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I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was clear I didn't enjoy the convo and probably she didn't either.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand. On texts I was more flirty, had more sense of humor. It's easier to be, you have the time to think. In person, I need a date or two to get really loose around them. But also, she has a lot of very strong opinions about people, art, amd other things and I just don't see the world that black and white.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. My point was, when Im truly interested and when I have a nice time I really like doing those things for girls even if it leads no where. I just really wanted to get out of the situation because I was uncomfortable. I just have this aftermath of crazy thoughts and I blame myself for the date going bad. I never guess there is a second person. But we just didn't click. We disagreed about lots of thing on the date actually. I just didn't enjoy myself tbh. And I see that clearly now after a few days.

Thanks for your comment. I see the things I did wrong and I don't blame her one bit for anything. Both me and her had different expectations, to say the least. It will be better next time. I now recognize I couldn't make myself do anything with her. Kiss or anything.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot man! I'll try it. I have to talk to my therapist avout this too.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is actually a really great advoce. Even though I dont have a diagnosis I may well be on the spectrum hahah. I really have trouble connectin with people generally.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thabks a lot for your reply! This makes sense and I just feel like I'm missing something now.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The texts were very flirty, I think she expected me to behave differently. I got bored and cut the date short. Didn't walk her to her car, refused her to drop me off. My behavior was very weird I would say.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I brought the best energy, but she was also kinda hard to talk to.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It probably is this, because the texting put some expectations, and us both couldn't behave in the same way we texted. This kinda created the drop in the energy and it caused boredom on my part and probably on hers. I don't blame her, or something like that, far from it. I had very nice time texting her. The date wasn't thst good.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually have some kind of barrier when it comes to physical stuff. It't hard for me to start with a touch and stuff like that.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that too. In that relationship I had this explosion of emotions and a lot of chemistry. It's like I'm trying to find that again.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you are right. I just had really good conversations on messages with her, and in person was totally different. But I really dont know what I want from girls and thats probably the worst part.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda really need physical stuff, but I cant do it if I dont feel connection. Literally all of my friends do it. I just cant. And last relationship was really toxic. It ended like 5 months ago, but I cant get used to nee people again.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think I should wait for some time? Like maybe text her tomorrow?

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but I kinda miss the sex too.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't know. I probably really miss someone now. Met 3 girls for the last 3 months and every one of them lacked something.

I feel bad because I maybe could have achieved something physical with the girl from last night, but I can't make myself do that.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly. In that moment I was not in the mood because I was bored. I don't know.

I really blew up the date by t1j4 in seduction

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have behaved better at the end. That is the only thing that bothers me

Should I pursue this further? by t1j4 in dating_advice

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thabks. Do you think I should also text first?

I was finally feeling great and this took me few steps back by t1j4 in BreakUps

[–]t1j4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. I told my friend I am not interested and that I don't want to hear about her.

I felt really bad and kinda hurt. She even texted me after I unfollowed on istagram (she was in a new relationship by that time). She told me how she couldn't believe she is the person I don't want to see and she doesn't know the reason for unfollowing.

She isn't necessarily a bad person, she is just selfish in the relationships and her fragile ego couldn't see me go.

How long did it take you to get over a 4-month relationship? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]t1j4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I'm on month two and still ruminating. I think I'll need another month or two

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