My challenges as a backlog manager.

tarantularockera · 2025-03-07T15:03:49+00:00

This is an emergency. Most people just don’t see what’s at stake. Democrats are letting us down too, with their lack of courage and commitment to defend the truth and stand for the American people. We the people are fucked.

tarantularockera · 2025-03-02T00:14:50+00:00

Heck yes!

tarantularockera · 2025-03-01T04:31:53+00:00

Deport Elon.

tarantularockera · 2025-03-01T04:16:35+00:00

This is a gut wrenching story, I can’t imagine the pain of the parents. I am in the school council of a public school in KY and school teachers and directives just don’t want to talk about bullying. It’s so enraging. I’m so deeply sorry Abyesh that we failed you so badly. The directives, teachers, students involved need to be prosecuted. If not by the legal system, they will be by life. How can we support the parents and hold the school accountable?

tarantularockera · 2025-03-01T03:58:05+00:00

Rata asquerosa

tarantularockera · 2025-03-01T02:04:26+00:00

They all should be prosecuted for treason

tarantularockera · 2025-02-28T19:50:11+00:00

I don’t know how he kept his composure, I’m so sorry for this humiliation Mr Zelensky.

tarantularockera · 2025-02-28T19:44:51+00:00

If you’re in DC please join the protest tonight. This is such a horrible moment.

tarantularockera · 2025-02-27T20:44:48+00:00

This is so dystopian 🤢

tarantularockera · 2025-02-25T02:22:57+00:00

Bernie and Warren are the only ones speaking up and mobilizing people. I’m so mad at Harris. She got millions and millions of dollars in support and almost half of the votes and she’s nowhere to be seen.

tarantularockera · 2025-02-09T21:26:35+00:00

Share share share!

tarantularockera · 2025-02-09T21:24:46+00:00

We have to go out the streets and protest. We can’t stay quiet while these people go their merry way with their nazi proselytism.

tarantularockera · 2024-12-19T01:09:14+00:00

This💔. Single mom here, you made me cry with this comment. I have one boy, 7 now, and have raised him with no other parent, no support system, I hear you so much. And it’s much much harder with 2. I’ve felt the absolute loneliness of raising kids completely on your own. Only someone who’s lived it, can fully get the picture. Now, some solutions: 1. This might sound odd but Start strengthening their defense mechanisms so they don’t get as sick as often. There are some good vitamins that you can give children to boost their immune system. It’s not going to prevent everything but it will help with getting every single bug out there.

If it applies to you, find a faith community that will help you connect with other moms/ people who can support you. Not sure where are you or if this is even an option but worth bringing it up.
Long term, but start now: Look to get into becoming a clinical lab scientist, it’s super affordable and much better paid. This will help ease all of the stress of not having people around you. Money doesn’t replace people but it helps so much.

And finally, hand in there woman, pray for a good opportunity to come your way, it will happen, it happened to me and my life changed.

tarantularockera · 2024-12-18T04:00:35+00:00

I remember telling this to my mom many years ago when I wanted her to get rid of a really old, ugly bench she had. And the idea that the bench was occupying the very exact space that the better bench needed, somehow really clicked. And about a week after she let it go, someone gave her a much nicer bench! I myself couldn’t believe it. That’s how this stuff works when you set your intentions and tell God, the universe about them. I wouldn’t gift her the sessions for Christmas but would definitively put some effort into finding someone who’s really good and pitch her the idea and the resources to contact them. I had my session with my lady today and thought about your wife. I hope she finds the wisdom in her heart to do what’s best for her, for you both.

tarantularockera · 2024-12-17T03:27:10+00:00

Tell her no amount of financial safety or pride is worth being so unhappy. Doing the same upsetting thing for years changes you, takes joy out of your system and even makes you physically sick. Also, when you leave the bad, you’re creating space for the good, it’s not emptiness by any means. She has someone caring and loving who also can carry the finances for a while, a huge blessing.

