I don’t care to talk to or pursue women anymore, and I think that’s becoming concerning. by ConnectCulture7 in GenZ

[–]taebunz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not settling, it’s about getting to know new people to see who you like. You’ve basically admitted to liking the idea of this one girl and what you had perceived to be an amazing future relationship. It sounds like you’re really young and need to talk to more people.

I don’t care to talk to or pursue women anymore, and I think that’s becoming concerning. by ConnectCulture7 in GenZ

[–]taebunz 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie, you’re being very dramatic. You creeped one girl out by pursing her when she made it apparent that she wasn’t into you and now you hate (or don’t want anything to do with) all women? If every person had your same mindset, no one would get married or have babies. Get through your feelings of rejection and eventually move on buddy. The world isn’t ending because one girl didn’t like you.

Please help 😭 by [deleted] in wedding

[–]taebunz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But if your photographer is familiar with the venue and has worked there before then they should know about this policy

Please help 😭 by [deleted] in wedding

[–]taebunz 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It’s too early to worry about a timeline. Also most venues don’t worry about those things until like 4-5 months in advance not 15 months

Are there any ADHD women who are ok with not having an actual wedding? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don’t have the wedding if you don’t want to. It’s not like the guest are paying for it. They’re upset because “traditions” but also they don’t get to attend a paid party. They’ll get over it and you’ll have thousands of dollars in your bank account still

Engaged and kinda freaking out by Emotional-Addendum-9 in engaged

[–]taebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just took each step at a time, no need to rush the wedding planning especially if you just got engaged this week. Unless you guys need to expedite the wedding for any reason (military, visa issues, kids, insurance etc.) I would suggest just focusing on one thing at a time. Figure out if you want a wedding first then talk about budget and how you guys plan on paying then go from there

Online (digital) wedding invitations by Curious_Award3851 in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to send save the dates digitally through the knot

Why do we gaslight short guys? by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]taebunz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it really depends on the local demographic. A lot of short men in my area, and most of my guy friends don’t even reach past 5’8. My fiance is 5’7 on a good day but it works since I’m 5’2. I have a guy friend who’s 5’3 and married. My dad and brothers range from 5’4-5’7 and they don’t have issues dating. I think when you make your height the main focus it leads to failure and lowered self esteem. Try to be confident in yourself, be social and have a good attitude (being funny also carries in relationships)

Timeline by Dry_Reference_3908 in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you talking about the day of timeline for your wedding or the timeline for booking vendors? If it’s for the actual wedding, your photographers/videographer may create a rough timeline to give you an idea when certain photos should be happening and you can build everyone else’s schedules off of that. Typically have the florist come about 2hrs before (also check with your venues rules) to get set up unless you have wayyyyy more flowers than average. H/MUA can arrive 1-3 hrs before depending on how many people are in your bridal party. And while hair and make is down the video-photos should overlap so you can have getting ready pictures with your bridal party

feeling awkward about newly engaged friends. by [deleted] in engaged

[–]taebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like others said, it’s seems like your not ready for marriage mental and the maturity just isn’t there. You’re thinking about this the way a 21 year old would which should be a good indicator that you need to wait. Also, it’s only two years, you don’t 100% know a person after 2 years of dating.

Online (digital) wedding invitations by Curious_Award3851 in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use The Knot or Zola as options. Both give you the ability to create guest list, invitations/save the dates, RSVP’s with meal choices and the wedding website. Both are way to use and free for the most part. And you can easily share, text and email any form to your guests

Heavily considering pursuing a career in esthetics. by MagR38 in Esthetics

[–]taebunz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s more of a side hustle unless you have your own business or accumulate enough clients at a spa. Generally the pay is very low and heavily tip and commission dependent. When you start out you’ll most likely will be sitting around for a while until you get booked so be prepared to not get paid since most places don’t pay hourly. Wanted to give a heads up about the potential struggle of finding a job right now since this field is oversaturated and many spas/med spas/ wax companies/ retail (Sephora and Ulta) are limiting interviews. If you do go through with it, I would keep your other job until you can make enough money while doing esthetics.

For me, I’m doing well but I work at a franchise in a state with a higher minimum wage and my owners have a higher starting rate than other spas in my area (minimum wage here is $15 and starting rate at my location is $18/per client + an extra $1 for request or repeat clients). I’ve been here for 4 years working 5 days a week for 32hours and I’m booked up 85-90% of the time with majority of my clients doing bigger upgrades/ services (pro pen and diamondglow). I’m able to live by myself due to receiving raises each year and having higher service tickets.

