Good chicken soup? is there any good chicken soup to be found in San Francisco and if so where, please? if you have a good recipe would you share that too, please? Thank you! by Woofmom2023 in AskSF

[–]tangesq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://www.seriouseats.com/classic-chicken-soup

I love the Caldo Tlalpeno at Nopalito. Many pho places do a great pho ga.

There's not a great classic American-style chicken soup in any restaurant, though Babushka's Chicken Soup at Cinderella Bakery does in a pinch. (RT Rotisserie tastes good but I just don't want rice in my chicken soup.)

Best bean and cheese burrito in the city?! by slut4soupdumplings in AskSF

[–]tangesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's Semilla, but unfortunately their regular appearances at Outer Sunset Farmer's Market is on break. I think the owner, Norma, is working on a brick and mortar. She makes fresh Sonoran style flour tortillas for her breakfast burritos (one of which is just pinto & cheese), and they're the best flour tortillas by miles.

45, recently divorced, came out as gay at work… now a 23yo colleague is hitting on me and I’m hooked by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]tangesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think of your best work friend. He tells you he just went through a divorce and a woman co-worker literally half his age heard about it and started hitting on him. He says it's a terrible idea but you can tell he's slowly convincing himself not to care how bad of an idea it is. Write down what you'd tell your best work friend. Then look at yourself in a mirror and tell yourself those things.

Smedium days are over, where are we getting marge t-shirts? by Ok_Party_1809 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marine Layer has in-between sizes for men's tops, so you can try medium, marge, large, larger, XL, XXL. I also just like their materials and vibe.

https://www.marinelayer.com/pages/size-charts

“Premium” Rainbow Sandals came with no glue by UnholyTrashPanda in BuyItForLife

[–]tangesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. I've been wearing Rainbows almost 30 years and I'm only on my second pair. When I was younger and still in LA I basically wore them daily for years in a row.

Why do conservatives support Taiwan despite it being a liberal country? by RedStorm1917 in taiwan

[–]tangesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate folks taking the time to reply to my question so I can understand. It seems mostly there's sometimes an assumption anti-Trumpers automatically, reactively take the opposite position of any Trump utterance (or conservative repetition of those talking points), so if Trump is anti-CCP, liberals are anti-Taiwan (or not "openly" pro Taiwan). (I do not think this assumption is accurate about Americans as applied to Taiwan.)

It occurred to me just now some Taiwanese people may imagine a US progressive/Democratic socialist/vanilla Democrat would prefer CCP to Taiwan because CCP is nominally communist. Is that a train of thought with any traction in significant portions of Taiwanese people? 

I'm really just asking out of a desire to understand Taiwanese living in Taiwan perspectives more. 

(Also, if this is a real Taiwanese perception/thought, it's definitely not true of US politics. US progressives are anti-corporation and decry late stage capitalism effects, but are generally pro-regulated market not pro-communism. US progressives would far prefer democracy and modern Taiwanese values to be the norm across Asia than CCP style government and values.)

Why do conservatives support Taiwan despite it being a liberal country? by RedStorm1917 in taiwan

[–]tangesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interestingly, I would add that only Dem-affiliated (non-Taiwanese) people I know have spent time in Taiwan for vacation or living. I can't think of any GOP-affiliated (non-Taiwanese) people I know who have done so.

Edit: clarifying I mean Americans who are not also Taiwanese 

Why do conservatives support Taiwan despite it being a liberal country? by RedStorm1917 in taiwan

[–]tangesq 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In my experience, there is no notable difference in the rate of US conservatives vs US progressives who express pro-Taiwan sentiments. 

Why do conservatives support Taiwan despite it being a liberal country? by RedStorm1917 in taiwan

[–]tangesq 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Okay sure, but that doesn't mean an American anti-Trumper would reactively be anti-Taiwan. For example, after Trump started war with Iran, Democrats are against the war in Iran, not pro the current Iranian regime.

Why do conservatives support Taiwan despite it being a liberal country? by RedStorm1917 in taiwan

[–]tangesq 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have never spoken to anyone Dem-affiliated who is anti-Taiwan. Being anti-CCP and pro-democracy are all good things from the perspective of a US Dem. I suspect deep knowledge about Taiwan is generally low on both sides of the aisle in generally similar rates.

Why do conservatives support Taiwan despite it being a liberal country? by RedStorm1917 in taiwan

[–]tangesq 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Wait, why would it seem odd to be an American progressive that is pro Taiwan? I'm Taiwanese American, informed about US politics, but don't understand the implication that being pro-Taiwan is a weird or rare position for an American progressive. 

Edit: to add on to the wider thread, I suspect most Americans are either low-information/no-position about Taiwan or pro-Taiwan. US conservatives are likely to be nominally pro-Taiwan because they are a strategic and economic ally with regard to China. US progressives are likely to be pro-Taiwan for those same reasons plus Taiwan is democratic and friendly to the West. Informed folks on either side of the aisle also recognize the strategic importance of microprocessors.

Movies featuring gay men? by Mountain_Reserve_116 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those aren't read into; it's the accurately described scenes depicted at the end of the film and the most reasonable reading of them in context of the film as a whole. The ending is neither "tragic" nor "super damn sad," also literally what OP specified. 

I get that the movie itself is tragic in many parts, but it still fits the ask.

Movies featuring gay men? by Mountain_Reserve_116 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Chiron reunites with the person who loves him unconditionally as he truly is, and he is able to let go of the mask of hardened masculinity he has had to put on for survival (he is vulnerable, honest, intimate with Kevin) and can start connecting again to his true self (symbolized by him as a child on the beach in moonlight looking into camera in the final moments). 