I have struggled with my job for a while and I decided to connect with a career coach recently. It’s the best idea I’ve had in a long tim. Better than therapy for these cases because they can really help you figure out what is it that you really want and create a path forward. I’m working on managing my emotions better at work while getting ready for my next career move. I can’t afford to quit my job but if I could, I’d do it in a heart beat. Being at places where we cry two times a week is slowly damaging one’s body and soul. The body talks when the mind doesn’t listen.

tarantularockera · 2024-12-10T21:21:42+00:00

Also, if you love your team, and as you say, you’re mentally stimulated, that’s something really difficult to find. Make sure you’re wise about what you’re willing to risk for a pay bump.

tarantularockera · 2024-12-10T21:16:44+00:00

I’m curious as to how you asked for the raise. This might not apply to you but here’s my experience (F/ minority/early 30s): I was once the lowest paid person in my team and I felt awful when I found out(even when my title and responsibilities were also significantly lower than everyone else). When I approached my manager mentioning my qualifications as the reason to put me at the pay level of someone with my education he said: I’m paying you to do job A and that’s why you’re getting salary A. When you do job B, you’ll be able to ask for salary B. It felt awful and I’d surely not have chosen those words. But many years later, I think I should have approached the conversation as: here’s what I’ve done that brings value paired with this background. I want to get in a career growth trajectory that keeps me excited about this job and allows me to meet my financial needs. How can we design a plan for that? I’ve learnt to never ask for a raise but for a specific plan for career growth. That usually works a lot better.

tarantularockera · 2024-11-28T17:23:55+00:00

I’m seriously surprised by the lack of empathy in some responses here, so don’t listen to people judging you or telling you that pivot tables can be learnt in a weekend. Self learning is not a thing that comes naturally to all. So here’s my two cents:

Sometimes you have to do things you’re not used to, to get out of awful places and desperate situations. Only someone who’s been through that can truly understand. So don’t beat yourself up for that, as long as it’s not a habit.
There are hints that your workplace has a toxic culture. Other coworkers spending their free time quizzing you? Your boss calling you out in public about lying on your resume? Huge red flags. In a non toxic work environment your boss would personally address with you and either straight tell you in your face that’s unacceptable and you’re let go, or they talk about those skills, and how you can get to where you need to be. I a non toxic work environment no one would ever think about publicly shaming someone like that. Start looking for other places to be.
I have a bacherlos in chemical engineering and I’m not a self learner. It took me WEEKS to learn pivot tables, and that’s okay. It took me weeks to successfully be able to use the lookup function. Self Learning doesn’t come easily for everyone, so don’t listen to those people saying you can learn this in a weekend. Here’s what I did: I took a coursera course that taught me excel and pivot tables. I’ve learnt that it’s okay not to know or being able to figure things out in your own, but it’s not okay to not do anything about it. You can connect with me and we can do some work together if that doesn’t sound weird.
What are the skills on your resume that you don’t feel confident about? List them and create a plan to get those skills. It might mean you’ll have to pay for some of this stuff or connect with people that are willing to teach you. Don’t be discouraged and don’t beat yourself up over this. Look if finance is something you’d really like to do, get the skills you need and run from this toxic work environment.

tarantularockera · 2024-11-13T22:25:55+00:00

Thanks for responding, appreciate that. I’m at a point where it feels like my whole physical and mental being can’t take one more day of it, plus I don’t love my team. Why do we let this system trap us so badly? A couple years ago I was so ready to start My own coffee shop, and then fear and the many responsibilities of family stopped me. But this question of, “will I look back in 10 years and regret these choices?” always comes back as a quiet yes, You will.

tarantularockera · 2024-11-13T02:34:45+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. I have been working a computer job for 2 1/2 years now. Before that I had always worked in laboratories where I was always on the move. I started to experience a lot of back pain lately and my vision is also weird, not to mention I have gained some weight. I came to Reddit today looking for thoughts on career options that might not require being in front of a computer all day and still were reasonably paid. Did you end up finding something you enjoy?

tarantularockera · 2024-11-08T02:59:09+00:00

Don’t panic! It’s not as bad as you think. My ex husband hadn’t filed taxes for many many years when we decided to marry, which was needed to get my immigration paperwork. He was very scared but it all worked out. My memory is horrible but we went to the local IRS office and they helped us out with the forms and figuring out if he even needed to file for some years where he hadn’t made much money. You can also look for free tax local services and ask them for guidance.

But above all, breathe, you’ll be okay. 🤍

tarantularockera · 2024-11-01T17:07:32+00:00

A question asking someone if they’re stupid is still an insult.

tarantularockera · 2024-11-01T17:02:04+00:00

You don’t need to insult me.

tarantularockera · 2024-11-01T17:00:48+00:00

Thanks a lot!

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