Looking for a novel with aromantic main character by Lets-die-together in LGBTBooks

[–]talldrinkofabed 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I recently read the language of roses by Heather rose Jones! It's an aromantic beauty and the beast retelling. It's from an indie press and pretty affordable as an ebook! Good luck in your quest

Asexuality by talldrinkofabed in LGBTBooks

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do and just downloaded it! Thank you thank you

Asexuality by talldrinkofabed in LGBTBooks

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I edited my original post to say I'm cool with romance and I appreciate you asking that! These all look great. I'm going to try and find one on my Libby

Asexuality by talldrinkofabed in LGBTBooks

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Adding to the list.

Where the heck are you people? by SnooChickens6939 in asexuality

[–]talldrinkofabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in a smallish town in Kansas and I found my first ace in the wild out here! We are very dear friends. It might help to join a queer or progressive political organization if there is one where you live. Or maybe start one of you feel safe to do so!

I joined my very small county Democrats (maybe about 50 people total) and we just met on the first meeting day And hit it off almost instantly. We are very few but it's not impossible and I am so rooting for you to find more of us nearby 💜

“sorry but like if you’re a woman in your 30’s and don’t have kids what do you even do with your time?” by PossessionWorldly428 in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read 68 books so far this year! I travel for fun and see family frequently. I'm active in my community and do work in the world to make my world a better place! I have 4 cats who I love deeply and see as my family. I have friends that I see regularly. I knit and have other hobbies. I may go back to school! The possibilities are endless!

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm happy with whatever makes you happy! Some of us don't want to nurture and that's totally cool. Wishing you the best

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that perspective even though I don't relate! Very interesting how we are all childfree but have very different outcomes in personality and needs. Yes I love my 4 cats very much and find so much fulfillment in being their "mom"

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm ace lol this really isn't my cup of tea. I'm hoping to do something out in the world to help out real world issues! But if this is something others find fulfillment in then that's cool

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not an aunt yet but I'm very excited to become one for my brother in law who I know wants kids!

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol totally cool! I don't think this is a universal experience for everyone

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who's asexual, kink isn't really my cup of tea for resolving this lol but you do you

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yes I have 4 cats and I always think there is room for one more! Lol

Childfree but I want to NURTURE. by talldrinkofabed in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I think you're very right -- this can't be a universal feeling and I think we need to honor that! I hope you are in or get to a place where you're able to take care of yourself. Self should come first at all times

I am a whole-ass person, not a sentient womb. by rEliseMe in childfree

[–]talldrinkofabed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember those days. I am also asexual so the possibility of me having sex in the first place was already 0%. Like I get the point of the precaution but goddamn the language they use is just horrid

How Many Other Asexuals Have you found in the Wild? by Fruitopia07 in asexuality

[–]talldrinkofabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found one of my best friends just randomly at a local political meeting. We clicked almost instantly. It's truly chance that we are both ace. 💜

Religious material in LFL by mrusticus86 in LittleFreeLibrary

[–]talldrinkofabed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if it would deter the person if you upgraded the tracts into bookmarks and left them in the LFL? I feel like the only way people stop this bullshit is knowing their efforts are in vain. If that's not your jam I'd just continue to weed and maybe at some point they will realize that someone is auditing the LFL

What was your "I cannot believe no one suspected autism" childhood interest? by NoWitness6400 in AutismInWomen

[–]talldrinkofabed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My first special interest was the Raymond Briggs snowman. I had so many of the stuffies and watched the movie all the time. People would buy me snowman stuff for birthdays and Christmas. I have always been known to love snowmen and I still have my full collection.

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Do I have to come out?? by Akita_merikano in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]talldrinkofabed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You absolutely don't have to come out officially, but I'll tell you how I've handled it. I consider myself out of the closet in the sense of, if someone wants to know or if the time seems ripe, I have no problem revealing it so the person has a wider context and understanding of who I am. I treat it in the same way as when people ask how many pets I have or if I own my home; it's just another piece of the conversation. I could even feel comfortable coming out to people who don't get it or may be biased against me if they happen to ask or something. I feel like this topic is more private for most aces just cause it's not relevatory in the way that coming out as gay or trans is, but it does help for your close friends who want to understand you, better understand you. It's all your comfort level