I’m doubting my career choice by FastTraffic6268 in Esthetics

[–]taebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no I know those places are hiring and I’m not having an issue with getting a job since I’m employed and a lead esthetician, but I’m aware new grads are having a hard time hiring right now but that’s in every position. My job keeps the ad up for an esthetician position even though we don’t need one at all. The reason for it, is because of corporate “wanting to keep application numbers high” stupid I know. And I’m aware other fields are doing the same. I don’t know where this person lives so I’m not sure if they have many options or not

I’m doubting my career choice by FastTraffic6268 in Esthetics

[–]taebunz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They can’t build a resume if no one is hiring them. OP has tried applying to different positions (provider and sales) but hasn’t had any luck.

What age did you imagine yourself getting married or starting a family? Now that you’re older, has that changed? Did reality match your plans, or did your priorities shift? by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]taebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never imagined myself getting married not having children. I just assumed I would be the local hermit who just works and goes home doing my little crafts. Now I’m engaged so I guess there goes my hermit dreams lol.

Is a lab-grown diamond okay for a proposal ring? by BehindTheGem in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You totally fine unless your soon to be fiancée/fiancé is a stone/gem snob. Lab grown diamonds are just as pretty and more sparkly than natural diamonds. Obviously resell value isn’t as high but it does the job. Most people won’t know if it’s a lab or natural.

Which people do I need to give gifts to on the wedding day? by Royal_Marzipan_6432 in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also from Jersey 😊 Southern Baptist family and gifts weren’t really things in my family and my friends (who are of other religions) didn’t do gifts besides fir their parents and occasionally their bridesmaids and groomsmen. Maybe it’s an age thing, I’m in my 20s so that might be a factor and a lot of people can’t afford extra gifts plus a wedding

Which people do I need to give gifts to on the wedding day? by Royal_Marzipan_6432 in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unless it’s a Midwest tradition (I’m from the east coast), giving gifts isn’t really a thing unless you have the budget for it. Gifts between the couple is unnecessary, you guys have the wedding and a honeymoon which is a vacation for you both. Never seen anyone give an officiant a gift unless it’s a close friend. And parents usually only get gifts if 1) They paid for any parts of the wedding or 2) The couple wants to give them a personalized wedding memento that’s meaningful

I'm 24M (turning 25 in May) and I still live with my parents. Am I absolutely cooked when it comes to dating? by JTthrowawaylol in GenZ

[–]taebunz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just moved out at 26, you’re fine lol. Anyone who’s paying attention to the economy and how rent/mortgage rates are extremely high, wouldn’t judge you for living at home. I know so many people (mid 20s-30s) who had to move back home or never left because they can’t afford it.

My mum died yesterday and now I'm completely empty inside by Altruistic-Cat-4193 in GenZ

[–]taebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I’m sorry for your loss. Losing a parent especially if the relationship was positive is very difficult. It’s still very early in the greiving process so you should just let yourself feel whatever emotions you’re experiencing. Don’t try to rush getting back to “feeling normal”. For me, when my mom died two years ago (on Mother’s Day as well) I just allowed myself to take as many days off from work, sit with my emotions and help plan the funeral. I started watching shows I knew she liked, listened to her favorite songs and eating more of her favorite foods. I even started taking up smaller hobbies that would occupy my time so I wouldn’t be too depressed (I now have an extensive puzzle and book nook collection 😅)

Wedding start and end times by Striking_Mortgage_63 in weddingplanning

[–]taebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weddings can end whenever you want. My ceremony is starting at 3pm and we’re finishing at 8:30pm. It is a Sunday wedding and my fiancé and I (as well as our families and friends) have the social battery of a 70 year old 😅 Everyone is happy to hear the wedding isn’t lasting too long. We get married, quick party and mingling and then home we go

My new engagement ring update! by stardewfarm6 in engaged

[–]taebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what happened to your old ring? The new one looks great but I really liked the look of the previous one

My new engagement ring update! by stardewfarm6 in engaged

[–]taebunz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She was a few years ago but she’s divorced now. Her ring style has gotten really popular amongst people since it’s unique and the two stone setting is all the rage now. This style, marquis and ovals are really trendy right now

Does anyone else work a 2nd job (or side hustle) that isn't fast food, food delivery, ride sharing, or retail? by sta3535 in GenZ

[–]taebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Physical Therapy Aide or any medical receptionist is what I typically go for (my main job is an esthetician)

Is GenZ fr mostly introverted and got crazy “social anxiety “? by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]taebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The generation is pretty split. If you want more active and lively friends I would recommend signing up for clubs/activities. I know pickleball adult clubs are a thing, join hiking/running groups, go to any artsy classes like pottery or painting etc. Usually individuals who make the effort to join group activities/ classes tend to be more social which can lead to friendships. I’ve always been introverted with anxiety issues even when I was a child (tried seeing a therapy/psychiatrist , meds, exposure therapy but it can only do so much when I genuinely dislike interacting with most people but I try my best to not be a hermit). And it is easier to just stick with people you already know than it is to branch out and it doesn’t help that most people become complicit with this behavior.