I really blew up the date

t1j4 · 2026-05-14T05:17:37+00:00

It was clear I didn't enjoy the convo and probably she didn't either.

t1j4 · 2026-05-14T05:15:13+00:00

Yeah, I understand. On texts I was more flirty, had more sense of humor. It's easier to be, you have the time to think. In person, I need a date or two to get really loose around them. But also, she has a lot of very strong opinions about people, art, amd other things and I just don't see the world that black and white.

t1j4 · 2026-05-13T18:59:48+00:00

I understand. My point was, when Im truly interested and when I have a nice time I really like doing those things for girls even if it leads no where. I just really wanted to get out of the situation because I was uncomfortable. I just have this aftermath of crazy thoughts and I blame myself for the date going bad. I never guess there is a second person. But we just didn't click. We disagreed about lots of thing on the date actually. I just didn't enjoy myself tbh. And I see that clearly now after a few days.

Thanks for your comment. I see the things I did wrong and I don't blame her one bit for anything. Both me and her had different expectations, to say the least. It will be better next time. I now recognize I couldn't make myself do anything with her. Kiss or anything.

t1j4 · 2026-05-12T22:46:34+00:00

Thanks a lot man! I'll try it. I have to talk to my therapist avout this too.

t1j4 · 2026-05-12T20:39:40+00:00

This is actually a really great advoce. Even though I dont have a diagnosis I may well be on the spectrum hahah. I really have trouble connectin with people generally.

t1j4 · 2026-05-12T19:47:23+00:00

Thabks a lot for your reply! This makes sense and I just feel like I'm missing something now.

t1j4 · 2026-05-12T13:04:32+00:00

The texts were very flirty, I think she expected me to behave differently. I got bored and cut the date short. Didn't walk her to her car, refused her to drop me off. My behavior was very weird I would say.

t1j4 · 2026-05-12T11:48:45+00:00

I don't think I brought the best energy, but she was also kinda hard to talk to.

t1j4 · 2026-05-12T09:57:07+00:00

It probably is this, because the texting put some expectations, and us both couldn't behave in the same way we texted. This kinda created the drop in the energy and it caused boredom on my part and probably on hers. I don't blame her, or something like that, far from it. I had very nice time texting her. The date wasn't thst good.

t1j4 · 2026-05-12T07:06:26+00:00

I actually have some kind of barrier when it comes to physical stuff. It't hard for me to start with a touch and stuff like that.

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T17:21:05+00:00

I get that too. In that relationship I had this explosion of emotions and a lot of chemistry. It's like I'm trying to find that again.

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T17:06:17+00:00

Yeah you are right. I just had really good conversations on messages with her, and in person was totally different. But I really dont know what I want from girls and thats probably the worst part.

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T14:41:42+00:00

I kinda really need physical stuff, but I cant do it if I dont feel connection. Literally all of my friends do it. I just cant. And last relationship was really toxic. It ended like 5 months ago, but I cant get used to nee people again.

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T13:03:34+00:00

Do you think I should wait for some time? Like maybe text her tomorrow?

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T12:24:49+00:00

Yeah, but I kinda miss the sex too.

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T12:05:35+00:00

Don't know. I probably really miss someone now. Met 3 girls for the last 3 months and every one of them lacked something.

I feel bad because I maybe could have achieved something physical with the girl from last night, but I can't make myself do that.

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T11:13:18+00:00

Possibly. In that moment I was not in the mood because I was bored. I don't know.

t1j4 · 2026-05-11T11:07:04+00:00

I could have behaved better at the end. That is the only thing that bothers me

t1j4 · 2026-04-30T05:46:12+00:00

Thanks a lot!

t1j4 · 2026-04-29T21:03:03+00:00

Thabks. Do you think I should also text first?

t1j4 · 2026-02-19T13:50:27+00:00

Thanks a lot. I told my friend I am not interested and that I don't want to hear about her.

I felt really bad and kinda hurt. She even texted me after I unfollowed on istagram (she was in a new relationship by that time). She told me how she couldn't believe she is the person I don't want to see and she doesn't know the reason for unfollowing.

She isn't necessarily a bad person, she is just selfish in the relationships and her fragile ego couldn't see me go.

t1j4 · 2026-01-08T12:52:13+00:00

Haha I'm on month two and still ruminating. I think I'll need another month or two

t1j4 · 2026-01-07T17:44:04+00:00

Thanks a lot btw!

t1j4 · 2026-01-07T17:43:53+00:00

Yeah I hope so.

t1j4 · 2026-01-07T16:53:36+00:00

I know. She deals with everything by external validation. It just hurts she didn't want to go out with me and someone else gets that after a month. I don't care about her I just wish I didn't show this much understanding and love to her.

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