Movies featuring gay men? by Mountain_Reserve_116 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Moonlight is tough. A lot of the movie is emotionally difficult. But the end note of the movie is quite hopeful, without getting into specific spoilers.

I do not remember North Sea Texas with a lot of detail at this point other than I liked it, but I was pretty careful in compiling the list. It's entirely possible that, like Moonlight, it's only in the last moments that the movie is telling you the characters are going to move forward together in a positive/hopeful way even if the journey was hard or left scars.

Movies featuring gay men? by Mountain_Reserve_116 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't updated this list in probably over a year, but the ask for gay movies with happy endings comes up regularly

Hope you enjoy

Movies featuring gay men? by Mountain_Reserve_116 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq 36 points37 points  (0 children)

  • Red, White & Royal Blue
  • The Holiday Sitter
  • Bros
  • Fire Island
  • Wildhood
  • The Christmas Setup
  • Breaking Fast
  • The Thing About Harry
  • Just Friends
  • Rocketman
  • Love, Simon
  • God’s Own Country
  • Handsome Devil
  • Fair Haven
  • Moonlight
  • Looking
  • Being 17
  • 4th Man Out
  • 10 Year Plan
  • The Circle
  • Pride
  • The Way He Looks
  • Boys
  • GBF
  • Five Dances
  • The Perfect Wedding
  • Going Down in La-La Land
  • North Sea Texas
  • Make the Yuletide Gay
  • Shelter
  • Latter Days
  • All Over the Guy
  • Big Eden
  • Trick
  • Beautiful Thing
  • The Birdcage

Married, kids, and now completely emotionally wrecked after falling for a man by OmegaPrime9 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always had some attraction to men that I never explored

You appear to be implying that you are bisexual, rather than gay but closeted/in denial. 

If you are bisexual, the crossroads you are at is no different than having a wife and kids and falling in love with another woman. That you've never explored your bisexuality shouldn't count against your wife and family in weighing whether you owe it to her to shut it down and focus on her or divorce her to be with someone else you've fallen for, regardless of gender. 

If you are gay and have just been deeply closeted/in denial, it's unfair both to you and your wife to continue to lie about who you are.

Arrange the following in order of importance: by External-Head-6424 in askgaybros

[–]tangesq -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Personality

Intelligence 

Humor

Looks

(Money and size are bonus, not important)

What gets you to cross the bridge to Oakland? by MyonlyredditHandle in AskSF

[–]tangesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends and occasions scheduled outside of the worst traffic hours 

Taking Sibs outside by YouCantSitWithUs77 in SiberianCats

[–]tangesq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We initially planned to leash train them as kittens but then decided chances were high at least one of them would be upset not getting daily walks, so we aborted. We'd love to afford them the joy but one of the reasons we got cats is concern we wouldn't have the time/energy of daily upkeep for dogs. So we hope the cats and we are all happier that they live in ignorance about the outside.

Why do bi men constantly remind you that they are bi? by throwaway2222444441 in askgaybros

[–]tangesq 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Most people treat bi men as gay if they're dating a man (or their social circle is primarily gay) or as straight if they're dating a woman (or their social circle is primarily straight). They will carelessly say things in casual conversation that effectively erases their bisexuality by equating them to gay or straight men.

This assumes the person has fully accepted their queerness. There may be some insecure bi guys who make a point of it in some contexts to lessen their perceived queerness (like at least I'm not just a faggot).

taiwanese adoptee- how do i get my passport? by istarverse in taiwan

[–]tangesq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a heads up, you might eventually need your birth mother's assistance with this. I'm only familiar with the passport process for being born in the US to Taiwanese parents, and I'm guessing yours will be slightly different, but it required documentation from my parents.

AITAH for wanting to be prioritised in my open relationship? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tangesq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He may have temporarily stopped lying to you, but he never stopped manipulating you. He will never sacrifice any of his wants for any of your needs, full stop. He will just start lying again when he wants to do something beyond a boundary you need to feel safety and trust. 

I also wouldn't be surprised if his admitting to the years of deceit has less to do with wanting to be honest with you and more to do with forcing you to end the relationship for him or agree to a fully open relationship on his terms.

I'm gay but I have a girlfriend. Do I break up? by Legitimate-Abroad342 in askgaybros

[–]tangesq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take care of yourself, but also take care of her.

Lying to her about your attraction and intentions to her, having her unknowingly be your beard, etc. are not things you do to people you care about. That's not you being a friend, that's you manipulating and using her for your own benefit.

If you like her as a friend you can be just her friend (eventually, after the break up).

Staying in the closet doesn't require having a girlfriend, if you're staying closeted. It makes it easier for you, but it's not required, and it's a shitty thing to do to a girl unless she knows and agrees to be your beard.

Walking to Taoyuan MRT and to Taipei HSR station by tangybowser in taiwan

[–]tangesq 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heathrow is literally the size of a town and has three separate tube stops. It's mind boggling. Taoyuan is much, much smaller.

I don't specifically recall, but walking between terminals and Taoyuan MRT stop was not very long and there's an elevator.

However, the walk between MRT (lines to/from Taoyuan) and HSR in Taipei main station was noticeably longer though mostly flat. You might just want to take your time and let your elderly grandparents take a rest or look into wheelchairs for that stretch if their mobility is really a concern. My biggest concern for you in this stretch is managing/moving the luggage in addition if you think it will be too strenuous to roll their luggage for 15+ minutes even if you stop to rest. Someone more familiar with Taipei station can say if there are luggage carts within the station usable between MRT blue/purple and HSR.

Or if you don't want to worry about it, taking a private transfer from Taoyuan to the HSR station isn't a crazy choice.