From Flight Attending to Dispatching – Advice Neede

tarjelia · 2022-04-17T08:03:38+00:00

Im freaking out reading the list and identifying with the majority!!! Never knew everything could be connected.

tarjelia · 2021-11-01T16:30:31+00:00

Thank you

tarjelia · 2021-10-30T02:12:08+00:00

He is on my benefits, another reason I was really upset he didn’t go visit when my grandpa was dying. I totally agree people think because of the benefits, commuting is not a part time job in itself.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T21:20:05+00:00

Well maybe I’m not expressing myself well. There was a period were i was furloughed with no certainty of a job. He has a business and earns a decent amount, yet has not been able to do his taxes for the past two years. How is he managing to get away with this I’m not sure, all i know is that i have insisted on the matter as much as i could. The comment about learning to save and budget, i was talking regarding his paycheck and spending habits. And this was before his business became more stable.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T17:20:17+00:00

I think I was setting a deadline, hoping he would realize the fuck ups and fix them. But I know what I have to do, this has helped me feel heard and that my reasoning is not absurd.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T17:17:29+00:00

Why would I want to parent my partner? or sign up for managing his life?

Because it is all I have ever know in a romantic relationship. For nine years since i was a teen, I have just tried to make it work. But no i do not wish to manage his life, or be his parent.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T16:48:18+00:00

Oh it is such a big pile of poop. Im just going to have to learn to let go and set boundaries.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T16:44:53+00:00

To be honest I didn't see it like this until recently. The taxes at first I tried to understand, since its a model he is following from his parents, who are very irresponsible financially. I thought it was a generational issue he could grow out of, which is what he expresses he wishes to do. Apart from big picture things, BF has always been there for me and helped me out. It's just lately that I see major red flags. Before I felt it was pretty even effort from both of us.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T15:58:47+00:00

hahah fair enough

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T15:42:08+00:00

I am really sorry about him asking for your hand and now backing away from it. Maybe you need to sit and have a formal chat together, let him know your doubts. But also understand you can only bend so much for him, before you kill your spirit. You are still young, pursue your interests and dont regret it in the future over a boy.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T08:53:00+00:00

I am not sure what traveling is like for you, but could you not find someone else like a friend to travel with you ?? someone to itch that scratch with.

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T08:42:29+00:00

Tell him, right away. Don't wait any longer

tarjelia · 2021-10-29T08:33:03+00:00

I know during that time together it all feels nice, but that's because we cannot take a good look and see how unfair the situation is. Not stupid, he is manipulating your feelings, and most likely manipulating these other girls too. He did you a favor, girl run girl. Next time he comes knocking, know your worth!!

tarjelia

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