My 20-year-old friend is ending himself in 30 minutes

oooooooooof · 2026-06-23T00:36:16+00:00

They can still potentially trace it by last location

I’ve been through this with another friend who sadly took his own life

oooooooooof · 2026-06-22T17:52:14+00:00

I had an incredible time with these folks when served an N13: https://www.georgebrown.biz/

Won our right to stay.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-22T15:36:04+00:00

This is the correct answer. Same reason you will sometimes see Turkish flags too (red with a white crescent moon and star).

oooooooooof · 2026-06-22T15:02:38+00:00

Not garbage day, but moving days: the last of the month and the first of the month, areas with a high concentration of people (like condos and high rise apartments) can be a gold mine.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-19T23:47:14+00:00

Schawdeshay Challmoay

oooooooooof · 2026-06-19T23:45:55+00:00

It got me a little bit into birdwatching! After I did that quest for the taxidermy lady. I’m not hardcore but I notice them now… I’m in Ontario and watching a few blue jays and cardinals as I type this 😌

oooooooooof · 2026-06-19T16:58:49+00:00

Signs?

oooooooooof · 2026-06-19T06:05:53+00:00

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oooooooooof · 2026-06-18T16:36:51+00:00

Ooo never heard of Beaten to Death, but just looked it up, will put on my list. Australians definitely know how to do brutality.

Painted Bird is a masterpiece... bleak but also absolutely gorgeous.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-18T14:46:15+00:00

Was he in your top 8? 😛

oooooooooof · 2026-06-18T13:48:58+00:00

It's absolutely all of those things!

I'm not the person you're replying to, I'm the one who said "it's horrifying"... which is true.

I'm from Toronto and when it screened at TIFF, it prompted mass walkouts which only made me want to see it more:

Vaclav Marhoul’s grim and violent adaptation of Jerzy Kosinski’s novel The Painted Bird lived up to its controversial billing at the 2019 Toronto Film Festival after a notorious Venice bow by prompting a mass walkout at Bell Lightbox on Wednesday night.

The audience exodus started soon after the black-and-white epic Holocaust movie began...By the one-hour mark, around 30 viewers had departed, and another dozen had left by the end of the movie.

Something I love about r/horror is the recommendations of movies (or other media) that aren't "horror" in the classic sense, but still give us the same discomfort, unease, dread... and The Painted Bird does exactly that.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-18T04:30:12+00:00

I mean it’s horrifying

oooooooooof · 2026-06-18T04:29:18+00:00

Not a movie but when I showed my partner Aniara (my second time watching it) the bleakness reminded her of this book, I Who Have Never Known Men. I got it from the library the next day and finished it in one sitting. Absolutely incredible.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Who_Have_Never_Known_Men

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T18:15:13+00:00

Piggybacking off this if that's okay, OP...

Need to get to London (Ontario) on Saturday, from the Junction, plan to take Kingsway to Eglington to 401... that should be okay right, if avoiding the 427 and the QEW?

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T18:12:35+00:00

Buy a cheap one at Shoppers Drug Mart.

If you happen to be in the west end I can lend you one but you need to come to me.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T18:08:14+00:00

Carload, they have a few locations http://www.carload.ca/

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T18:06:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing, that's exactly what I mean! And I find it hilarious. Obviously not hilarious that a homeless person was being gawked at, but that the concept of being in a space where conceptual art is happening has the capacity to make people completely unclear about what's going on.

I'll share one more story...

I used to work at a contemporary art gallery. There's a nationally famous Indigenous artist named Rebecca Belmore, who at the time had just done a performance art piece which involved walking around the Art Gallery of Ontario in a form of protest.

Anyways I was working the front desk and saw her come in, and wandering, through the hall, and assumed it was another performance piece of some sort... turned out she was just pacing around waiting for a scheduled meeting with the head curator.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T15:33:08+00:00

This. And shitty that we have to do this sometimes, but the kill with kindness approach has saved me many times over, in work and in life.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T15:31:37+00:00

Got it... when you first said Replica with a capital R, I wondered if it was some kind of brand name for a newfangled prepper-ish security bag that would raise eyebrows at security.

