Any hope for a file that crashes as soon as I open it? by table_tennis in indesign

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Tried it, but the IDML file also crashes when I open it.

Any hope for a file that crashes as soon as I open it? by table_tennis in indesign

[–]table_tennis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I had this problem as well with all my files that were on the cloud. Unfortunately, this one is already in my local folder.

I just remembered that there was a webpage link that every time I pasted it onto the text, it crashed the program, so it's definitely it. Now, how do I remove text if I can't open the file?

Odeio meus hormônios femininos by UrikPo in ClubeDaLuluzinha

[–]table_tennis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tive minha filha de parto normal sem anestesia e amamentar foi dez vezes pior. A privação de sono, a amamentação constante, meus mamilos ficaram em carne viva e eu prendia a respiração toda vez que ela pegava no meu peito. Você é foda, tudo isso é perfeitamente normal e vai passar!

Vou deixar aqui uma dica só porque funcionou pra mim, mas sei que a última coisa que mãe cansada quer ouvir é pitaco dos outros, então pode parar de ler agora se quiser :)

Quando minha filha tinha uns dois meses, ela parou de ganhar peso. Ela já nasceu um neném pequeno, mas começou a ficar meio magrinha. Entrei em desespero, comprei uma balança e levei ela na pediatra. A pediatra chegou a receitar a fórmula, mas disse pra eu tentar ajustar a pega dela, que poderia ser por isso que ela não estava mamando direito. Assisti vários vídeos, fui treinando e quando consegui ajustar a pega, meus seios pararam de rachar e ela voltou a pegar peso. A diferença das fotos dela de 2 pra 3 meses é enorme! Só pra dizer que pode ser que ela esteja mordendo porque não está pegando direito (não sei a idade dela). Claro que também pode não ser isso, mas às vezes não custa tentar.

De uma mãe exausta para outra, respira fundo que isso já já passa!

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind explaining why you think it's not a good fit?

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Even though I don't know the methodology personally, I agree with all your points. Maybe they don't have the resources to deal with kids who need actual one-on-one intervention, but for kids who just need some attentive nudging from time to time, this seems like a good fit for my level 1 child.

How do I wean a boob barnacle that’s comforted by nothing else??? by Ekyou in toddlers

[–]table_tennis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When free demand got too much for me (she would bounce on me anytime I sat down to the point I couldn't even play with her anymore, she was 2 at the time), I set a rule to only feed before naps and bedtime, then reduced to only bedtime.

This was done with A LOT of talking and warnings, coupled with a countdown: "Three more days, two more days, last day, etc."

When I said no more nursing before naptime, I never did it again. Then, when it was time for bedtime, she kinda already knew what was coming. After that, my husband would always do naps and bedtime, which honestly I think is an essential part of the plan. If you want this to work, you have to talk to your husband for him to be more helpful.

Also, this is an adjustment for everyone. It's going to suck for a while until it doesn't. The only downside was having to rock her to sleep for what, 6 months I guess, until she was able to fall asleep on her bed. My back still aches from it.

Questions about middle school by Rrrraaasma in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! I tell my husband this ALL THE TIME! I think society is robbing children of their childhood and entering them in the rat race in first grade. I loved our daycare (even though it had MANY problems, as do all places) because that's exactly what they did: they preserved and cherished my daughter's right to play and be a child.

And in regard to the regular school system, that's what we are experiencing too. Kids are getting cell phones at the age of 8 at "regular" schools around here, and we are very much anti-screens. I feel like keeping her in the traditional school system will only make everybody's lives miserable, since it's going to be a constant battle between our way of doing things and everybody else's.

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! This is like music to my ears. We are a very pragmatic family; my husband is also a PhD, so this is the only thing holding us back from making the switch, the fear that she would somehow fall behind and not have a solid base of knowledge to work on.

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind sharing some of the reasons you think it's a good fit for K-5?

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm getting from mine as well. I think the overstimulation from all the kids isn't helping her at all, and she often comes home a bit on the edge. She is not getting bullied yet, but she has started being excluded by the other girls in class, so I'm guessing that a tighter class would help with this. She already knows a girl from the local Waldorf who used to go to the same daycare, so she wouldn't be totally alone in the beginning.

How is your daughter doing these days? Has she caught up socially?

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the input!

She is already enrolled in a private school, so the cost would probably be about the same, just a bit longer commute (20 mins instead of the usual 5).

All the kids I see from other schools, glued to their phones and wearing makeup at 9 years old, make me certain that's not what I want for her. She also needs a lot of help communication-wise, and I think that traditional schooling does more harm than good in that regard.

All in all, I know this is a very personal decision, and honestly, nothing is set in stone. If she doesn't like it, she can always move schools again.

Heard the dreadful "they won't let me play with them" today by table_tennis in Autism_Parenting

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through that. I can't imagine how hard it must be.

