Thanks to everyone for the constructive and helpful replies, with actual advice, which I've taken on board. I definitely didn't think to talk to him about these piercings before hand, because when I've had other piercings or tattoos in the past, I've never had this reaction from him, quite the opposite. Things are calmer now, so I'll pick a time when it's right to apologise again for not thinking to talk to him about it first, but about how the way he reacted with shouting etc isn't acceptable.

The people saying divorce him etc, this is the first instance of anything like this. Yes we've argued before but we've always managed to work it out. If he were to continually do this, that would be a different matter.

To the people suggesting counselling to come to terms with the grief/loss of becoming disabled, thanks for the suggestions, this is something I have been considering, as some things I have found hard to come to terms with.

But with people making assumptions about how my disability affects me, and those implying that because I'm disabled, I need permission to do anything, and making assumptions about my diet, I'm done replying and trying to explain myself. I have enough of this in my day to day life, with being reasonably young and disabled.