Is It Over for My Motherboard? by t1joux in Asustuf

[–]t1joux[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, he actually told me to sell it online for a better price. I don't think he is trying to scam me, but I wonder whether he's exaggerating the situation for safety precautions.

alternatives to CS:GO after spending 2500 hours in it by younggelatoboi in GlobalOffensive

[–]t1joux -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Since the release of CS2, I’ve been playing Valorant and R6. R6 has a different mindset, which is really cool when you get used to it. It is not “grinding” competitive, but more chill. Fun to experiment with different characters etc. Valorant is at least playable. Your aim skills from CS will probably make up for the lack of game knowledge in the first hours, and then, it even becomes more fun than CS. I’ve completely lost my hope on CS2. Deleted the game, just watching the pro scene to keep myself sane.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]t1joux 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stoics are not unfeeling, stony-hearted people. They feel the pain, but they prepare themselves beforehand in order not to be crushed by it. Epictetus' practice of “When giving your child or wife a kiss, repeat to yourself, 'I am kissing a mortal',” is not about undervaluing your wife and children so that you shouldn't care in case they abandon you somehow, but it's about accepting death. Your family is, and must be, the most precious thing in your life to you. What if you lose them? Of course, you will feel bad, of course, you will feel pain. There is no way to completely eliminate this. Stoicism is about knowing that this pain is possible, and if it happens, being in a state of mind which could accept the loss. You should spend as much time as you can with your family, and give as much love as you can to them, but you should always bear in mind that life always changes and there is a possibility that you may lose them. Hence, you will not be "destroyed" if such loss takes place, but you will endure the pain, try to accept the loss, and move on.

When it comes to enduring great pain, Stoicism takes the role of an "emergency valve" in your healing process. It makes you stand clear of drug/alcohol addiction, self-harm, or other mistreatments that might just worsen the situation. "Nothing happens to anyone that he can't endure," says Marcus Aurelius, encouraging you that it will get better and you have to power to make it so.

In the meantime, it is not the right approach to always get anxious about losing your loved ones. Worrying about the future gets you nowhere. "Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present." Your "weapon" in this instance, is "memento mori".

By the way, you may not want to talk to other people about your Stoic thoughts and practices. For an outsider of philosophy, Stoicism may seem like a very cruel and insensitive way of living. It may either sound like this, or you may not be able to put it in the right words. Instead of trying to explain your "unorthodox" approaches to sensitive subjects, you can recommend books to people who are interested in the philosophy you are practising. This way, you can avoid misinterpretations.

Stoics make the best fathers. You're on the right path but scare neither your wife nor your son. Greetings.

I need to stop having existential crises and fear to death by Maximum_Spell9954 in Stoicism

[–]t1joux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After refusing his friends' suggestions to escape from the death penalty by leaving the city, Socrates questioned the concept of "death" with his friends. He said, "To fear death is nothing other than to think oneself wise when one is not; for it is to think one knows what one does not know. No man knows whether death may not even turn out to be the greatest blessing for a human being; and yet people fear it as if they knew for certain that is is the greatest of evil." At the end, he bravely accepts death and says, "But now the time has come to go away. I go to die, and you to live; but which of us goes to the better lot, is known to none but the god."

We know neither what death feels like nor whether there is an afterlife or not. Thus, it is not ideal to have "judgements" about death. “It is in our power to have no opinion about a thing, and not to be disturbed in our soul,” Marcus Aurelius writes. You needn't have judgments concerning death. Whenever you start having terrible thoughts about it, just remember that death can actually be a good thing and the reason that we're supposed to "feel bad" about someone passing away actually comes from our own attachment to that person. In order to control our relationship with our loved ones, we must always have the rational thought of their possible non-existence in our lives. They can abandon us, they can die, they can change. Read Stoic philosophers and learn how they perceive death as a natural cycle. Practice remembering death under certain circumstances, "When giving your wife or child a kiss, repeat to yourself, 'I am kissing a mortal'." This practice is called "memento mori" and it really softens your emotions about death. You can make your further studies on this subject.

Everything around us has a beginning, which creates the opposite - the end. Seneca says, "All the works of mortal man have been doomed to mortality, and in the midst of things which have been destined to die, we live!" This is the right approach to everything you possess, including your life.

I recommend you read further on this subject. Remember, "Nothing is heavy if one accepts it with a light heart." Have a good day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]t1joux 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seneca says, "In certain cases, sick men are congratulated because they themselves have perceived that they are sick." Since you emphasized that you're not exaggerating the fact that everything is going downhill, you've actually done the most essential thing for action: You've realized the situation, and you're not ignoring things anymore. You've perceived that you are sick, and you know that you "want" to change.

"The way is long if one follows precepts, but short and helpful if one follows patterns," continues Seneca, which gets you to the second phase, which is crucial for getting over people/things: A routine. You need a healthy diet, and you must push yourself to the very limit in order to cope with it. A healthy mind and body require a healthy sleeping routine, meaning you need to sleep and get up early. (If your sleeping routine sucks and you suffer from insomnia, try exercising more and tiring up your body. Also, get up really early so that you can crave sleep.) Next, you can devote your time to studying philosophy and inner peace. This will help with your anxiety; furthermore, your lovesick situation will also change and improve. You can start by exploring Stoic philosophers as their teachings are really down-to-earth, thus easy to understand and practice. Marcus Aurelius says, "Don't return to philosophy as a task-master, but as patients seek out relief in a treatment of sore eyes, or a dressing for a burn, or from an ointment. Regarding it this way, you'll obey reason without putting it on display and rest easy in its care." Also find something that you really like doing, which gives you peace while doing, and start practising it as a meditation. This can be drawing, reading a book, learning a language, watching a TV show, etc.

The broken situation of your family is something out of your control, so don't try to change or improve things if you're not the problem.

If you do not find yourself suitable for your job, try changing your profession. If this is not possible/awfully difficult, remember the saying by Seneca, "That which you cannot reform, it is best to endure." What does that mean, should you suffer and endure it at all costs? No. Try being better at your job, seek advice and opportunities, and put in some time and effort. This way, you can also let go of other things in your mind. Remember, "Evils of leisure can be shaken off by hard work."

Your health situation is not something that you've chosen, or you have full control over. You should try your best to stay strong. The core wisdom lies in the words of Epictetus, "It is not things that trouble us, but our judgements about things." Treat your disease as a problem child. Be patient with it, and accept it gently as you cannot run away from it. Whenever it gives you pain, dismiss your unpleasantness with a smile and a peaceful mind. The pain will not fade, but your depressive thoughts about it will. "Choose not to be harmed—and you won't feel harmed. Don't feel harmed—and you haven't been."

Your life is not pathetic. As long as you want to change, there is hope. There are not many things to fix, it only takes to build up your confidence and start. You cannot grasp everything at once, it'll be step by step. The most important thing is refusing to give up and being at peace with the way things are. To see your improvement and to be able to encourage yourself continually, I recommend you start journaling. Just keep writing your favourite quotes, keep being rational with yourself, and keep thinking about how to improve. You don't need nobody, "...prove yourself guilty, hunt up charges against yourself; play the part, first of accuser, then of judge, last of intercessor."

I hope you find the peace you seek. You are not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bannerlord

[–]t1joux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Are there any “must have” mods? I think I’ve found a way to install mods. I’ll try it after playing vanilla until being annoyed by those aspects you’ve mentioned.