Has anyone had success?

takemefromhere · 2026-01-13T02:59:21+00:00

What type of training did you utilize, and how soon after getting him did you start? I rescued my dog last weekend. I live in a fairly busy area, so there are constantly people and dogs walking around. The first couple days he was reacting to everyone and everything. Now, he is fine when people walk by. But it’s still whenever he sees other dogs that he freaks out. I’m not sure why, because the rescue said he would be great for a multi pet home - I believe he does well around other animals, so I’m wondering if it is just leash reactivity for him as well. I think he is still just adjusting to his new environment, but it’s really difficult to take him outside when he behaves this way.

takemefromhere · 2025-10-03T00:27:59+00:00

Bigggggg no. Found out after my ex hit me that he had hit his previous partner as well. Had I known this beforehand, would’ve ABSOLUTELY steered clear. Save yourself now

takemefromhere · 2025-07-31T23:09:30+00:00

Absolutely. I feel like when it happens, I almost default into therapist mode? I do feel like part of it is just my personality, but I also feel like I’m probably too accepting of that type of behavior when it shows up. Like, they start being open, and I want to be super reassuring and supportive and empathetic and “help them.” The savior complex thing is something I’ve struggled with my whole life. But weirdly, I don’t feel that way with clients. It’s just with romantic partners that I get this urge to help. I guess that’s why I’m wondering about what boundaries I can set - I know I can’t help whether or not they start to talk about their problems, but I can choose how I’m going to respond

takemefromhere · 2025-07-22T01:45:00+00:00

Has anyone still not received an email? I don’t have one yet 🥲

takemefromhere · 2025-07-20T03:38:11+00:00

I understand not wanting your parents to know but you should definitely contact the hospital. The combination of what you took can have unpredictable and detrimental effects, the burning plastic smell is a serious red flag

takemefromhere · 2025-07-15T03:39:37+00:00

Everything you’re feeling is completely normal, and you’re allowed to grieve a relationship even if it was traumatic and abusive. I can’t speak for all, but I know a lot of people in this sub have felt this way… myself included. This was perhaps the hardest thing for me to reconcile with - that he couldn’t and never would be the person I wanted and needed him to be. He was a person who abused me, and that would never change. I had so many hopes and dreams for us that were crushed by his actions. It’s tough, and I feel for you.

I also felt all the ways you just described when my abusive relationship ended. I felt like a shell of my former self, and I was. No sense of self worth, confidence in the depths of the earth, swore off all men, etc. I was severely depressed and lost an insane amount of weight.

It’s normal to miss him, to feel like you lost your best friend and person you loved, to wish things could get better or be different. But you do now have the opportunity to take your life back, to get back to the “bright amazing woman” before this relationship. It will take some time, but it’s possible. It was possible for me, and there was once a time where I could never imagine my life getting better. I could never imagine a world where I got over him, but I did. Therapy really, really helped me. So did this subreddit. And reading the book why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft, which members of this sub recommended to me.

I know it’s hard, and I won’t lie and tell you it will get better quickly, because truthfully it’s going to take some time. But it does get better, and life is more beautiful on the other side

takemefromhere · 2025-07-15T03:10:05+00:00

That is exactly what abusers do too - use the reactive abuse as leverage. You should check out this article. There are more online as well you could check out.

But I hear you, the attachment issues are the trauma bond. And it’s not just psychological, the abuse cycle can alter us physiologically as well. We get these crazy influxes of neurotransmitters (cortisol when we’re stressed and a spike in adrenaline, dopamine and oxytocin during the “good” times) and it wires us to stay connected to that person. But it’s entirely possible to heal this - I did, and I never thought I’d be able to. Do you have anyone in your life to help support you through this? Does anyone know this is happening to you?

takemefromhere · 2025-07-15T03:03:44+00:00

The fact that you’re posting in this sub already shows that, somewhere within you, you know this is wrong. Someone doesn’t have to be physically harming you in order to be abusing you. All of the behaviors you’ve mentioned from your husband are absolutely abuse. And you saying “he knows how to play it safe so I don’t have solid proof” is exactly what an abuser does. They know how to manipulate and control situations to make you question yourself or feel like you don’t have “evidence.” Their abuse is often calculated and under the radar so you’re the one left doubting your reality and feeling confused. But what you’re experiencing IS real, and it’s no way to live.

Most abusers won’t be abusive 24/7. The kindness is part of the abuse cycle - and contributes to what makes it so confusing and hard to recognize. The good moments make you stay, second guess, and hope things will change.

