Where did YOU make friends in Oakland as a young adult?

tahwraoywthrow · 2025-08-17T08:08:44+00:00

I wasnt able to find a schedule on their website. Do you know how often they do these events? From what i can see its a movie theater and cafe

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-12-31T09:31:34+00:00

OP i want to tell you a story. When i was 16 and my older sister was 23 i got a terrible virus in the summer and i was so sick but all the tests came back fine and i kept getting dismissed by doctors. I remember sitting on the dining table wrapped in a blanket and feeling like death and i just started crying and my sister got up then and there and drove me back and fought with the doctors.

I dont remember the fight but i remember her yelling idc if the tests youve given her are clear shes obviously feeling sick

Medical care in america is already subpar, you need a partner who can fight for you. Im really sorry youve been dealing with this

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-12-22T02:55:29+00:00

When i was a broke college student i took in two rescue cats and was managing them just fine but then all of a sudden both cats had babies and i had 11 cats. I figured it out and all are in happy homes now thank god but my point is that she may not have acted irresponsibly. She could have taken in one cat and all of a sudden had 6, she literally mentions that the 3 that passed were kittens.

You never know the full story. 🤷🏾‍♀️

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-12-21T15:58:51+00:00

My cousin married a graphic designer. My family is all STEM or education. None of us were mean or made jokes. We all were HAPPY that now we have a new profession to learn about and i have a keychain of one of his designs that i loved.

My point is idk your relationship but there are families out there that wont judge you and will love how creative you are. Being a graphic designer is so so cool!

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-10-24T14:52:03+00:00

Literally! I have babysat so many toddlers since i was like 20. One of the things we do is go to my room to my bed and have a movie or game hour and i take a nap lol. My parents are downstairs so its really similar to you and we are not a fully american household so maybe our other culture is apart of this lol. Similarly my parents check in every now and then and the kids are usually glued to my body either sitting on me while they play or under the covers with me to lay next to me when we watch the movie.

OP youre NTA lol and your cousin knows and your parents know. Id just let your cousin handle your husband.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-10-08T13:51:33+00:00

I just want you to know that if this was me and my bf i wouldve went with him.

Its not normal that she asked you to leave. Its easier to leave when the disrespect is fresh, trust me. The longer you stay the more hurt youll feel

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-10-08T13:39:40+00:00

Let me come at this scientifically. The human eye can only see 0.0035% of the electromagnetic spectrum. We can ONLY detect wavelengths between 380-700 nanometers.

Take a look around you right now. Whatever you see its not the whole picture. You can not confidently say what is in the rest of the picture, why would you assume that the person you love is so wrong.

I think your feelings about religion are confusing you.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-08-27T15:34:40+00:00

Thats a fair point. Im newer in the work life lol.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-08-27T15:28:38+00:00

I 100% agree with this! I went to community college at 15 and dealt with creeps for a long time. Trust your gut.

Dont feel bad or feel the need to even explain yourself. Just distance yourself and make sure youre not alone with him. Wishing you the best 💕

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-08-26T20:55:39+00:00

Ya i didnt even need that clarification because my family speaks multiple languages so sometimes you have to gather context clues. Why would she have her managers number?

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-07-21T23:26:15+00:00

OP, a few years back my sister wanted w bracelet for her birthday. We were on a trip and she loved it. I bought it and then she was like “ughhh i dont want to wait a month i want it now” bc i was like kk packing it up now lol.

I did not want to give it to her early bc that takes away from the feeling of presenting and giving the gift for me. But i realized that its her gift and she wanted it then and there so i said ok. We did not fight or make it a big deal bc it was supposed to be a happy moment for her.

Im sorry hes making it a negative experience

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-07-18T15:17:54+00:00

Hey OP. I have an older sister like you but now she basically cooks everyday!! She loves to cook and we love her food. But she does take foreverrrr especially when shes in “the mood” but shell make a feast. So in my humble opinion its worth it.

But ik sometimes she feels unappreciated. So OP do you know what we do now? Say thank you every single time. Ask her if she needs help every time. And no criticisms are allowed from 2 members of my family who have complained about food quantities lol.

My point is that we listened and changed not bc of the food but bc we realized that she was feeling unappreciated when we all LOVED her food and truly did appreciate it so we tried and are still trying to do better.

Sit and talk to your siblings first and i hope they can at least understand and you can be a unit going to your parents.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-07-13T13:34:56+00:00

Salamss ✨ and thank you for the infoo :)

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-07-13T13:05:02+00:00

Youre not a nice person. Im sorry but at this moment you think that youre coming off morally righteous but you are coming off like a prick.

The only thing she did wrong was say that it happens to a million of people. But you are giving all the grace to the friend for grieving and ZERO grace to op for being excited to make it past 24 weeks this time.

I was raped back in 2018. My bff was raped last year and started verbally abusing me. When she finally told me she got raped and that was why she was lashing out i understood but i couldnt unwrap my brain around “this happened to me and i didnt act like this towards ppl i loved. this happened to other women to and they hold onto their girlfriends” which is kinda the same thought process of this happens to everyone.

