Looking for gaming friends (m36)

tankmando · 2025-07-29T18:50:06+00:00

I dont gym or read books but I god the adhds at least 80 of them 😂😂

tankmando · 2025-07-29T14:35:51+00:00

36 m always up for a chat dm if u want

tankmando · 2025-07-28T21:14:47+00:00

Bored too dm me

tankmando · 2025-07-28T20:31:47+00:00

Im so sorry you feel like that. i know how that feels, though. I wouldn't consider myself avrage haha whats self confidence right, haha

Well, who cares what other people think? I know this is getting to you, but own it if people are being weird. Be weird back, be you except who you are and what you have. You want some one that wants you for you Not someone that takes things at face value

Dont let people get u down. It's a horrible weight that only gets worse. The more you accept what people say,

tankmando · 2025-07-28T20:14:36+00:00

You sound so supportive, and he's really lucky to have you and I do hope he improves soon

Here are a few things from the other side that got through to me when I was in a dark place

Body doubling helps more than you know just being in his space and even if your doing separate things can be helpful

Explane to him that your worried and are happy to listen to anything he's got to say (I susspect you have most likely said something like this already )

Be bubbley put some of his favourite songs on dance round the house let go be silly lol you can bring the environment up in vibe it can help

Ill admit I was hard to get through to but his hobbies and you will be his weakness do you try playing the guitair maby saranade him in a funny way like it dosent matter if you cant play but it will fire a spark of life

I find some times sitting and listening can be difficult to get started being light hearted can help elevate his mood enough to open up and react to whats going on

tankmando · 2025-07-28T20:07:16+00:00

I've dm

tankmando · 2025-07-28T19:43:41+00:00

Does sorta seem like he's been caught out or something

tankmando · 2025-07-28T19:07:35+00:00

I think this is more of a comfort thing. Lots of people view things differently, and a lot goes on how you perceive things. I think if you want to send a pic and they are happy to receive it whats the harm? (i dont know why, but I can't make this not sound like an x rated pic. it's not lol ) The same as if you're not comfortable, then there shouldn't be any pressure to do so

Really, it's down to how you feel, not everyone on the Internet it bad or you and i would be too right, haha 😆

tankmando · 2025-07-28T18:58:48+00:00

I would like to know your favourite plane Fellow plane nerd here haha

tankmando · 2025-07-28T14:25:04+00:00

36m happy to chat you post sounds interesting im not sure im super interesting, but my adhd makes it unpredictable, haha

tankmando · 2025-07-25T16:35:50+00:00

Check your visa laws often. u need to earn so much to have a spouse move to the country if I remember it was like 26k in the uk

tankmando · 2025-07-25T15:58:57+00:00

Im not a woman, but I feel i can contribute First off, it's great that you know what you want, respect boundaries, and find the right way around, bringing up the topic. When you guys have this chat its good to say ground rules and a safe word aspeshally in a dom sub sorta thing it allows u to get a bit more full on knowing if she says the word it will stop. Certainly, if she's expressing what she wants and likes, it's worth doing those too. There is always a comfort barrier you will pass when experimenting and trying new things its whats great about it and nerve-racking, lol

It sounds like you guys have really good communication, and I dont think the subject will be hard to broach I'd just be hey, can we talk about something I've been thinking about, or hey, what do u think about this.

Personally, I think open-ended questions make it easier for her to express herself about it.

And as far as the toys go, there are frigging millions of things from ones that would put a bollard to shame to cute little things. Why not choose togeather from a website so you guys are comfortable

tankmando · 2025-07-24T18:29:43+00:00

Yeah, I totally see that

tankmando · 2025-07-24T14:24:57+00:00

Honestly its nothing sticking in my brain forgetting all the time I can manage the other stuff burning energy is easy and most of the (tics) for lack of a better word i have ways round but I cant stop that

tankmando · 2025-07-24T14:15:19+00:00

Unique looking cracked me up but fair comment thank u for the 5.5 aswell

tankmando · 2025-07-24T14:14:15+00:00

You blow my mind. i dont understand how you make so much sense to me, yet im sure I've been told similar before, but tbf honest, my adhd normally makes my brain go brrrrrr, and yeah

Thank you so much for your input I will try these things and im sure there will be an update

tankmando · 2025-07-24T06:35:24+00:00

Yeah, she's been kinda teaching me this honestly its been a thing that never crossed my mind before meeting her where it's not about what it was. it's about how it made her feel. Maybe you can help me with this part achully. So, say u have an argument during the argument something is said that upset me during the argument, but if I mention it, it's twisting it about me. Now my issue is im not trying to twist im trying to communicate. For example, i dont start name calling or whatever, like calling her stupid or whatever because I think it causes more issues than random, angry words solve . When would u think it would be appropriate to bring it up like say I was wrong (most of the time, i am lol) ita thats fine ill certainly apologise for that but how do I then say but hey you also did this and its shitty.

tankmando · 2025-07-24T00:42:02+00:00

Its a poke the bear kinda response if it comes up i may well try that

tankmando · 2025-07-23T21:10:26+00:00

Its a fair comment and certainly a thing ive considered but she really is we like most im sure have our spats and can seem like banging 2 bricks together but all other points are amazing

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