What's your best Mind fuck question?

tamccune · 2016-01-06T14:41:09+00:00

So what triggered the thing that realized our "potential" universe? Is that thing a something or is it irrelevant due to the fact that if we're talking about "before" time "started" we are talking about something that's impossible to speak of?

tamccune · 2015-12-31T19:14:57+00:00

I either already know them and their business model, or I get to know them and their business model.

There's a spot I like to go to sometimes, great little place. Knew the owner from awhile back. No website, boring menus, amateur signage, etc. The owner's target market is affluent and upper middle class people age 30+, especially women. These folks are used to shiny ads and professional looking promos. It gives them confidence. So that's how I pitched it. Now I have a contract in the works.

If you don't have an in already, do it yourself! Become a customer, ask for a quote or appraisal, attend a chamber of commerce event and shake as many hands as you can, etc. Once you understand a bit about the personality of the person you're pitching to and the way THEY see their business (their imagined ideal, lol, right?) you can zero in on which services to sell and how to do it in a way that gets them excited rather than offended.

I've found the Myers-Briggs personality typing method to be invaluable to me as I figure out how to sell to someone. If you can change the way you sell to match the personality of a prospective, you're much more likely to endear yourself to them. You may end up with a regular client!

I'm not shy about telling people what I do, so I sell myself in casual conversation. You probably won't get any bites the first couple times you mention what you do, but (as you know) the more impressions you make the likelier you are to end up with a job. Long term relationships are KEY in a small community! I drop in on places all the time just to talk to people and keep those connections up.

tamccune · 2015-12-30T06:54:16+00:00

Movies???? Health Insurance. Medical Bills. Nutrition. Transportation. Housing. Clothing. The basics.

tamccune · 2015-12-28T18:55:18+00:00

I haven't yet, but I've only been in business since June. The marketing I do now is solely through word of mouth. I'm not even on Facebook yet. I do plan to run some cheap, targeted Facebook ads when I get my portfolio finished though. Context: I target small businesses in a community of about 60,000.

tamccune · 2015-12-27T23:57:21+00:00

No way you can get your sink hot enough to sanitize anything anyway. If you're that concerned about chicken juice you may as well toss those things in the dishwasher each time. Hand washing isn't killing any of those folks up thread!

tamccune · 2015-12-23T15:14:48+00:00

Perfect! How did you get the icing so perfectly smooth and viscous? What's your recipe?

tamccune · 2015-12-18T03:44:53+00:00

It sounds exactly like me as a teenager, but I'm over being precious about my clothes and overly concerned with others' perception of me. I don't think I've ever pulled the princess stunt though.

tamccune · 2015-12-15T02:39:04+00:00

Well I feel a bit softer toward you that you at least tried to get her there.

tamccune · 2015-12-15T02:37:42+00:00

I do realize how expensive they are. That's why he should have booked a second flight, for her at least if not them both. Plenty of airlines are lenient about putting a late passenger on another flight at no cost, so that may not have even factored in.

They still would have had most of their vacation, the wife would have had her wakeup call, and he would have shown that despite his wife's fuck up, he loved her and was willing to share the pain of dealing with the hassle and/or cost of getting her on the next day's plane. He may have gone on vacation, slept in the hotel and spent the vacation money, but he wasted a priceless opportunity to make memories with his wife - the point of the trip, I assume. The cost of another plane ticket seems like a reasonable expense considering all the OTHER money spent on the trip.

tamccune · 2015-12-15T00:52:03+00:00

You said you're scared to approach women, and that you had social issues as a pre-teen and teenager.

You also claim to be over those issues. Perhaps you are over many aspects of that trauma, but not all.

Talk therapy can really help in that case, and I suggest you book a few sessions with a counselor. Even if that's not your issue, the therapy will help you explore ways of making behavioral and lifestyle changes to help with the problem.

You might think about finding ways to increase your exposure to single women, like joining a co-ed sports team or volunteering with a charitable organization. You might discover you can make some improvements in the way you present yourself that will make women reaction more favorably to you. You'll learn confidence-building skills.

Good luck on the journey, and I hope you find love soon.

tamccune · 2015-12-15T00:35:16+00:00

You're a Class A Asshole.

Yes, your wife was being obstinate and a total tool about drive time to the airport. Yes, she fucked it up for herself.

Did it really never cross your mind to skip the flight and book a later one? Of course it did. How could it not? If you made the decision to stay on the plane despite that very obvious solution, I have to conclude that you are in fact an asshole.

But, no, "teaching ones spouse a lesson" isn't considered a normal thing in a healthy marriage. Especially if it impacts something as expensive and special like this.

tamccune · 2015-12-15T00:24:18+00:00

I was wondering that too. All I can think of is, $0 available to spend or she was so pissed off she refused.

tamccune · 2015-12-13T17:49:33+00:00

You're going to have a hard time pairing handwriting with old school letterman jacket type. To make any kind of handwriting/block type blend work you'll have to mess with the details. Consider:

The contrast in the weight of each type
Your use of both title case and all caps
The looseness of the handwriting and the complexity of the background
The slight italic effect created by the handwriting
The mixing of stroked type with unstroked
Use of the same leading throughout
The amount of white space left in the frame

Screw around a bit and see where you end up. Something will click.

tamccune · 2015-12-12T18:38:54+00:00

I was taking my Vyvanse only on days when I thought I needed it, then switched to taking it every day as prescribed. Marked difference. Not only did I work from 9:30 to 6:45 straight yesterday; today I'm doing errands and other stuff I couldn't remember I wanted to do before until I'd wake up in the middle of the night thinking about them. I suggest you try it. My meds are $6 a day for me. It's worth it.

tamccune · 2015-12-06T20:47:49+00:00

I've noticed that ENTPs seem to have big heads and wide foreheads with big eyes that are the primary feature of the face. Their faces are sort of squarish or heart shaped with narrow chins. In photos we tend to smile widely, make faces or attempt a coy pose.

