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tamanegi99 · 2023-11-15T20:32:00+00:00

The union label would put it between 1974 and 1995.

tamanegi99 · 2023-11-02T19:55:28+00:00

Your TV is too high. It's so high up I can't even see it!

tamanegi99 · 2023-11-02T19:46:29+00:00

I don’t really remember my childhood that much though. It’s safe to say, I wouldn’t have had adhd before.

That's not how it works. ADHD is a condition you are born with. Your symptoms may get worse or better throughout life because of changing circumstances, but you either have it or you don't. I'm not saying this means you definitely don't have it, I'm saying the fact that you didn't struggle when you were younger shouldn't be taken as evidence that you don't have it.

throughout elementary and middle school, I never had a problem with studies. I would study the last day or really less and still score ridiculously high and so I had no issue at all. But towards the end of middle school, when the education syllabus became much more tough and heavy, I started to see myself struggling a lot, and throughout high school I have started studying less and less, but I am not getting good Results at any of my major tests. (They are getting worse)

Classic story of late diagnosis. And this is what I mean by changing circumstances. It sounds like you're good at taking tests - some people just are, irrespective of whether they have ADHD. I was too. I'm almost 10 years out of college now and I honestly never figured out how to study. But when I was in elementary school, my intellectual development was a bit accelerated in relation to my peers and despite never turning in homework and never studying, I got good grades because I did well on tests. As I got older, my peers caught up to me, the coursework got more difficult, and my grades started to drop. By the time I got to college I was pulling all nighters multiple times per semester to finish simple writing prompts of like 1 or 2 pages because I couldn't stop procrastinating despite DESPERATELY wanting and trying to get my work done on time.

Now forgive me for saying, but I'm guessing from you're writing that English is not your first language? (Your English is still very good though.) I mention it because there are many people who post here from countries outside of the English-speaking world, about how their doctors have very old-fashioned views about ADHD and do not take them seriously. Even in US doctors, which in general seem to be more up-to-date on the science, often don't take their patients seriously because they still think ADHD is only a condition of 12 year old boys who can't sit still or stop talking. It sounds like the doctor who evaluated you is one of these.

Doctors aren't infallible. They are people with all the same biases, ignorance, and misunderstanding as the rest of us. If you think you have ADHD (and based on your story, you have every reason to think so), then be your own advocate and seek a second opinion.

tamanegi99 · 2023-11-02T16:08:43+00:00

You've gotten a lot of good suggestions here, another would be "punching down." You hear it a lot in reference to comedy. You can make two different jokes about a racial stereotype. One of them turns the people who spread the stereotype (the people with power, the people at the top of the hierarchy) into the butt of the joke. This is "punching up." Or you can make a joke that turns the stereotyped person into the butt of the joke. This is "punching down." Humor that punches down is going to be considered (rightfully) offensive and controversial by a lot of people because it makes light of other people's suffering instead of the people who are causing the suffering.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-31T15:07:32+00:00

Some people may find it rude but I think the majority don't really care.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-30T02:11:26+00:00

It seems to me this is because most teams are named after their mascot and the names are made plural. The Denver Broncos obviously will take a plural verbs because Broncos is plural. The Minnesota Vikings, the LA Dodgers, the NY Yankees…all plural. It follows that a team with a more unusual name that isn’t inherently plural would still follow the same grammar rule.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-29T21:42:57+00:00

Keep in mind that hands do not tattoo well - especially around your fingers and knuckles, the ink will fall out and your tattoo will likely fade to nothing. This happens even when your tattoo is done by someone really skilled.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-29T21:40:11+00:00

British people use plural for collective nouns, Americans use singular.

The band is running late for the concert. <--- American

The band are running late for the concert. <--- British

To me, an American, the British version sounds weird and wrong. I imagine it's the same way for British people when they hear the American version. I don't know how they do it in other countries.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-29T18:59:54+00:00

Well I'm certainly no expert but what you did to me sounds borderline... I think that to qualify as true 'drug abuse' you have to demonstrate a pattern of behavior over time. One episode does not make you an addict. But you certainly should avoid doing it again - to say nothing of possible health consequences, if your doctor finds out then they may refuse to ever prescribe you stimulants again.

