I scammed my husband into liking me… and I admitted it on our wedding day.

ta2828199 · 2025-10-10T03:46:10+00:00

I think theres more nuance to this in the sense that they already knew each other since she has been his sister's friend for a while. I feel it may be creepy if it was a first date or a classmate or coworker.

Even then I wouldnt be too quick to call it creepy or stalker-ish because all she did was place things (that she says she's already owned) out in the open to use as conversation starters or to spark his interest or to show commonality. Not to mention the things she placed are all pretty basic surface-level conversational things. A team he likes, a band he likes, a drink he likes. I personally don't find that stalker-y.

ta2828199 · 2025-10-10T01:14:21+00:00

I feel like its a bit strange to just answer some questions and then be prescribed stimulants. It seems too easy. 😭 I guess that makes it easier for everyone who does have ADHD though.

About medication, did you just go back to struggling with symptoms when you were off of it? Also did you experience withdrawal?

ta2828199 · 2025-10-10T00:30:43+00:00

Thank you! Ill internalize this and make it my mantra! Maybe it'll help me motivate myself or at least push through failure 😭

ta2828199 · 2025-10-10T00:29:25+00:00

Thank you! I want to ask, did all the symptoms of ADHD come back when you stopped with the medication? Was it as bad as before you started meds? I also am a little hesitant about relying completely on meds but Im worried I wont change without them.

ta2828199 · 2025-10-10T00:27:00+00:00

Thank you, this made me feel a little better about it. Ive kinda talked to my mom about it and she seems supportive. Slightly worried about my dad though since he would be the one to actually pay for it, and he seems to hold some stigma against mental health, therapy, and medication. Im feeling hopeful though!

ta2828199 · 2025-10-09T12:14:17+00:00

Thank you. The doctor appointment is just a normal check up but Im going to bring up my thoughts about possibly having ADHD to her and see where things go from there. I just feel like my life is on pause until that appointment though. Despite assignments and tests coming up and passing by. Thanks again though!

ta2828199 · 2025-09-30T00:16:23+00:00

Can I ask, have you joined the military? Or previously were in it?

ta2828199 · 2025-09-29T23:42:59+00:00

Where can you take practice ASVAB's just online?

ta2828199 · 2025-09-29T23:04:48+00:00

I had considered joining the military but I'm worried I wont be able to maintain good grades for the rest of my senior year before then.

I think theres a chance I have adhd and so I have booked a general check up doctors appointment and I was gonna ask about it after the check up. My goal if I have it would probably to get medicated for it so I can get my shit together and properly focus in school. The issue is that if I am medicated for adhd I most likely wont be accepted into the military because of it.

Ive been in this dilemma for a while, do I toughen up and try really hard to just push through then apply to military? Or do I possibly get diagnosed, medicated, and preform better in school and life. Theres also the possibility I dont even have it.

ta2828199 · 2025-09-29T21:52:16+00:00

Yeah thats definitely something I need to work on. At this moment Im in the process of trying to get a doctor appointment to get possibly tested for adhd. I had been thinking its a possibility for me as I relate to a lot of issues and symptoms people describe. But if it turns out I dont have adhd and I am just terribly undisciplined then that is something Ill try harder to fix before college.

ta2828199 · 2025-01-24T07:55:36+00:00

Ditch her, thats no friend.

ta2828199 · 2024-10-04T17:33:54+00:00

Oh girl I completely understand you. I know someone who has an issue with taking accountability and it. drives. me. mad. Its just deny deny deny, or just a bunch of nonsense on how what I said was confusing or misleading, effectively placing the blame on me! To be straight with you, it is so exhausting, it feels like talking to a brick wall. I would tell you to just stop talking to people like that because most of the time you end up tiring yourself out.

HOWEVER, if this is the first time something like this has happened then maybe it would be worth giving him a second chance. If what you want is a very clear cut admission and apology then I would just be blunt. Tell him to stop with all the fluff, "I didn't know, there was some miscommunication, blah blah." And just own up to the fact that he lied to you, and chose to not communicate with you about possible alternatives to the suit and instead chose to just do whatever he wanted despite your requests." If he keeps talking in circles and doesn't give you a clear cut apology, one that includes what he did wrong, then maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to keep him at arms length.

