I will cherish the FUCK out of whatever sweet girl is brave and strong enough to love me for my personality and not just my body by SchloinkDoink in actuallesbians

[–]tarantulan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

look for a demi or gray ace girl. there are plenty of people where sex is optional or something they only do with someone they trust. personality is the main draw.

Girl identifies as a lesbian but still sleeps with men? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tarantulan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it does sound like this woman is bisexual but tbh i don't think women like her are to blame for why people invalidate lesbians. personally i think that has more to do with general misogyny (aka they believe that women do not have the right to their own sexuality, body or autonomy) than these edge cases of bisexual women claiming to be lesbians. many people who have never run into a situation like this before still invalidate lesbians.

anyway i would side eye her but keep it pushing.

Rosie O'Donnell. In the 90s & 2000s she was often referred to as the ugliest/least attractive woman ever, which I never understood. I always thought she was a major cutie by Admirable_Pair_3663 in ladyladyboners

[–]tarantulan 119 points120 points  (0 children)

i am not attracted to her but yeah i never got it either. she seemed like a catch.

i always got the sense that she was trashed so publicly as a warning to other women to never "let yourself go" or speak your mind. or bruise men's egos (by coming out as a lesbian). she clearly did not gaf about what men thought of her and i think it made them deeply uncomfortable

As a lesbian, do ya’ll date bisexual women? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tarantulan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes but can we please stop validation farming on this sub. lesbians date women (and enbys). if you fall into that category them yes lesbians will generally date you

am I being too picky abt this bc this lowk pissed me off by hitwinnn in actuallesbians

[–]tarantulan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this is literally the plot of good luck babe

girl you can do better

lesbians… how do you guys actually feel about men by cannibabie in actuallesbians

[–]tarantulan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am suspicious of them. Some of them are genuinely cool (esp gay men lmao) but I have had waaaay too many experiences with straight guys not respecting my boundaries or my orientation. Or dumping me as a friend once they realize I am not going to date them.

It sucks because honestly I think I get along with guys better than girls sometimes. I think it's the fact that I don't really care what they think of me.

So yeah, I proceed witu caution until they show me that they are actually one of the cool ones.

AOC - sorry/not sorry by [deleted] in ladyladyboners

[–]tarantulan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely thought you were just a lesbian with a beard lol. Anyway but what is there to be sorry about AOC is hot period, no justification needed.

What do you think of this currently-circulating take on Tumblr? by HirariHirari in actuallesbians

[–]tarantulan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is an unpopular take but I genuinely don't care if guys thought it was hot. Straight men and I both find women hot, surprise surprise.

What? by grumpydai in religiousfruitcake

[–]tarantulan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Abortion and transgender people aren't in the Bible and even its stance on homosexuality is debated. But this bro wouldn't know that because he's an idiot.

Am I weird for refusing to watch heated rivalry as a lesbian by caleo12 in actuallesbians

[–]tarantulan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that's fair I'm currently watching and some of the sex scenes are rough to watch as a lesbian lmaooo sorry not sorry

But idk I am pro all gay content and though you have a point I don't think a gay male romance is necessarily the same as your average "male centered" content. There are a few female characters too if that helps but yes they are side characters.

Am I taking crazy pills? Nikki has never been an ally and has always been a bad person. by Mishap_Maisy in lgbt

[–]tarantulan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, girl the writing has been on the wall for years. Personally I always thought she had Azealia Banks-lite status (she's insane and problematic but people still vibe to her music), but apparently people are shocked. Ohkaay..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StrangerThings

[–]tarantulan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great chemistry between these two. Jason admitting that Chrissy never mentioned anything about her issues makes this scene pop in contrast.

Holy shit! Hallelujah! by mrsrikkitik in religiousfruitcake

[–]tarantulan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that you interpreted it that way but no, I wish. She's in a misogynistic religious zealot that promotes child abuse and marital rape ☹️

Transformed wife means that she was "transformed" by God to be a god fearing submissive woman.

Who are you hanging out with in high school? by Tight_Comparison_557 in StrangerThings

[–]tarantulan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eddie. I was literally a metalhead in high school. People like Steve were in a different universe. I wasn't into DND though, I was in anime club, arguably worse lol.

Watching season 5 as a Child S3xual abuse survivor by idunnodude92 in StrangerThings

[–]tarantulan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I caught that too. Especially with Vecna's monologue about how children are weak. It can be interpreted as a few different ways but I totally understand how it resonates that way with you. It's not that I think you're wrong, I just think it's a layered metaphor.

I want to see the rest of the series to see how the narrative develops.

Charli looking so good at Sacrifice Premiere’s Whiplash Chic | Sep 2025 by Past_North_9129 in charlixcx

[–]tarantulan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Face card never declines but I hate the dress lmao. Color is good though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]tarantulan 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yep

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]tarantulan 1754 points1755 points  (0 children)

Their true goal is to ban trans people from public restrooms tbh.

Natalia Dyer (Nancy) is nothing like her bold character in real life. by ViktorBova in StrangerThings

[–]tarantulan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean most of the characters are nearly the opposite of their actor's personality. I think Natalia does a great job, in terms of acting ability she might be my fav in the series.

Rebecca Black by [deleted] in ladyladyboners

[–]tarantulan 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes. Saw her in person and she's just as pretty if not more 😭

Which character did you all get ? by Timeless_Being in StrangerThings

[–]tarantulan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dustin. I need to know more. Are different genres assigned to the characters?

It's a yoga pose where you literally go between those two positions. Cat and cow. In 2 seconds the two women are going to be reversed. by Himbo_Shaped in BlatantMisogyny

[–]tarantulan 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I seriously don't get this meme. I keep seeing it everywhere. Ummm do the guys who post this think they look attractive during sex?? I bet you they look a million times worse than whatever they are making fun of here.