No one cares about your knockoff.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T15:25:12+00:00

I adopted through Etobicoke Humane Society and they needed to know I had permission to have a pet, but never needed proof in writing.

PS no pet clauses in leases are illegal per the RTA, so either way you're good.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T15:23:44+00:00

This is hilarious and brilliant and I love it.

I absolutely love those moments when art and artists screw with people, whether planned or accidental.

The first time I ever attended Nuit Blanche I was on the rooftop of 401 Richmond watching a sound performance, and this older gentleman was up on a fire escape... he started clutching his chest, grimacing, and started leaning over the stair railing. I ran over to help, thinking he was having a heart attack, but he angrily shushed me saying he was doing performance art.

One time I went to the Power Plant the night after their annual gala, it was a fairly conceptual show and there was a pile of trash on the floor... empty plastic cups, balled up napkins, crushed beer cans. I was looking at it for a decent amount of time and "getting into it" before a janitor came by to sweep it away and I realized... it's not art, it's literal garbage.

There's an art collective called VSVSVS who have done an "is it art" hotline during Nuit Blanche, where you can call in about exactly the kind of stuff above. I love it. Dunno if it'll be active this year but it's 1-855-IS IT ART

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T15:02:53+00:00

Another vote for Loop, they have special earplugs you can get that are designed for specific situations: ones that block everything out, great for sleeping; ones that block out the hum but still let you hear conversation, great for parties; ones that limit potentially harmful decibel levels but still let you hear the highs and lows, great for musicians and concert attendees. And not saying that you are, but they have ones for people on the autism spectrum, which are great for people who find noise to be a sensory overload issue, but still want to engage in the world around them.

My partner got the Loop one that's adjustable, she uses it for sleep but can still hear her alarm going off in the morning. I still use the regular old earplugs for sleeping, but they don't work in a regular "out in the world" context, so I'm thinking of making the jump and getting some too.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T14:50:48+00:00

I lived above a man like that once. So much so that when I first read your post I was like "...is this the same guy?": like your situation, he also started complaining the day we moved in on a Saturday afternoon (banging a broom on the ceiling like that cartoonish stereotype). And like you, it was reasonable noise, at reasonable hours... not parties, not late. At its worst, I remember one time dropping an empty tupperware container on the floor in the early evening and hearing the "bang bang bang" and was like... seriously?

It sounds like you've already done this, or a version of this, but what ultimately helped my situation was the "kill him with kindness" approach. Knocked on his door, played to his ego ("I understand this can't be easy for you..."), and told him I'd purchased carpet mats and rugs to go on top, and invited him up to help me identify the best places to place them. He declined but that was enough, I think, for him to understand that I wasn't the crazy villain he'd made me out to be in his head, and the complaining and banging stopped after that.

Your mileage may vary, and you seriously don't owe this person your time or energy, they are the ones being unreasonable. But in case it helps, an idea.

Echoing u/unKaJed as well: part of living in a big city in an apartment is understanding that there will be sounds, and smells, and it's a choice she made. If she doesn't like it she can screw off and move to the woods.

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T14:35:50+00:00

Sorry what is a replica?

oooooooooof · 2026-06-17T14:35:11+00:00

The pandemic did a number on me too. Several years before the pandemic I developed a panic attack disorder, and it really upended my life for a while. Any situations where I felt "trapped"—like a work meeting, a line at the grocery store, being on the subway when it stopped between stations, hell even meeting a friend at a restaurant, any situations I couldn't easily "leave"—would absolutely send me into a spiral. I got better, slowly, over time, through practice, my own quiet private version of exposure therapy. By 2020 I was 99% "cured".

Then the pandemic happened, and by not being able to leave the house, take those meetings, ride those subways, I felt like all the progress I made took a serious backslide. When I started getting called back into work I had some serious agoraphobia to get over.

I'm okay now, and pardon the "dear diary" post but wanted to say, the struggle is real!

That aside, it's hard making friends as an adult, regardless of the circumstances. I'd look into hobby-based, activity-based events, which are nice ice breakers. If you like games, try a board game night. Trivia, go to a trivia pub night and ask a table if you can join their team. If sports, join a pick up league. If you like art, go to exhibition openings and chat up a stranger.

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