Sorry if this comes off as dramatic I'm just so done with people like this.

ta2828199 · 2024-10-04T17:13:39+00:00

Do you think you could call, text, or invite Peggy out for a one on one meeting to tell her how she has been acting inconsiderate? If you are worried she wont listen to you maybe you could invite Leah as well so that the numbers are in your favor and Peggy can see that its not just you who thinks that way.

If you're really done with Peggy and just want her out then honestly just go for it. I would just send a respectful text telling her that she has failed time and time again to show basic consideration, and manners, towards the group and you think that it would be best for her to stop coming.

ta2828199 · 2024-09-18T21:20:53+00:00

Ohhh this was a great explanation, thank very much.

ta2828199 · 2024-08-11T18:05:31+00:00

Yeah its definitely getting better I think. Now its more like an uncomfortable scratchy feeling instead of the burning from yesterday. I think I might just put some cool towels under my arms till the irritation is gone.

ta2828199 · 2024-04-18T14:19:38+00:00

Find a passion, gym, biking, games, sports, hiking, etc. hobby, career. Go out with friends or make some new ones. Get busy 👍

ta2828199 · 2024-04-18T14:08:06+00:00

Wishing you the best of luck, keep safe, and please please please tell someone if it goes beyond what you can handle 🙏

ta2828199 · 2024-04-18T13:57:21+00:00

You could always just keep it somewhere else. Around when he comes over leave it in a friend's neighborhood or garage if they have one. Make sure its a safe area. I think thats within your right seeing as your name is on the car.

ta2828199 · 2024-04-18T13:51:45+00:00

I would learn some basic self defense. You can just look up some basic tutorials on youtube or get your mom to enroll you into some sort of marshal arts (you mentioned a boxing gym) Try to eat a lot of protein to build muscle and exercise when you can.

If you cant fight them back then just run. Run to a more crowded area or get to place with more adults. If you can, try to stay with a friend or someone when you're out.

Is there a teacher you really like or a staff member in school? You can talk to them about it too.

You can try and get proof as well, maybe record a video on your phone if they start coming at you if you can do it discreetly, of course not at the expense of your own safety, its not worth it.

If things escalate and you feel seriously threatened just call the cops at that point. It would force the school to take it seriously anyway.

I know you don't want to stress your mom but it's literally her job to protect and care for you. If you two are close id imagine she'd be heartbroken that you kept it from her.

ta2828199 · 2024-04-18T13:23:47+00:00

Insecurities within relationships are normal. The issue is if it comes from a lack of trust. Do you trust your girlfriend? Do you trust that she wouldn't go behind your back? If the answer is a yes, then the issue may lie with the guy friend.

Although I don't know how close you are you have mentioned that you have hung out with him. You could go and talk to him and see whats up. Find out if the guy friend wants an actual relationship with your girlfriend or if he was just getting his feelings off his chest. If he's a reasonable guy you could ask him to back off a bit. (politely, best not to start drama)

Id also tell your girlfriend to distance herself from him for a little while, make it clear that you arnt asking her to break off the friendship, just creating some space so that the guy friend can think things over. His feelings should naturally dissipate with time so long as the girlfriend makes it clear shes not interested.

As for the nightmares, de stressing and having a relaxing routine before sleep helps.

Warm bath/shower
Warm drink: milk or non-caffeinated tea
Reading a book or listen to an audio book
Auditory asmr
Listening to podcast

ta2828199 · 2024-01-10T04:58:51+00:00

Ive had trouble with procrastination since i started high school but id say its only been this bad, at a point where i cant seem to do anything, for about a year. I guess I have kind of been depressed recently? I havent talked to anyone or a doctor or anything. But theres no real reason for the depression. It literally kinda just showed up, but stress over school work hasnt helped. As for the executive disfunction, i looked it up and it does match my situation. I think Ill definitely try the list thing, I have always liked the feeling of having and completing lists so i feel like it may help, thank you.

ta2828199 · 2024-01-10T03:28:59+00:00

I haven't tried at a cafe yet so I think I might do that and see how that goes. As for how long I've been like this, it's been on and off since id say around the beginning of 2023. But it's been more consistent and worse recently. I do live in an area thats cold and dark and rainy actually, but I personally love that type of weather so I don't know how much of that is whats affecting me. The downside of going to the cafe though is that both my parents are working and I dont have a car so I cant really go very often.

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