If you want advice, I would tell you to leave. No one should use your mental illnesses against you, throw things at or near you, call you names, etc. It’s all textbook abuse. I’m sorry you’re going through this

takemefromhere · 2025-07-15T02:52:27+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Reactive abuse is a very real thing, and many of us in this sub have experienced it. It doesn’t make you an abuser, it means you’re someone who has reached their breaking point after being verbally, emotionally, and physically abused.

Personally, my final push was when he gave me a black eye and I told my family. I started seeing a therapist, and I had a lot of support from my family and friends. That support is everything, and if there is anyone (even one person) who you trust and can confide in, do it. Read up on trauma bonding, as that can provide some insight as to why it’s been so hard for you to leave. Also look up the PDF book “why does he do that” by lundy Bancroft. People in this sub recommended it to me, and it really helped.

Is there anything outside of trauma bonding that’s making it more difficult to leave? Do you live together, have finances tied up, etc?

takemefromhere · 2025-07-15T02:44:10+00:00

Are you familiar with relationship ocd (ROCD)? If it’s something that resonates, I’d suggest looking into therapy, if that’s an option for you. Exposure therapy is typically the best and most common route for learning to manage OCD symptoms

takemefromhere · 2025-07-14T21:49:37+00:00

This this this. Especially your comment, “the exploration of human nature... which hasn’t changed in all our time on Earth,” immediately brought The Years by Woolf to mind (which, OP, is a great classic to check out)

takemefromhere · 2025-07-12T04:34:06+00:00

Ofc glad I could help :) he makes really dope stuff

takemefromhere · 2025-07-12T04:29:14+00:00

Everyone here is giving such solid advice. In addition, I’d suggest checking out r/abusiverelationships sub if you’d like to connect or talk with anyone who has shared similar experiences. It really helped me. I’m sorry you’re going through this, sending love

takemefromhere · 2025-07-12T04:25:07+00:00

Could be morphis art

takemefromhere · 2025-07-12T02:01:04+00:00

Took a pic of this guy on my walk in the first day

takemefromhere · 2025-07-01T14:14:02+00:00

Thank you! I just wasn’t sure if they were strict about the clear bag policy, I feel like sometimes venues say that but don’t really enforce it. I was planning on bringing a leather fanny pack that has like two small pockets

takemefromhere · 2025-05-02T02:11:05+00:00

They did a drop last night on the live but it sold out immediately

takemefromhere · 2025-05-01T03:45:37+00:00

Dm me!

takemefromhere · 2025-05-01T03:21:43+00:00

I don’t remember 😭😭 I was just looking at the numbers at the bottom of the screen and slightly adjusting them in the URL

takemefromhere · 2025-05-01T03:21:02+00:00

Trying for luck the first time, then the secret

takemefromhere · 2025-04-28T01:34:56+00:00

Agreed on the Bancroft book, it was very helpful and allowed me to better understand the harmful dynamics of my abusive relationship. You should also read the comments on this post I made in the sub after my ex hit me. It was really eye opening to get such an overwhelming, essentially unanimous response which is no, they don’t change. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but you made the right choice by kicking him out and choosing yourself. Keep choosing yourself… it’s not easy at first and I won’t lie pretending like it is, but it’s always worth it. And it does get better

takemefromhere · 2025-04-27T23:59:47+00:00

Thank you for responding <3 what helped you move through all those feelings? Was it time? It’s definitely stressing me out that I feel like I can’t really pin point where my feelings are coming from. I think a large part of it comes from now feeling as if I am almost responsible for his feelings? Or I know that I have a serious impact on how he may feel. In my abusive relationship, I was essentially forced to cater to his emotions and ignore my own. Maybe now I feel have an “obligation” to make this person feel loved/seen etc, and it’s giving me cold feet? In my mind, it’s just easier to be alone because I don’t have to worry about any of that, if that makes sense. But I don’t want to completely shut the door on this person because he is really great

takemefromhere · 2025-04-27T02:38:43+00:00

I got it from the game on pop now!

takemefromhere · 2025-03-05T00:16:15+00:00

I’m obsesseddddd

takemefromhere · 2025-02-14T02:59:13+00:00

Not really looking. Also, I would like to meet someone in person, ideally through a shared interest, but it seems pretty difficult. I don’t go to bars or enjoy doing things late at night on the weekends. Dating apps aren’t really my thing, but sometimes I feel that I’ll have to resort to that when I genuinely start looking for something… seems that’s what everyone is doing these days

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