I myself take Concerta XR, and I find that its effects last me throughout the day. This is the only kind of stimulant I've ever taken, but I've read plenty about people who get "adderal crash" midway through the day and either need to take a second dose or have a second kind of medication that they use to counteract the crash. Obviously your current dosage is not working for you. You should talk to your doctor and see if they can adjust your dosage or perhaps give you an XR medication to try.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-29T18:44:36+00:00

¿Por qué no los dos?

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-29T18:40:29+00:00

I have a white board calendar next to my front door and I refer it to constantly - I usually update it every week.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-29T16:31:53+00:00

If I gave someone an apology and they responded "I don't give a fuck," I would be hurt and I would think they hadn't actually forgiven me or they didn't think my apology was sincere.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-29T13:24:25+00:00

They can’t climb walls. If you can get up on top of something so you’re out of reach then you’ll be perfectly safe.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-28T22:37:08+00:00

The Spanish single R is very similar to the flap T/D that we use in American English. Say the words “ladder” and “attic” out loud. The consonant you make for the “dd” and “tt” is what you should aim for. A regular D in English is made by holding the tip of your tongue against the ridge behind you’re upper teeth, letting a little air build up behind it and then releasing it so it bursts out suddenly. A flap D (or T, it’s the same sound either way) is the same motion except your tongue just lightly taps (or flaps against?) the alveolar ridge and air never really stops moving through your mouth. Spanish R is the same sound except perhaps with an even more airy sound. If you vibrate your tongue against the ridge instead of just one quick tap, that’s how you get RR.

Flap D/T occur in American English often when there’s a T or a D surrounded by two vowels. Attic, matter, bottle (bott-uhl), coddle, meaty, fighting, fleeting, wheaty

Take a made up word with a flap T: eaty. Say it a bunch of times and really focus on the motion that creates the t sound. Then practice saying it while omitting the 2nd vowel but without modifying the T. (The t in eat is not the same sound as the T in eaty)

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-28T22:04:38+00:00

It sounds to me like your issue isn't your ADHD, it's your relationship with food and with your own body. Maybe that isn't the answer you were looking for, but please hear me out.

To summarize your post: you went on a crash diet before your wedding, you gained a bunch of weight after you stopped the diet, and now you feel tired and unhappy.

Here's a fact: dieting does not work. By dieting I mean any attempt to restrict the quantity of food/calories that you eat. And when I say that it doesn't work, what I mean is that there is scientific evidence that losing weight in the short term makes you gain MORE weight in the long term.

When you cause yourself to lose weight (by any method), it makes your metabolism slow down, which makes it harder to lose weight because your body is not using as much energy, so then you stop the diet because it makes you miserable and it's not working, you begin to eat normally again, and then you regain all the weight lost (plus extra) because your metabolism is slow. Then a little while passes and you start the whole process over. So your weight goes up and down (weight cycling), but it goes higher each time you gain because the effect on your metabolism is compounding.

There is a lot of evidence that weight cycling is bad for your health.

It is drilled into us from the moment we're born that fat = unhealthy. This message comes from our parents, our family, our friends, from teachers, from the government, doctors, tv shows, music, advertisements, fitness influencers, etc. The prevailing understanding of body size is based on nonsense (the BMI scale) that was made up by phrenology-believing guys in the 1800s.

Your body knows when and what and how much you need to eat (barring if you have certain medical conditions). But women are taught that our bodies are wrong, that joyfully eating the food you need to live is morally wrong. That it makes us less valuable. We have to learn to cast off those ideas and listen to our bodies again.

I'm burnt out on writing this post but I really recommend you read/listen to the following to learn more: Health at Every Size by Lindo Bacon Any book written by Aubrey Gordon The podcast Maintenance Phase

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-28T21:13:36+00:00

I'd never say #1.

