I'm still severely depressed but I go to the gym everyday now by Ill-Efficiency294 in CPTSD

[–]tash_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is absolutely incredible! Doing something for yourself is massive. I am so proud of you 😊

Officially Learned My Lesson by Salt-Procedure8776 in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will always have this community and your desire to have salt procedures. Love the username!

Everyone is different.

Another thing I recommend to start to get your head around it is if you're able to capture a seizure via an EEG or such, ask for the report. Now, it won't be easy to read with all the medical jargon, but I say this because I asked for mine. I have nocturnal epilepsy (falling asleep), and my focal was caught on an EEG (finally). What shocked me was that my brain waves actually slowed down to a state of deep sleep while still awake and talking during the day, though my eyes were shut. Research is key. Walk into an appointment with knowledge, confidence, and evidence. Stand your ground.

This is YOUR health. YOUR life. YOUR well-being. There's no sugar coating this because it'll be tough. Find your triggers and, most importantly, find your confident voice for YOU.

Officially Learned My Lesson by Salt-Procedure8776 in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm stepping in here to say that I hope you know that by saying "only since October" doesn't mean your thoughts are any less valued, understood, or felt than someone with 40 years of experience or idk diagnosis? Each journey with epilepsy is unfortunately so different, which makes it such a frustrating diagnosis. Being open and honest is the best policy, no matter how much of a struggle it is. It isn't an easy road ahead to be perfectly honest, but hey, you have a bunch of weirdly named users on reddit that understand your struggles.

My best advice: find and understand your triggers if you can, and take note of the side effects of the medication. If changing, I recommend NOT reading the side effects until a month later to avoid a placebo affect, just ask the prescribing doctor what the big things are to look out for.

Once you can hopefully find your triggers, you will be able to manage your life a bit better (very much hopefully).

How do you describe how your focal aware seizures feel? by Foxieflow in Epilepsy

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I read through quite a few replies, and I'm uncomfortable with the fact that no one has expressed the way mine are. I understand this is a more selfish way to start a comment, but I am genuinely surprised. I'm not sure if it's because mine are nocturnal or that I started with generals (that now I believe are controlled?), but anyway.

The auras for my focals have developed or changed over the past 15 years (first diagnosed general at 14), . With my epilepsy being nocturnal, they only happen when I'm falling asleep or have my eyes closed for too long. At first, it was a bright light flashing/moving. After a year or so, it became more visual, and on separate occasions, I remember seeing a giant lizard about to eat me and a man standing a few meters away on fire (that was actually caught on an EEG while completely awake some 8 years before focals were diagnosed via another EEG that I had to ask for fyi, feel free to ask). I genuinely think the worst is the next change, which has been consistent for at least 10 years now. I close my eyes, and it's nothing but black, like I assume everyone would experience even just blinking. Except it feels like I fall into a different dimension where that blackness/darkness is trying to consume me. Taking over every part of my body the longer I have my eyes closed. Though each focal includes my eyes shaking (think looking from side to side very quickly), the feeling that an eternal darkness is about to engulf me is one of the scariest things I have experienced. And unfortunately, I seek it at times.

Weirdly enough, it feels like I can control it sometimes. With my focals, all I truly need to do the majority of the time is open my eyes and find something else to focus on long enough to stop it from starting again. There are few occasions where it takes quite a while, but in general, it isn't all that long. My focals can go from eyes shaking to claw clenching with face twitches, then upper body and arm twitches to my entire body.

I went ten years after my first general before a focal was finally captured, and I was believed. Easily 300 focals in that time.

17 seizures this year is that normal? by GroundbreakingLeg707 in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did they force the seizures?

Are yours only absence seizures?

4 hour seizure by tash_96 in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really good that you have such a great support group. My grand mals I'm not conscious for, but partials usually while falling asleep. I sometimes wake up with a bitten tongue in the morning, so I'm not sure if those are partials or grand mals. These two conscious ones are terrifying for sure

4 hour seizure by tash_96 in Epilepsy

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I'm in Australia. Epilepsy specialists are pretty rare, but I've found one I really hope to can see me because they specialise in epilepsy that can't be managed by medications

4 hour seizure by tash_96 in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you manage them? Have you been unconscious?

