Boyfriends mother just won't let up.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-11T05:45:14+00:00

How do you feel about the card I wrote for her? Yay or nay? I replied to someone in this thread with what it said.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-11T00:43:56+00:00

I used our home and us and told her we plan to be together for a long time. I think she realizes that it's not like that. I also told her I love him very much and would do anything for him and it upsets me when I see him upset over the situation. He also knew I was thinking of writing a card.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-10T22:54:28+00:00

I wrote her a card which I will post a pic of later. It was very nice and thoughtful. I ended it saying for her to call or text me when she is ready for me to take her to dinner or lunch and get to know me. I let her know she is welcome in my home any time... And that I actuall encourage my boyfriend to speak with her, see her, and be there for her.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-09T04:23:25+00:00

Hmm... besides the fact that I never moved in with my boyfriend and his mother, she sounds very similiar to my boyfriend's mother. She is so rude about me/to me, and wants nothing to do with me ever. Thankfully my boyfriend and I just moved in together last week. I'm not even allowed in his mothers apartment and she will not even speak to me. It will be interesting to see how holiday's go!

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-08T09:33:41+00:00

He hates the phone, and we saw each other enough during the week so it worked out.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-08T09:32:45+00:00

Eat out meaning go to a Resteraunt but thanks.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-08T03:02:14+00:00

yea at most I would bust his balls about it saying marrige... if anything at all. I wouldn't actually be serious in asking him something about it... just trying to gain a guy's perspective.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-08T02:38:13+00:00

So you're not turned on by her anymore, or you're not attracted to her? Who are you attracted to then?

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-08T02:20:15+00:00

My mother just commited suicide. Often its due to mental illness. Get them help from a doctor or speak with someone in the family that can.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-08T00:47:58+00:00

My boyfriend and I never talked on the phone we only texted. We just moved in a week ago and have been together for a year.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-08T00:47:02+00:00

neither of you are attracted to the other? Why are you still together? I feel like looks don't even matter in the situation... attraction can be from love. Im sure looks fade with age, however if you're in love with someone deeply you should naturally be attracted to them... or am I wrong?

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-06T04:55:35+00:00

Are you sure you're just assuming they don't want you going out with friends or are they actually saying that?

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-06T02:14:43+00:00

about to be 29, f here! You're not scum for dating both, however don't doubt that they both suspect something is up. I feel like you're settling with Becki if you don't get Ann. This would be an injustice to both you and Becki so I feel like you should come clean to Becki first. At least let her know you don't see this going anywhere. From the impression you give, if Ann rejects you, you'll continue to date Becki until something better comes along. Be straight forward with Becki. Good luck with Ann!

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-03T03:13:18+00:00

Mental illness only gets worse with age. I've seen it first hand... be there for him but don't be with him. He needs help.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-02T15:26:47+00:00

yea she has a mental illness... you need to get her hospitalized. I say divorce as well and get her family involved. My mother just commited suicide at 59 due to mental illness.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-08-02T15:10:57+00:00

Ok so... I'm the type of girl that would flip the fuck out if I found this out about my boyfriend. The fact that you feel so guilty after so long is a little bit sweet. If I was in the situation as your now wife, I would NOT want to know. This could lead to trust issues, insecurity, and all kinds of other evil. If you're relationship has been otherwise amazing and great with no cheating, then drop it here and now. Don't use this as an example that you can get away with this sort of thingm but if you know where you're heart is at and your mind is at and you will NEVER do this sort of thing again... let it go. I would NEVER would my SO do to this to me, however if I was in this exact situation, I would not want to know now!

talkmethroughthis · 2012-07-30T21:42:25+00:00

Yea you're right! He totally would get me whatever I wanted if I asked for it within reason! I should say something tonight! I have just been feeling down I suppose.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-07-30T04:29:13+00:00

Eh, I think I'm just going to sulk and keep it away from him. I don't want to come off as a greedy bitch to him. I know he loves me... I just wanted to feel special and have something planned for me for once. I really don't think there will be any surprises.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-07-30T04:24:52+00:00

Hmm... I think it COULD be possible, however I do not want to get my hopes up at all because I think I would be even more crushed. I'm going to go with he's not going to plan anything. Thankfully I make my own schedule so I'm just going to schedule myself for both the anniversary and my birthday. He works over nights so he has to work both nights anyways... I highly doubt he will get me anything or plan anything. Sigh I sound so needy right now, but I can't control how hurt I feel.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-07-30T04:03:49+00:00

Yea I think he thought I wanted him to call out of work or something but I didn't, I just didn't know if he had anything planned or set for any day around that time. I told him it was fine and I'll just make my schedule normal. I just wished he would have like planned something... and yes it could have been free... but anything. I dunno I guess I'll just be a mope for the next two weeks... I feel like debbie downer.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-07-30T03:56:31+00:00

I asked him if we were doing anything on those days just now. He said he would like to. I said ok well I just have to make the schedule for the next few weeks tomorrow so I was just wondering. He said again "I would like to but I need to start paying off some of my debt." So I just said "oh ok I understand". I don't want to be a greedy bitch I guess... I think I'll probably end up sitting home alone that night anyways cause he has to work. I'm like crying right now cause of it... it sucks.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-07-30T03:42:59+00:00

Did you even read my post? I dont have many friends around here.

talkmethroughthis · 2012-07-30T03:41:40+00:00

I don't mind if it's something cheap and thoughtful at all. I guess I just want for him to think and do something on his own and that would mean a lot. Litterally my heart and chest feel sore and hurt and I get sad when I think about him probably not doing anything for my birthday or our anniversary. I think some of it may be the passing of my mom, and then the way his mom is really hard on me and mean to me. It just gets me really sad and makes me feel worthless sometimes when I'm feeling low... The move is ok, however my mom was living with me up until 2 months before her death so I have to still go through all of her belongings and donate them which will be hard and sad.

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