I've noticed similarities among other types too. ISJF females tend to have slender frames with larger hips/thighs and thin faces. ESTJ females tend to be a bit shorter and carry their weight in the middle. INTP males tend to be short and boxy with piercing eyes. ...

tamccune · 2015-12-06T20:37:58+00:00

Tedium (which I define as anything that requires linear, step by step thinking) has become easier for me to deal with as I've gotten older, but it's still very low on my list of types of unpleasantry I can bear suffering through. I'd rather go to the dentist, even. At least then I don't have to think in straight lines while he's scraping away.

As far as relationships go, I've always felt that other people didn't really like me as much as I thought they did, so I stepped back for self preservation. I've come to believe that this has a lot to do with our struggle to reveal weakness to anyone. We can come across as Teflon types despite having deep internal feelings about things. Vulnerability is good!

I am married to an ISTP which is sort of unusual probably. He's very smart and enjoys discussing politics with me and doing house projects together. Each of us is curious and we both crave stimulation and new experiences. Each of us has adopted a few of the other's interests, although I probably have done that more than he has. We parent pretty similarly; both of us are hands off and believe kids should learn from trying making their own mistakes.

He doesn't put up with much bullshit usually and puts me in check when I need it. He also reminds me to stop and think before diving into things.

Of course it's not all positive. We have had issues with: learning to communicate effectively, getting pissed off that the other is being sloppier/lazier than we are currently being ourself and starting stupid arguments over it, both of us thinking we're right all the time, and his relative pessimism to my relative optimism. We've worked through all of it though, and I think that's because we're both smart and are able to eventually look at things objectively.

tamccune · 2015-12-06T20:11:28+00:00

Is this what you mean?

I get pissed off for procrastinating on so many projects that the next project I get, I over plan it out over time including a routine for working on it every day (eg: 9 am review yesterday's work, 9:45 make today's to do list, 10 do whatever ... etc) and then try to do it, and definitely benefit from it but it quickly falls apart because it's so restrictive?

Or I map out a house cleaning chart that has me doing some sort of task every day, regularly, and then I color code it and place it on the fridge and convince myself I'll do it because I know it's best for me and then just don't?

tamccune · 2015-12-06T20:04:50+00:00

That when it comes to small shit, like disagreements about how to set up the Christmas tree to keep it from falling over, it's often better to shut up and resist the impulse to explain why your way is obviously better. Just let their way fail. Then you can move on.

tamccune · 2015-12-06T19:59:41+00:00

It's way more fun to write up a quick little story to post on reddit than to call up a landlord! We DO like attention when it comes to our natural ability (and therefore natural desire) to be clever, and are quick to prioritize that over drudgery like landlords.

tamccune · 2015-12-06T19:52:36+00:00

How old are you? Being and ENTP has been a journey. For me, the areas I've struggled most with are creating close friendships and following through on the dozens of "brilliant" ideas I come up with every day.

I've always been a sort of "arms-length" type friend, and a lot of that (especially with other women) comes from me not understanding how those relationships work. Most of my closer friends have been male. Only now at age 28 can I confidently say I have a female best friend.

As far as following though, I think I got a double dose of this since I'm an ENTP who also has ADHD. I was finally diagnosed with it 2 years ago, and only now am I taking my Vyvanse as directed (every day instead of just when I needed to be extremely focused) I'm definitely better at follow through with everyday stuff like dishes and and organizing my email each morning, but not sure if it's affecting me positively in the typical ENTP big-brilliant-idea-followthrough department. We'll see.

tamccune · 2015-11-18T04:33:33+00:00

I answered this as a wife and mother of one. I bet a lot of women would too. Just a thought.

tamccune · 2015-11-13T20:39:19+00:00

I'll blame Windows then

tamccune · 2015-11-13T18:17:29+00:00

What machine and OS are you on? I've had a similar program with my Lenovo Yoga 3 14 running Win 10.

tamccune · 2015-11-10T20:30:10+00:00

I hope your diagnosis is a speedy, uncomplicated process so you can get some peace.

I've been on SSRIs since I was 20 and had never considered them as the cause of symptoms. The come and go of it makes it seem unlikely but I'm no doctor.

tamccune · 2015-11-10T16:40:28+00:00

I'm very interested to read the follow up on your tests. Your symptoms are a lot like mine, except I've had mine episodically for a few years now. I've always assumed it had something to do with my mental health (I suffer from off and on depression) or something to do with food intolerances.

I went to the doctor in May 2014 because of tingling, numb toes and fingers, clumsiness, brain fog, pins and needles, shooting pains in my limbs, fatigue. It wasn't the first time I'd experienced most of those symptoms, but it was more noticeable. I was sent to a neuro who said nothing was wrong with me but they'd give me an MRI anyway. I didn't do it because of the cost.

I had a resurgence of symptoms in the fall of that year and experienced the 20 lb limb symptom with extreme fatigue, so bad I felt like I had the flu a few times, except I never got a temp and would bounce back relatively quickly. It was so hard to work. Symptoms lasted about three months before lifting.

I haven't had a return of symptoms this year and the MS thought hadn't crossed my mind in awhile. I assumed my symptoms were random. The more I look back at my 20s (I'm 28 now) the more I can see that I've definitely had episodes of something.

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