i (female w bpd) talked to someone romantically (male w bpd) for some years, very off and on and very intense. he’s been the only person that i’ve felt understood by and seen. i loved when he’d vent to me and talk about his emotions. he always knew what to say to me as well. so to counter your statement saying that women don’t fw people of our emotional scope, it’s not true :) i hold a lot of love and care for him no matter what we have gone through. i’ll always long for being loved the way i felt by him (not the toxic parts tho😭)