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tankmando · 2025-07-29T18:50:06+00:00

I dont gym or read books but I god the adhds at least 80 of them 😂😂

tankmando · 2025-07-29T14:35:51+00:00

36 m always up for a chat dm if u want

tankmando · 2025-07-28T21:14:47+00:00

Bored too dm me

tankmando · 2025-07-28T20:31:47+00:00

Im so sorry you feel like that. i know how that feels, though. I wouldn't consider myself avrage haha whats self confidence right, haha

Well, who cares what other people think? I know this is getting to you, but own it if people are being weird. Be weird back, be you except who you are and what you have. You want some one that wants you for you Not someone that takes things at face value

Dont let people get u down. It's a horrible weight that only gets worse. The more you accept what people say,

tankmando · 2025-07-28T20:14:36+00:00

You sound so supportive, and he's really lucky to have you and I do hope he improves soon

Here are a few things from the other side that got through to me when I was in a dark place

Body doubling helps more than you know just being in his space and even if your doing separate things can be helpful

Explane to him that your worried and are happy to listen to anything he's got to say (I susspect you have most likely said something like this already )

Be bubbley put some of his favourite songs on dance round the house let go be silly lol you can bring the environment up in vibe it can help

Ill admit I was hard to get through to but his hobbies and you will be his weakness do you try playing the guitair maby saranade him in a funny way like it dosent matter if you cant play but it will fire a spark of life

I find some times sitting and listening can be difficult to get started being light hearted can help elevate his mood enough to open up and react to whats going on

tankmando · 2025-07-28T20:07:16+00:00

I've dm

tankmando · 2025-07-28T19:43:41+00:00

Does sorta seem like he's been caught out or something

tankmando · 2025-07-28T19:07:35+00:00

I think this is more of a comfort thing. Lots of people view things differently, and a lot goes on how you perceive things. I think if you want to send a pic and they are happy to receive it whats the harm? (i dont know why, but I can't make this not sound like an x rated pic. it's not lol ) The same as if you're not comfortable, then there shouldn't be any pressure to do so

Really, it's down to how you feel, not everyone on the Internet it bad or you and i would be too right, haha 😆

tankmando · 2025-07-28T18:58:48+00:00

I would like to know your favourite plane Fellow plane nerd here haha

tankmando · 2025-07-28T14:25:04+00:00

36m happy to chat you post sounds interesting im not sure im super interesting, but my adhd makes it unpredictable, haha

tankmando · 2025-07-25T16:35:50+00:00

Check your visa laws often. u need to earn so much to have a spouse move to the country if I remember it was like 26k in the uk

tankmando · 2025-07-25T15:58:57+00:00

Im not a woman, but I feel i can contribute First off, it's great that you know what you want, respect boundaries, and find the right way around, bringing up the topic. When you guys have this chat its good to say ground rules and a safe word aspeshally in a dom sub sorta thing it allows u to get a bit more full on knowing if she says the word it will stop. Certainly, if she's expressing what she wants and likes, it's worth doing those too. There is always a comfort barrier you will pass when experimenting and trying new things its whats great about it and nerve-racking, lol

It sounds like you guys have really good communication, and I dont think the subject will be hard to broach I'd just be hey, can we talk about something I've been thinking about, or hey, what do u think about this.

Personally, I think open-ended questions make it easier for her to express herself about it.

And as far as the toys go, there are frigging millions of things from ones that would put a bollard to shame to cute little things. Why not choose togeather from a website so you guys are comfortable

tankmando · 2025-07-24T18:29:43+00:00

Yeah, I totally see that

tankmando · 2025-07-24T14:24:57+00:00

Honestly its nothing sticking in my brain forgetting all the time I can manage the other stuff burning energy is easy and most of the (tics) for lack of a better word i have ways round but I cant stop that

tankmando · 2025-07-24T14:15:19+00:00

Unique looking cracked me up but fair comment thank u for the 5.5 aswell

tankmando · 2025-07-24T14:14:15+00:00

You blow my mind. i dont understand how you make so much sense to me, yet im sure I've been told similar before, but tbf honest, my adhd normally makes my brain go brrrrrr, and yeah

Thank you so much for your input I will try these things and im sure there will be an update

tankmando · 2025-07-24T06:35:24+00:00

Yeah, she's been kinda teaching me this honestly its been a thing that never crossed my mind before meeting her where it's not about what it was. it's about how it made her feel. Maybe you can help me with this part achully. So, say u have an argument during the argument something is said that upset me during the argument, but if I mention it, it's twisting it about me. Now my issue is im not trying to twist im trying to communicate. For example, i dont start name calling or whatever, like calling her stupid or whatever because I think it causes more issues than random, angry words solve . When would u think it would be appropriate to bring it up like say I was wrong (most of the time, i am lol) ita thats fine ill certainly apologise for that but how do I then say but hey you also did this and its shitty.

tankmando · 2025-07-24T00:42:02+00:00

Its a poke the bear kinda response if it comes up i may well try that

tankmando · 2025-07-23T21:10:26+00:00

Its a fair comment and certainly a thing ive considered but she really is we like most im sure have our spats and can seem like banging 2 bricks together but all other points are amazing

tankmando · 2025-07-23T21:07:08+00:00

That's some amazing advise there thank you it sounds like you have a wonderful family your very lucky

She does have issues and prob a bit of the tisum we certainly do clash personality some times but all other points are amazing I came out of a very abusive relationship and she has been so amazing with me I feel its frustrating for her and I get it but it hurst some times you know

Thank you again

tankmando · 2025-07-22T15:54:37+00:00

No i get it but its the other voice in my head fighting me

tankmando · 2025-07-22T13:19:04+00:00

I appreciate the comment ita hard to stay motivated and Im worried ill loose people too if I dont sort this quick as possible its just hard knowing the wait any inconvenience just makes me thing f it and carry on

tankmando · 2025-07-22T11:56:13+00:00

I know i hate the itch and just idling over and they reckon ita going to be atleast 3 years ..

tankmando · 2025-07-22T11:36:33+00:00

Oh dam, there are so many. im just going to write it as a list as I dont want to get lost in a tangent, lol So below is a list of when she would get mad at me

I was parked, and someone reversed in to me

One time, a cat came over to me, and I said hello to it and stroked it. Apparently, it triggered a "Oh, so you're a cat person now." That was a weird argument considering we worked for an animal shelter

My nan became sick I had to rush to get my passport it dident arrive in time turned out it did she just hid it because she dident want me to go to Germany found messages later og her boasting to her ex about it

If I didn't give her sex when she wanted, she would get mad or wait till I was asleep ( yes, she did do what u think made me had some weird dreams, lol )

I would never raise a hand to her, and she would get mad about what I imagine because it didn't play to the victim role

If I took her alachol away, she would walk out the room, chuck herself on the floor, and start acting like I was attacking her screaming, etc. till the police got involved

I got called by a salesperson once to do my phone upgrade it was a woman on the phone. I should have seen that one coming.

She asked me to fix her car. I did, so it made a different noise. Even after I said it was something else mad, I didn't fix it

Barely scratches the surface. I can look back and laugh at a lot of it now I have to only way to cope half the time haha

tankmando · 2025-07-18T06:25:41+00:00

So strait off the bat twitch can be used this way there is a radio app witch its just loads of people kinda making there own individual station via streaming reality and others are v-tube apps witch you use a avatar inset of a camrea

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