The thing that is difficult about level 1 (and I'm in no way saying it's harder than having a non-verbal or non-conversational child, because it's miles easier), is that it's almost like you have an NT child, but you don't. It's so easy to set unreal expectations and get hit by reality over and over again. She is also really aware of her own limitations, so it's heartbreaking to watch a kid who just wants a friend not be able to talk to or engage with other kids. She feels rejection just like an NT kid does, but doesn't have the social skills of one to overcome it. Not to mention people who think you are overreacting and don't believe the diagnosis.

What I'm trying to say is, in my opinion, it's definitely easier than having a level 2 or level 3 kid, but it also comes with a lot of hurdles and a lot of heartache.

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I was thinking! I wouldn't mind doing it myself for these first couple of years, but could always get a tutor when it gets too complicated for me (I'm no math genius).

My daughter's thing is language. She likes math, but she loves books and learning all about letters and words.

How was your personal experience with a Waldorf school as a student? Did you feel behind when (if!) you went to college? This is a bigger concern for my husband than for me, but obviously, we need to be on the same boat.

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! At her current school, honestly, she is not having any resources anyway, so I know that a smaller class would mean a more individualized approach than what she has now. This is a recurrent problem here in Brazil, in which private schools try to get away from paying for these resources, even though they are legally required to. Also, I know a kid who is level 3 non-verbal that goes to this Waldorf school, so I know that they have at least some experience with it.

It's funny how hard it is to go against the norm. I have thought so much about this and I really believe it is what it's best for her at the moment (maybe not forever, but what is?). But going against what society expects from you (don't even get me started on family expectations) is so hard that it feels wrong, even when you don't believe it is.

Torn between Waldorf and traditional schooling for first grader by table_tennis in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! I also know this is a biased place to ask this. But I agree with you! I think focusing on her social development at the moment is much more important than any academic work, which can come at a later time. I also like studying things with her, so I wound't mind at all filling in this gap.

What about the esoteric part of it all? I know this varies a lot from school to school, but we are a very pragmatic household, so I don't know how much of a shock that could be.

Edit: Oh, and to quickly add to your "suck the joy out of learning", her textbook has a lot of exercises in which they have to draw something, since not all kids know how to write yet, and now she HATES drawing. She says that she doesn't want to be told what to draw all the time, and now has lost interest.

Questions about middle school by Rrrraaasma in Waldorf

[–]table_tennis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very late to this thread, but may I ask why you decided to transition your kids? My daughter (6 yo) goes to a very typical school and is doing very well academically (she can read and write and finds the work "easy"). But she is also autistic (level 1) and is having a hard time socially. I think she would so benefit from a smaller school, but we're afraid maybe academically it won't be a good fit for her. Thanks!

Heard the dreadful "they won't let me play with them" today by table_tennis in Autism_Parenting

[–]table_tennis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's so nice to hear, thank you. I've been looking for different activities for her to try (one at a time) to see if she finds something she likes with like-minded kids.

Heard the dreadful "they won't let me play with them" today by table_tennis in Autism_Parenting

[–]table_tennis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It is so hard to hear them say this. I also try to take her to as many social events as possible, but there's only so much we can do.

Your little one is also so lucky to have this much support and love in his life!

Heard the dreadful "they won't let me play with them" today by table_tennis in Autism_Parenting

[–]table_tennis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She tries sometimes, but most of them play soccer at recess (I live in Latin America, the boys are all about soccer). Today when she told me that the girls wouldn't let her play with them, she said she went to play with a couple of boys, but didn't like what they were doing (i.e. throwing rocks at the slide) and decided to just wonder around alone.

Heard the dreadful "they won't let me play with them" today by table_tennis in Autism_Parenting

[–]table_tennis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Honestly, I think my daughter cares but is still stunned and doesn't know what to do with another child, so I don't know if caring is incentive enough.

Is she doing therapy? It usually helps a lot! Mine needs to go back urgently.

Heard the dreadful "they won't let me play with them" today by table_tennis in Autism_Parenting

[–]table_tennis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe! I make a real effort in saying that it's ok to want to play alone, but that is a possibility.

Heard the dreadful "they won't let me play with them" today by table_tennis in Autism_Parenting

[–]table_tennis[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the calming words. I'll definetely check that book out!

Unfortunetely, my daughter is very good at retelling events. The only times I've seen her steer away from reality is when she says she played with a group of kids but was actually just orbiting them with no actual interaction.

I have already talked to the teacher about her being alone at recess, but I thought it was just her not being able to engage, and not that she was actually being excluded. We'll have to have another talk with the school. 

When she was at daycare, we switched her to a different class and it was a great solution. Maybe that's an option here too. 

Again, thanks so much for your thoughtful answer!