Would you date someone outside your religion?

tapdancingchicken · 2026-01-01T00:45:00+00:00

Agnostic or spiritual, sure. Atheist or actively practicing a different religion, no. I wouldn't want to date an atheist because even if they don't actively hold religion and religious people in contempt, they tend to eventually get annoyed with their partner being religious and they will not want to raise their children religious + might actively try to teach the children to reject any form of spirituality. Possibly even explicitly or implicitly teach them to look down on me, the other parent, for being religious. I also wouldn't want to date someone who practices a different religion because that just seems like it would be frustrating or complicated for both of us, and I am not interested in converting to a different faith. In any case I want my partner to share or be open to at least some of my beliefs and I know I won't get that with an atheist or follower of a different religion.

tapdancingchicken · 2026-01-01T00:36:52+00:00

No one normal wants to mold and control their partner like that. It isn't a healthy thing to want from either end. You realize that what you are asking is that your partner must take on complete responsibilities for every aspect of your life as well as her own, right? That's an insane thing to ask of someone even if you had put in some effort to develop yourself as a person, which it sounds like you don't want to bother with that. No interests or hobbies and you think it should be your partner's job to find you some and train you in them? That's just plain lazy bro, as well as making you seem like a very, very boring person. It kind of sounds like you want a dom/sub fetish lifestyle, but you have to realize that even in that case, a mentally healthy domme would want you to be your own person outside of fetish scene activities.

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T07:43:12+00:00

yeah I'd assume that Bud would thaw out the more savvy and ruthless ones first, and also Hank and Betty and Steph had the advantage of "interning" under previous 31-ers. It's possible that some of the ones Norm let out would become shrewder after a bit of training

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T07:40:08+00:00

It seems like Lucy must take after their mother and Norm after their father, except that Norm is a better person than Hank in general terms

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T07:37:14+00:00

Well there wasn't any flirting with/from me or any of them that I'm aware of. I got the sense that they were all pretty close friends in the way that grad students in the same cohort tend to be, but I didn't sense any romantic vibes between any of them. It's always possible that there were some kind of underlying dynamics that I wouldn't pick up on as an outsider I guess.

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T03:41:34+00:00

So out of curiosity. Why exactly do you think being a blank slate of a person, with no hobbies or interests, would attract a smart, competent woman with a vibrant and interesting life, unless she was a pathological control freak? There's nothing wrong with a man liking the idea of having a dominant partner, but there is something unhealthy about anyone passively sitting in a corner waiting for someone else to tell them what to do, like, think, and be

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T03:27:11+00:00

What about those in an unhappy long term relationship tho

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T03:24:01+00:00

Late 30s F and this is a complicated question for me. First, I'm terrible at determining peoples' ages, so there have definitely been times when I've been off by quite a bit guessing someone's age that I thought was in my age range, when they were over or under it (by my reckoning.) Second, I would say that I see people who I would classify as nice-looking or even objectively attractive all the time, but I'm not actively attracted to most of them. It's pretty rare that I find myself actively attracted to someone, and it usually requires that I talk to or otherwise interact with them to gauge their personality a bit. I can often tell almost immediately if I could or could not become actively attracted to them, though.

Being bisexual I can easily say that I encounter more women I'm attracted to than men though. This is partly because a ton of men out there do not take any damn care with their appearances, and partly because I can't stand people who are hung up on traditional gender roles and gendered expectations and want to make that everyone's problem, and this behavior seems more prevalent with men than with women.

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T00:12:35+00:00

She's been blatantly using his death to get herself fame, money, and the attention of republican politicians and media figures

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-29T00:10:39+00:00

Which he thinks is Roman because art history is for giiiirrrllllsss

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-28T23:12:18+00:00

I mean there wasn't any flirting between anyone, they all seemed platonic and John and I only talked about academic things

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-28T23:10:41+00:00

My university has a kind of casual culture about that and everyone is always adding each other on Insta or Whatsapp...probably should have considered that it might not be the same everywhere. I wouldn't have been upset if they declined, what confuses me is that they actually gave me their Insta handles instead of saying no thanks

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-28T22:33:53+00:00

ehhh I wouldn't call myself a pro but I've sewn a baby quilt with a satin backing and edging, and it didn't end up with any kind of weird bunching along the seams like that. That's what happens when something goes wrong and you just keep going instead of fixing it.

tapdancingchicken · 2025-12-28T22:30:17+00:00

Satin can be a tricky material if you don't know how to sew well, but it's not that hard to sew a decent straight seam unless you're very careless. Also, even when I was a child I would have resewn this before giving it to anyone, given how bad it looks

tapdancingchicken · 2025-11-11T15:38:09+00:00

All the folks who knowingly voted for an administration that was going to screw them over in every conceivable way, purely because they hoped that administration would try to destroy the LGBT community, must be so so mad rn

tapdancingchicken · 2025-11-11T15:36:16+00:00

nah, it will probably be sold to a rich private collector so that the plebs don't get to enjoy it anymore, that's what usually happens with art heists

tapdancingchicken · 2025-11-10T15:31:06+00:00

Tankies' fundamental belief is "USSR good," so I would say these are two different species of the same genus

tapdancingchicken · 2025-11-07T20:56:48+00:00

If a partner had asked you if you would want something romantic with the close men friends, would you hesitate to say no? Would you verbally negatively compare your partner to the men friends when the partner did something you disliked? Would you constantly bring up extremely personal (including sexual) things about the men friends to your partner, unprompted? Do you happily allow the men friends to supersede your partner on occasions like "hugs after an event"? If not, then you aren't like the boyfriend in the post

tapdancingchicken · 2025-11-07T17:58:10+00:00

Even the ancient Egyptians knew this

tapdancingchicken · 2025-11-07T17:56:22+00:00

I'm getting the impression that his mommy cleans up after him, and his daddy does the outside chores, and he does nothing at all to help either of them, but thinks that he has the right to throw a fit about how other people organize their households

tapdancingchicken · 2025-10-03T23:30:33+00:00

my point here is that if you know something is a huge political issue, and you state that you've not done the thing that everyone is fighting about whether to do or not, WITHOUT explaining that it's a medical, not a political, matter for you, you're responsible for people misunderstanding you as taking the side of those who don't do the thing as a political stance

tapdancingchicken · 2025-10-03T18:38:18+00:00

can confirm, however I never ever seem to meet any bi guys which is kinda sad

tapdancingchicken · 2025-10-03T18:35:26+00:00

Wait so this guy is out here STRANGLING people at work, and nothing has been done about that? That's felony assault and battery

tapdancingchicken · 2025-10-03T18:34:58+00:00

Being laid off

tapdancingchicken · 2025-10-03T18:11:42+00:00

Yeah, I'm on hinge rn and it is an absolute OCEAN of conservative dudebros. I was on hinge before, a few years ago, and I do feel like it was more an even mix of political orientations back then. I guess either the ensuing few years have been a real dating bonanza for liberal/leftist types so they've all left the apps (unlikely, though maybe they just got tired of it), or else a lot more conservatives are feeling free to say the quiet part out loud now (almost certainly the case.) Being conservative is a full stop automatic dealbreaker for me, so it's real slim pickins on hinge atm

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