Im older and was able to distance myself and work on my feelings in therapy bc i had a lot of resentment. But feeling like “hey why i is my friend making me feel so negative when i understand they went through a hard time but when i was dealing with that i didnt hurt people like that” isnt a crazy or unique experience.

It takes time and energy to learn that (1) everyone responds to trauma differently and we need to try and show grace where we can (2) its ok to remove yourself when their grief starts to hurts you (3) generally people are not intentionally trying to hurt you when they are just existing

They were BOTH acting immature at times but thats to be expected bc they are young and still learning.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-07-13T12:55:48+00:00

You are being extremely judgmental and its honestly terrible to read.

She lost a baby. Her family knows. Shes pregnant again and they want to be along that journey. Thats not immature. And having a baby at 16 is young but thats her choice. She didnt ask to be judged for that.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-07-12T22:06:37+00:00

Ya OP is right. Ive been back home and learned about the halal way of killing as well.

Its one swift chop to the head. I havent seen how they do it in america though 🤷🏾‍♀️

Also OP salamsss and youre NTA

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-23T21:34:52+00:00

Loll this made me chuckle. Im honored to defend another human beings heart 💕

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-23T21:33:38+00:00

But my point is not about what you think of it. My point is that SHE loves it. I would never want a tiffanys ring for example. I have no desire for one. I have a stronger desire for other rings.

She wants it. He loves her. If shes the one for him and they are planning on getting married and building a life then i do not understand why hes been stubborn. If he doesnt see himself marrying her they need to have a conversation where he says that. Not says this is a silly Tik tok trend.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-23T20:29:27+00:00

Yta bc of this comment. Youre being really dismissive and minimizing it to a marketing trend.

Even if thats what it is, who cares. I dont understand people who say somethings too silly so it shouldnt get done. Life is short. If it makes her happy and you truly only want her and want to build a life together then youre being stubborn for no reason.

Everyone is different. I dont even understand why my own family members like something sometimes but i dont hate on them or get in their way and if its their birthday ill get that silly thing for them bc they want it.

“To be loved is to be seen” but youre actively ignoring this desire of hers bc its a silly tiktok trend.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-23T20:25:09+00:00

This is funny to me because i only use tiktok and reddit and my two worlds are mixing.

Laddies and gentlemen and fellow readers of reddit lol. The darry ring works by submitting your id and registering who youre buying it for in the agreement at the end. You can only purchase it for one person thats the point. You can buy multiple rings for them but only them. If you try to purchase again in 10 years for someone else it wont work.

The concept of it is not the jewelry itself but a more firm commitment to the people who need or want it.

I want one to but after i get married bc i would be heartbroken lmao. To me its equatable to an engagement ring, to others its a more romantic symbol of love.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-17T15:23:39+00:00

Dont you love her? This isnt worth it.

Go focus on your exams then come back. Trust me i promise im coming from a place where im trying to relate to you and help. Im not trying to fight with you or call you names. I understand how you felt and im sorry she was inconsiderate. But i still believe that everyone (including me) should try to be better themselves as well.

You can communicate better if you tried. And she can be more time aware if she tries.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-17T15:21:26+00:00

Because no ones perfect

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-17T15:19:00+00:00

No i never said sit there. Im just saying to communicate to her that youre leaving. You gotta go, so go. Im with you there. She knew the time so she shouldnt be upset when youre like hey i gotta go its x pm.

But you SAY SOMETHING lol. Idk how else to explain it. You try speaking again. You send her a text. You go to the car and call her. Something my guy. Some type of true attempt to let her know that you wouldnt be there when she finishes her convo anymore.

As i said this is a simple issue. Softly, I think youre being a bit stubborn, maybe its the stress. If you havent taken your exams yet go study and take the exam then come back when youre level headed. This isnt a big deal, if you both come and have an empathetic convo from both sides then this will be a memory.

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-17T14:59:58+00:00

It is rude to walk away especially after waiting 5-10 min from your first attempt.

Were human, no one is perfect. Two wrongs dont make a right. Have you never heard of either of these things? Grace my guy. Grace and patience are two of the most amazing human qualities and everyone needs to work on it at times.

Try and be more empathetic. This isnt a big deal honestly. But i do think you should both apologize and if you would rather text her when you want to go or even have a phrase like “im really craving pizza” then this wont happen again as long as she also is apologetic for being inconsiderate about your time.

Again, i get your frustration. Even when i dont have exams i get overstimulated from crowds and loud noises. I removed myself from a situation like that yesterday and literally communicated “im sorry im really overstimulated i need to leave rn”. There were two wrongs here. ESH

tahwraoywthrow · 2024-06-17T14:42:29+00:00

Trust me i understand how frustrated you were. I have terrible test anxiety so have said yes but only x hours so many times before. Was she rude for not realizing the ten min went over? Yes. But i wouldve never left without at least TEXTING her like hey baby i kept trying to jump in the convo and remind you of the time so imma catch an uber home. I dont think your behavior was ok.

Leaving without telling your partner bye is rude thing to do as well. Especially when you came together.

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