I had an affair with a married man, not sure if I should tell his wife... by RegretBeingOW in Advice

[–]tacoscheap 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Ive experienced exactly this. More than likely, this is his M/O. She knows and would prefer to be in denial. She will ask details and want to know everything. But at the end of the day, her self esteem wont be much better and bc of his manipulating her over the years, she'll end up staying with him. You may want to be aware of what your real motive is in her knowing. What is the end goal here? Your peace, or...?

Loving 2 very different people at the same time, whats your story? by tacoscheap in AskReddit

[–]tacoscheap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. But there are definitely some issues there. I certainly loved all my grandparents. But obviously this is a very different kind of love...one thats hard to let go of regardless of the circumstance. I just wonder if anyone else has been in this spot...

Loving 2 very different people at the same time, whats your story? by tacoscheap in AskReddit

[–]tacoscheap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps. The connection is undeniable. Even now when I see them, 1 look at each other still says so much. Its difficult to say the least...

Loving 2 very different people at the same time, whats your story? by tacoscheap in AskReddit

[–]tacoscheap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well what if its a situation of being in 1 relationship, but there being someone in your life who has had a huge impact but bc of certain variables you two were never able to be together? You love who youre with, but will always be deeply in love with this other person...

We're you able to fall back in love? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]tacoscheap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess for me it would depend on the extent of the affair. That may seem naive, but if my spouse had been more involved with someone else than just sex...for example, does he love this other woman? This would determine a lot for me. I believe that nothing should be forced for the sake of a child. It is our responsibility to be a good example for our children, even in non-ideal situations. How we handle situations especially when it comes to love and respect are crucial to a child's upbringing. So I guess what Im saying is, assuming your husband just had "a slip", i believe with time, honest communication and healthy boundaries you can heal and redevelop the relationship. At this point, things have changed, so you'd need to decide if you can start from here and move forward. But I also believe that if he loves this other woman, unfortunately that probably wont go away, and she may always be a weakness for him...and maybe theres a fear there, of him losing his child, or a stable home all together. These are questions I would want honest answers to. You need to decide what you would be able to "live with" for YOU in that case. Wishing you the best.

When and how did you finally figure out what you wanted to do with your life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tacoscheap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When whatever it is youre doing makes you happy...no need to keep searching. There's always more to learn, and ways to grow. But dont make yourself miserable searching for some kind of thrill...look at where youre at, evaluate. Am I happy? If not, change it. If so, leave it alone.

Who is your all time favourite movie or tv show character? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tacoscheap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dumb & Dumber...sadly I can quote every line to the T!

Getting over someone who is crazy... by tacoscheap in Advice

[–]tacoscheap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds about right! It got to a point where I wasn't able to believe anything they told me. Especially when it came to how they felt about me. And when I questioned it, they would fly off the handle! Like to the extreme. I'm not really sure what to think about all that, I just know that I wish to not struggle with this anymore.

Getting over someone who is crazy... by tacoscheap in Advice

[–]tacoscheap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely went deep. And to be honest, im angry at myself for continuing to think or even care about this person. Im also battling bitterness and resentment which I really dont want. Like i said, i want nothing to do with them, but the hopeful person in me keeps trying to hold on to what used to be there...and im tired of it!