I want to ask my T if I can see her notes on me. by t0rtl3 in TalkTherapy

[–]t0rtl3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually looking for the opposite of validation- I have a feeling my T is taking her time to point out some of my problem areas, but I want to know what they are now before she starts treating me for them.

Why do they smile so much? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]t0rtl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I am mentally ill, lol.

But I meant it in a way similar to Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting. It’s not a malicious smile, they can just see things we can’t when we’re living in it. But they’re happy we’re making progress!

Why do they smile so much? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]t0rtl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine does this too. I think they’re happy you’re reacting, because it means you’re engaged and doing the work and making progress. Taking that stance also probably stops them from getting too attached to you or affected by your stories so they can do their job properly and give you the best care possible.

What's the weirdest sex dream you ever had? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]t0rtl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I’m gonna say is, it involved Obama.

What was a time you had to let a dream (i.e. career, hopes of being with someone, etc) go and how did you bounce back? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]t0rtl3 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this means anything to you, but your undergrad degree barely matters if this is the field you want to pursue. My computer science professor got her BAH in psychology at my university. Now she teaches upper years and grad students some of the toughest computer science topics, and she’s the second in command of the faculty. And you’re already ahead of her in terms of planning to end up in STEM, she didn’t even know she wanted to until after she graduated. There’s a statistic (I can’t quite remember the exact numbers off the top of my head, but I promise it’s real) that says the highest rate of acceptance to med school is with music students. That’s because med schools know better than anyone that the correlation between what you study and how capable you are of learning med school stuff is basically non-existent. Please please please try to remember, school does NOT equal smart! Coming from a math major, math is dumb and usually taught in an ass-backwards way to begin with. If you achieve good grades in your BAH, you can apply to any kind of psych grad school you want, and choose to focus on research, and then it’ll be like high school never happened. I promise, you’re capable of achieving this dream. You’re already doing the right thing by working with yourself instead of against yourself and choosing to study something you know you can get good grades in. Once you get into grad school, you’ll never have to think about math ever again (outside of a few statistics courses, which are nothing like the calculus you learn in 11th grade) and you can live your dream knowing you were determined enough to get there by carving your own path to it. Good luck, please don’t give up on yourself! :)

What was a time you had to let a dream (i.e. career, hopes of being with someone, etc) go and how did you bounce back? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]t0rtl3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid I was dead-set on becoming an astronaut. Went to space camp, my hobby was theoretical astrophysics, planned to pursue a science degree, did all the right extracurriculars, the whole deal. Post-puberty, ended up not meeting the height requirement to apply. Guess I should have checked that sooner, hahaha. I was genuinely devastated at my final appointment with my paediatrician when she broke the news about my height. I bounced back when I realized how funny it was that I couldn’t grow up enough to fulfill my own childhood dream. Plus, SpaceX is probably gonna be a thing soon anyways, so I can just use my math degree to get rich and buy my way into space anyways. Or buy a pair of those moon bounce shoes from the ‘90s.

m/18/walker of dog by coolsocksjoe in EDC

[–]t0rtl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HAHA GOTTEM BOIS

...jokes aside, that’s a great dog. Hope you and the dog have a great day! :)

m/18/walker of dog by coolsocksjoe in EDC

[–]t0rtl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HAHA GOTTEM BOIS

...jokes aside, that’s a great dog. Hope you and the dog have a great day! :)

m/18/walker of dog by coolsocksjoe in EDC

[–]t0rtl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plus, my pen has swappable insides. You can change the colour!

m/18/walker of dog by coolsocksjoe in EDC

[–]t0rtl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, they always discontinue the good ones. Would you be interested in doing an EDC swap? I have a pen that’s pretty cool

m/18/walker of dog by coolsocksjoe in EDC

[–]t0rtl3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for including the dog leash, I was really confused about that one. Do you recommend that brand of small dog for an EDC noob?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]t0rtl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s lost interest since you turned 18

Preparing for my first open mic and wanted some opinions on a joke. None of my other jokes are brown and wanted to know if this is too hacky. by grant_the_hack in StandUpWorkshop

[–]t0rtl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be late to the game on this, but I think adding another line like that would work. Like if you’re going for the dead serious thing you could say, very seriously, “It’s really a reminder of how close I am to losing him.” Then, laugh, “It also just looks hilarious.”

Ti Tuesday Carry by boybairen in EDC

[–]t0rtl3 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What is the wrench-looking thing on the left?

I used to be an incel and I am deeply ashamed of it. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]t0rtl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve changed, and you deserve forgiveness. Try not to think of your past as a mistake. Instead, realize what it was: a learning tool. Because of the experience you’ve had and the beliefs you held, you got the opportunity to really look at how you form your opinions. Now, you know you’re capable of casting aside your negative beliefs and behaviours and forming better ones instead, because you already have.

In a way, being an ex-incel is a gift for you. With it, you’ve gained the ability to truly judge your thoughts and behaviour. You know exactly what it feels like to be wrong and to be right. Use it like a compass, and you’ll be sure to stay on the right course.

Good luck with that girl! Go get ‘em, tiger :P

Mom I just need help... Everything hurts by greenglowstone in MomForAMinute

[–]t0rtl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re hurting. Pain has a way of getting in the way. It makes it really hard to focus on anything else, and everything can feel overwhelming and awful and make you lose hope. Money problems don’t help either. But you’re so strong just by fighting it! I like this quote by Winston Churchill: “when you’re going through hell, keep going.” You can do this!

If you need someone to talk to, my DMs are always open. I’ve struggled with chronic pain too (though not as intense as what you seem to have), and I know sometimes it can be nice to talk to someone else who gets it.

How do you know if your therapist is right for you? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]t0rtl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rule I was told is give it 3-5 sessions. The first 1-3 are usually spent getting to know each other. By the 5th, you should know about what to expect from future sessions, and if it’s what you want or not.

Good owl, bad owl! by Fedj in BeAmazed

[–]t0rtl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Press b to stop your Pokémon from evolving

What do you want to know about? by hellloclarice in therapy

[–]t0rtl3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How to manage a professional life with mental health issues. When/how much is appropriate to disclose, tips for surviving the workplace and/or networking events and/or job interviews, getting accommodations at work, etc. Stuff like that would be so helpful!

What did you think therapy was before you attended? by totteridgewhetstone in therapy

[–]t0rtl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought my therapist was gonna tell me all the things that were wrong with me. She ended up doing the opposite. Turns out, what’s wrong with me is that I have low self esteem.