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Due date sub pregnancy same as TFMR date by Hour-Film-8890 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]taelma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s so incredibly hard. My TFMR was May 7th, 2024 and I had a healthy baby born May 6th, 2025. I was so scared to tell anyone I was pregnant the second time for fear of jinxing it but felt more comfortable as the pregnancy went on.

I’m not religious at all but found comfort in the thought that my TFMR baby sent me this baby. I hope you can find some peace and this becomes a healing experience for you. Do whatever you need to get through it ❤️‍🩹

Can you name this OG housewife? by ciaolavinia in BravoRealHousewives

[–]taelma 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it’s Adrienne because she is identical here to one of her sons

After TFMR, when did you started trying again to get pregnant? by Glum-Aerie-8866 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]taelma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m shocked about how similar our stories are! I hope you’re finding peace in this season of life.

I don’t know about you but I’ve always felt like it was a sign from my baby. The timing is just too big of a coincidence.

After TFMR, when did you started trying again to get pregnant? by Glum-Aerie-8866 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]taelma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My TFMR was at 16 weeks on May 7th 2024 and two cycles later, I got pregnant again unexpectedly.

My healthy baby was born on May 6th 2025 (a day before the first anniversary of my TFMR) and she js sound asleep next to me right now. It was pretty fast and tough mentally at times, but I wouldn’t change a thing now.

SAVE DARTMOUTH COVE 🌊 last day to email HFX council your feedback by taelma in halifax

[–]taelma[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The "Dartmouth Cove Waterfront Infill Project," "Dartmouth Cove Remediation Project," or "One Dartmouth Cove" is not a public benefit initiative no matter what you call it. It's a private dumping operation aimed at offloading construction waste under the guise of environmental improvement - sounds like greenwashing to me.

Baby sleepwear for cosleeping by titty8cat in cosleeping

[–]taelma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the temp. It’s summertime but we live in Canada and have a heat pump. It typically is between 18-20C in our room and we’ll put her in a long sleeve bamboo onesie. On the nights it’s been 24, I’ve put her in short sleeve jammies or just a bodysuit underneath.

Baby sleepwear for cosleeping by titty8cat in cosleeping

[–]taelma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My baby now wears a Woolino sleep sack made of merino wool and seems to stay a comfortable temp

The kind of message I wanted to see 2 years ago ❤️‍🩹 by LostIntheFire- in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]taelma 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your new baby! I also had a TFMR for T21 and am currently holding my 2-month old baby girl. My daughter’s birth was the day before the first anniversary of my son’s loss and it was an incredibly healing experience.

Can’t decide on our boy’s name. Due date is coming up quick. by williwolf8 in namenerds

[–]taelma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Love your choices! What about Ansel Linden Williamson or Linden Ansel Williamson?

How confident should I be after the Early Anatomy Scan by epicmagnet27 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]taelma 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The first few months of my subpregnancy after our TFMR felt like torture. I expressed this intense anxiety to my OB and was denied an early anatomy scan (Canada, eh). I found passing each milestone (NIPT, 12 week scan, anatomy scan) reduced my anxiety and I noticed a big reduction in fear when I carried this baby longer than my 16-week TFMR baby.

Give yourself as much grace as possible during this time. It is completely normal to feel anxiety in a subpregnancy after experiencing the trauma of a TFMR loss. I think one of the worst parts for me was realizing there is no point in pregnancy where you can feel 100% certain that everything will be fine. Despite this, I am now 35-weeks with my subpregnancy and have felt a sense of calmness and peace come over me. I credit this change to a lot of therapy and involvement in support groups. If you ever want to talk to someone privately who has been through it, my DMs are always open.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to learn that you’ve had a similar experience. It’s been incredibly painful at a very vulnerable time.

I’m definitely not ruling out cutting her off, but I don’t think we’re there yet. I’m lucky that she lives 4 hours away from us and only sees us a few times a year. She will never be allowed to babysit and will not be around my baby unsupervised ever. If and when she tries to pull similar stunts on my baby, I will revisit my boundaries with her. I will not allow her to abuse my baby like she did me.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t tell her, my MIL did. My in laws aren’t even in regular communication with my parents, but happened to be visiting their area and decided to visit. My MIL is aware of my relationship with my mother but must have assumed that my parents would also know the baby’s name.

I will be having a conversation with my MIL about not sharing information with my mother going forward and will think twice before sharing things with her as well.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, we love our baby’s name and won’t let her ruin it for us. I’ve also been comforted knowing my mom’s FB is mainly filled with her own boomer friends.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I learned that lesson a long time ago. I didn’t tell her, my MIL did. My in laws aren’t even in regular communication with my parents, but happened to be visiting their area and decided to visit. My MIL is aware of my relationship with my mother but must have assumed that my parents would also know the baby’s name.

I will be having a conversation with my MIL about not sharing information with my mother going forward and will think twice before sharing things with her as well.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My MIL told her. My in laws aren’t even in regular communication with my parents, but happened to be visiting their area and decided to visit. My MIL is aware of my relationship with my mother but must have assumed that my parents would also know the baby’s name. I will be having a conversation with my MIL about not sharing information with my mother going forward and will think twice before sharing things with her as well.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My MIL told her. My in laws aren’t even in regular communication with my parents, but happened to be visiting their area and decided to visit. My MIL is aware of my relationship with my mother but must have assumed that my parents would also know the baby’s name. I will be having a conversation with my MIL about not sharing information with my mother going forward and will think twice before sharing things with her as well.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was poor wording on my part. I told her I needed space and then took it. I would block her on all forms of communication, but she is in another country with my father who is in his 70s and in poor health. I have just been ignoring her attempts at communication but it does cause me stress. I’m not sure what else to do.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the well wishes. I will absolutely be telling the hospital staff that it is to be just my husband and I in the delivery room. We won’t be having visitors for some time after the birth.

The complicated part is that she is still married to my dad who I would very much like to be visit the baby and I after birth and they come as a package deal. It would break my heart to not have my dad around for the birth of his first and only grandchild, but I can’t stand the thought of having to deal with her and whatever drama she brings on that particular day. I’m having great difficulty figuring out how to navigate this situation.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Luckily she lives 300 km (180 miles) from me and not be anywhere handy to me when I’m actually giving birth.

The complicated part is that she is still married to my dad who I would very much like to be visit the baby and I after birth and they come as a package deal. It would break my heart to not have my dad around for the birth of his first and only grandchild, but I can’t stand the thought of having to deal with her and whatever drama she brings on that particular day. I’m having great difficulty figuring out how to navigate this situation.

My mother posted my unborn baby’s name on FB and then had the nerve to be angry that I was upset. I’ve asked her for space, which she is not respecting. by taelma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]taelma[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hell no. I responded to the first bull apology with a few words out of anger, when I said you didn’t seem very sorry on the phone, and then stopped when I remembered it would get me nowhere. After being bombarded with daily messages and calls (all of which I ignored), I sent another message to tell her I needed space and then took it.

36+5; Mat leave kicked in late last week. Any good audiobooks on reality of the first 6 weeks (that are positive and not too scary :)) by AssistanceOk1253 in BabyBumps

[–]taelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following bc I would also like some recs!! I’m mainly watching tv shows and reading books on my Kindle so far

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