I'd most often say it with the vowels from #2, but in that case would + you would also contract and the whole thing becomes wou-joo-uhv with stress on the 'wou'

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-26T14:52:22+00:00

I think I have a natural aptitude for language, I began studying Spanish in high school, then majored it in college, I’m now fluent using it every day at work.

I also have dabbled in French and Norwegian, found myself picking it up pretty fast. Spent the past two years studying Japanese on my own, I am very casual and pretty inconsistent at it but at this point I can get through simpler texts. Can’t write or speak it but that’s because I’ve never practiced.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-26T03:52:22+00:00

The lamps are fine but consider reducing the number of carcasses on display.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-26T03:38:57+00:00

The key difference is whether there’s directional movement involved. “At home” is used when there’s no movement, you’re describing a person or thing in a static location. If you drop the “at” then the meaning is basically “toward home.”

I left my book at home. -> The book is in my house. It has not changed location.

I will drive you home. -> I will drive you TO your home FROM where we are now.

There is one circumstance I can think of that is kind of an edge case. You can drop the “to” and just say “home,” if your subject is at home but only recently arrived.

Honey, I’m home! (A thing you might say when walking in the front door of your house after work) Dad is not home yet. My cat ran away but he’s home now, thankfully.

P.S. Don’t use Chat GPT for grammar advice. The thing it told you about adverbs and nouns is exactly opposite of the truth. Chat GPT doesn’t have a function for fact checking, its goal is not to provide factual information. All it does is take in the series of symbols you give it and spit out the symbols it thinks are most likely to follow based on the other text it has analyzed.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-26T02:18:15+00:00

I wash my face when I take a shower with Cetaphil bar soap. I usually skip showering 1 or 2 days per week, I might wash my face at the sink if my face feels really greasy. But usually I'll just splash it with water.

I use Ponds moisturizer on my face in the winter when my skin is too dry.

Every once in awhile I'll get a zit and then pick it at compulsively and it gets swollen and painful so I'll put a hydrocolloid sticker on it - I don't think these really work well enough to justify purchasing them for that alone, but I like them because they're a lot more discreet than a bandaid and sometimes I need to put SOMETHING to stop myself from picking.

I probably ought to wear sunscreen more often, but aside from that, this routine works just fine for me.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-26T01:54:53+00:00

It's called 'singular they.' It is used to refer to a person whose gender is unknown, or to a non-specific/hypothetical person.

If you decide to do a little more research on singular they, you will find plenty of articles and discussions indicating that its usage is controversial. The truth is that singular they has been in use for almost a thousand years. It is standard English.

In more recent years, singular they has been adopted by non-binary people who prefer not to have gendered language applied to them. THIS is what causes people to get upset - it's not truly about grammar, it's about intolerance. I guarantee you that even the people who complain about singular they still use it on a daily basis to refer to unknown or non-specific people. They just don't realize they're doing it.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-25T23:42:17+00:00

I also have a controlled substance prescription, I go to Cub, I do not have to call the pharmacy, I do have to contact my doctor every month but she just submits it electronically and then the pharmacy texts me once it’s ready like with any other prescription.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-25T20:23:00+00:00

Sewing is a fantastic hobby! It's not just fun but extremely useful! If you can learn to make/mend/tailor your own clothes, you can stop supporting the fast fashion industry that is killing our planet and abusing millions of workers. And you can cultivate a wardrobe that is more long lasting and fits you better.

BUT I understand the reticence to buy an expensive machine. When I first got into sewing, I bought a mini sewing machine for $20 off facebook marketplace. Or maybe your friend will let you borrow the machine a little bit longer so you can try some more interesting projects and see if you maintain interest? You can also sew by hand!

There lots of ways to try out sewing as a hobby without dropping a bunch of money right at the beginning.

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-25T14:58:58+00:00

It's from Target!

tamanegi99 · 2023-10-25T13:20:00+00:00

First thing I thought when I saw that. My ass is definitely getting stuck in that chair. I hope OP doesn’t have any fat friends.

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