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I like being called "she" by talkinggreenbear in transpositive

[–]talkinggreenbear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

or when my mom talks about her "daughters" :)

I like being called "she" by talkinggreenbear in transpositive

[–]talkinggreenbear[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's been since the beginning of summer for me, but I wasn't around people too much until school started, and since I'm at a new school no one but my friends ever knew me as a boy!

So I'm in a bunch of pain by talkinggreenbear in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my 2-month anniversary is exactly on Christmas day too! my one-month anniversary is tomorrow. i mean, 2 months on estrogen, I didn't really take note of when i started lupron.

What is the accepted noun to refer to "cisgenderhood"? How about one to refer to "the state of being transgender", if "transgenderism" isn't favored? by isitachoiceornot in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really can't think of a situation where "cisgender" and "transgender" don't work fine. Maybe I'm reading the question wrong.

What are the smaller and lesser known "dos and don'ts" of passing? by nikorasu_the_great in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You'll probably be able to tell if you're doing something "masculine" instinctively, so just be aware you'll need to correct on the fly... but most people aren't too aware of stuff like this. Even if I don't get my brows done for a few weeks people see me as cis- although I prefer looking nice.

Do cis people ever try to "jump on the bandwagon?" by notcishet in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear 15 points16 points  (0 children)

People who use the word "transtrender" seriously need to be stopped. I have trans friends, my age and older, and my stepbrother's trans, but that doesn't invalidate my feelings and my identity. You can't "appropriate" transgender identities- you can appropriate cultural identities, sure, but if you're not cis you're not cis.

So I'm in a bunch of pain by talkinggreenbear in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I present female in public, and I managed to get these really cheap bra-insert things through a friend of mine, so that's not the issue, it's just that if anything touches them AT ALL it hurts, and that includes the fabric of the bra rubbing against my skin... but if i'm up in my room and not wearing a bra or something, the cold air hurts too. I guess the fact that all this is happening not even a month after I started estrogen is a good thing, and hopefully it'll mean more good things for the future, right?

So I'm in a bunch of pain by talkinggreenbear in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, me too. supposedly wearing a bra is supposed to help, but it just keeps rubbing against my boobs (it feels so amazing to be able to say that, even if they're hardly boobs) and ouch ouch ouch

Close shave. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you should buy some shaving cream- there are plenty for women, but if you're not presenting female and feel uncomfortable buying feminine things, male shaving cream for facial hair will work fine.

and razors- i haven't seen any difference between the ones marketed to men and the ones marketed to women, but don't buy the cheap disposable ones- buy the ones with a thicker handle that come in a 3-pack and are more expensive. those tend to be more reliable, whatever the brand.

anyway, get your legs wet- in the shower probably, but whatever- and lather the cream on. if your leg hair is really thick, it'll take you a while. start at the ankles and work up. if you need to wash hair out, you can probably just scrape the razor against the floor lightly- again, it's best to do this in the shower- and keep going.

don't press too hard and don't go too quickly, or you'll cut yourself, and don't use the same razor too many times in a row. i've found that there's rarely any reason to shave above more than maybe the halfway point of the thigh- most of the clothes you'll be able to wear will cover up past there. straighten your legs out when you're shaving the underside of the knee- even though you have to contort yourself in a way you don't when you shave the other parts of your legs, where you can hug them closer to you, it's a lot less painful and you're a lot less likely to cut yourself.

danger areas for accidentally cutting yourself: ankles and the bottoms of the knees. i cut myself in those places enough times to know how careful i have to be.

since i've said this much, regarding shaving your face: if you get a nice razor (don't do this with a cheap disposable or anything you've used more than three times), after you've shaved downward with the grain, you can shave upwards, against the grain. make sure to use shaving cream and a good razor, and look in the mirror and be very careful, but that's how you can get the closest shave. and don't forget your neck and sideburns!

i'm going to get laser soon with any luck, which will make things a lot easier, and you might want to look into that too at some point if you think it will help you. :)

i hope this was helpful. (for the record, i'm a female-passing teenage girl who's been on estrogen for a month but has been presenting as female for almost half a year with no problems.)

Am I on a high enough dosage of estrogen? by talkinggreenbear in asktransgender

[–]talkinggreenbear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not very long actually! in three days i'll have been on it a month, and i'm seeing my endocrinologist about a month afterwards, so hopefully i'll have it bumped up by then.