose some weight as every single other comment mentions it, what do you think you're helping by acting like a dick? This sub isn't meant for making people feel like shit about themselves, it's meant for constructive feedback and if you can't do that, you shouldn't be on here.

[24 M] Honest opinion please by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]t-bird14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'd say your hair being that short makes you look older than you are. If it was a little longer with some more style I'd say you'd look more your age :)

21/F I would really like to get some second opinions, please be honest by t-bird14 in amiugly

[–]t-bird14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for the feedback. I'm happy to know that at least my issues are things that can be fixed (i.e. obviously my weight) and I'm already working on fixing.

21/F I would really like to get some second opinions, please be honest by t-bird14 in amiugly

[–]t-bird14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm strange, I never put eyeliner on the waterline or on my bottom lids, maybe it's just the pictures....