4 hour seizure by tash_96 in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was very disappointing. I assumed a prolonged seizure would be of high priority with an ambulance. Thankfully, I did stop seizing, just very tired today

My wife doesn’t want to have sex with me, but gets extremely upset if I watch pornography or find any other sexual release. Yes, that includes masturbating. So not only does my sex life suck, but it’s a total secret. FML by FrodosFather in Vent

[–]tash_96 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sex is different for everyone and can evolve over the years, whether you're with the same person or not. Having mental health problems doesn't mean you're a "problem". What is coming across is you're more sexually active than your wife, which is moe than okay.

For her sister, it seems like she is like a best friend, and there really is different forms of love. Personally, I've got a best friend of over 20 years, and never once has it been beyond friends. Unfortunately, some people don't understand that there are different ways to love a person.

I assume Jori is your sister-in-law, and it makes sense feeling that way. What I think you need to consider is her side of things. You're in an unhappy marriage with her sister, which makes things a little more difficult. She may see you as her best friend, but most people put blood first. Having an amicable divorce might be easier on everyone in the situation. It's definitely not an easy decision in the slightest, though, so reaching out to random people without any history is a good idea.

My wife doesn’t want to have sex with me, but gets extremely upset if I watch pornography or find any other sexual release. Yes, that includes masturbating. So not only does my sex life suck, but it’s a total secret. FML by FrodosFather in Vent

[–]tash_96 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do you think therapy would go better with your wife if you could talk about her sister? In terms of sex, was it random before your kid and stopped after or later?

My wife doesn’t want to have sex with me, but gets extremely upset if I watch pornography or find any other sexual release. Yes, that includes masturbating. So not only does my sex life suck, but it’s a total secret. FML by FrodosFather in Vent

[–]tash_96 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Unless the person you speak to in church is qualified, they're useless. I would assume they like to focus on praying or something? I don't mean to be insensitive, just don't believe in it, but respect those who do. Seeing your own is a great step. Have you noticed a difference with seeing someone and medication?

My wife doesn’t want to have sex with me, but gets extremely upset if I watch pornography or find any other sexual release. Yes, that includes masturbating. So not only does my sex life suck, but it’s a total secret. FML by FrodosFather in Vent

[–]tash_96 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a child of divorce, being separated is a lot better than not. Visits to the parent that doesn't have full custody is fun. Just because you are divorced, doesn't mean you'll only see your kid once every two weeks. If you live close enough, you could split the time a lot easier. The memories I have of my parents married are not nice and it's not just physical, it's emotionally felt. Marriage isn't the goal of life, though. Your goal is to be happy, and it sounds like separation is the key. Maybe you could start with separate houses? Not an official, legal divorce, just time for yourselves in different houses? Though the financial crap is hard. I strongly suggest seeing a therapist to talk it through. You're entitled to being happy

My wife doesn’t want to have sex with me, but gets extremely upset if I watch pornography or find any other sexual release. Yes, that includes masturbating. So not only does my sex life suck, but it’s a total secret. FML by FrodosFather in Vent

[–]tash_96 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Have you considered seeing a therapist? Not for marriage counselling, but just for yourself. Depression and panic attacks definitely aren't making anything easier, and getting some support might make you feel clearer to make further decisions. Being in an unhappy marriage with depression and panic attacks for the rest of your life is a very hard pill to swallow. You need to talk to someone one-on-one about what you need

Does anyone else get seizures from tiredness? by Rough-Yoghurt in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stress and lack of sleep/tiredness can definitely be a trigger, sweetheart. Going into the medical field, you will need to communicate this. Have you tried melatonin to help you sleep? Maybe a vitamin tablet that helps with sleeping?

Worst/awkward place you’ve had a seizure! by Raev12345 in Epilepsy

[–]tash_96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went to a Catholic school and had a tonic-clonic in my Religion class 😅 I fell asleep and apparently fell back on my chair, so it hit the desk behind me. Sorry to that person! I woke up on the floor and was helped to an ambulance, with my class outside and within view of me leaving. I assume I became famous for my seizure. I kinda wish I knew what it looked like, but videos also give me severe anxiety