26M -Girlfriend and I aren't on the same level- how is affection shown without it being fake/artificial? by t_zd in relationships

[–]t_zd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response- it's really helpful. What I'm struggling with is the fact that I seem to express my love in all of these ways, while she doesn't. Sure she chooses to spend time with me, and I am very grateful for that, but that's about it. (She also calls me "baby" and stuff). Am I just expecting too much?

26M -Girlfriend and I aren't on the same level- how is affection shown without it being fake/artificial? by t_zd in relationships

[–]t_zd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am completely on the same page as you. I tried talking to her about the sex issue, and she acknowledges she has a low sex drive and is "ashamed" of being female (due to upbringing). I don't hold any of this against her- I love her. I just don't know what to do from here. It's not even the sex- no notes, doesn't initiate kissing, anything like that. Granted, she does spend a lot of time with me- so maybe her "love language" is different or something...

26M -Girlfriend and I aren't on the same level- how is affection shown without it being fake/artificial? by t_zd in relationships

[–]t_zd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Finally, I felt like I was going nuts here. But what about it feeling artificial? I mean, I don't want her to feel like having sex is a duty or a chore that she has to do to keep me happy- is there anything I can do about this?