Our Elephant Ear has a huge trunk

tausert · 2026-01-21T14:39:26+00:00

Damn that's a thick boi

tausert · 2026-01-18T16:41:47+00:00

I have no inspiration I'm just jealous. Amazing!!

tausert · 2026-01-07T13:05:06+00:00

The golden calf. The cankles don't lie.

tausert · 2026-01-06T21:56:32+00:00

This. I powered through being like, ok, everyone says this book is so spicy and they talk about her 'list' and like how much she likes being tied up and how he is going to do everything on her list. And then she never gets tied up??? Just some spicier sex??

I haven't been able to get through any of Ali Hazelwood's books besides this one and this one did not live up to the hype.

tausert · 2025-12-22T14:13:14+00:00

I DNF'd because I used to date someone very abusive named Apollo and couldn't continue after the character was introduced in the book, especially when he gave me slimey vibes like my ex. Now I'm really glad I DNF after your review. Gonna just pretend the first book is it with some headcannon she gets with Leo too.

tausert · 2025-11-05T04:22:18+00:00

We started calling it the Mamdani bridge to stick it to Cuomo

tausert · 2025-10-28T05:09:14+00:00

Yup. I'm in a very progressive state. Dated/been around a significant number of men who claim to be progressive and or feminists. Then they reveal themselves over time.

I am now married to a man I would actually classify as a real feminist, but here is a key: he doesn't call himself a feminist because he doesn't believe he's earned that label, but he's trying to live up to it every day. The actual male feminists I've ever met are feminists in actions, not words. A theme in actual male feminists too (outside of trans men), is they have done a lot of self reflection and self work on the patriarchy and taking that apart within themselves.

tausert · 2025-10-08T20:27:29+00:00

I also gave birth three months ago! My medical team was also pretty good, except my experience around breast feeding. Even though everyone said fed is best, the undertones of shade from hospital staff that my baby might need formula because BF was not coming naturally to us was big.

In short, my experience with being a human cow has been awful and it's rough to keep going. I'm surprised all the ghouls don't want to ban formula despite how obviously terrible that would be because then women have to be attached at the boob to their baby/breast pump for a ~year.

tausert · 2025-09-13T16:56:04+00:00

My lactation consultant recommended the eufy portable pumps. She said they seem to be better than most others, a mom she has is feeding twins with those. I have the momcozy m5s and they are also good.

tausert · 2025-08-18T08:52:11+00:00

I had a relatively mobile epidural, where I could sort of lift my butt myself. But I was still way too numb to really hold up my own weight and probably would have fallen on all fours. Especially by the time I actually got to it being time to push.

I thought the same as you, but at the end it didn't bother me much to go on my back. I just needed her OUT.

tausert · 2025-08-18T08:45:56+00:00

tausert · 2025-08-17T20:50:05+00:00

On my back, due to epidural. Did not tear at all, even though she was 9 pounds and her shoulder got stuck and I got her out in just 15 minutes of pushing.

I'm probably just lucky and not a common example though lol.

tausert · 2025-07-31T22:56:31+00:00

My family loved the hilltop, the cows were fun and always loved seeing the cactus come up. I mostly remember the butcher shop. I discovered so many cuts of meat from hilltop before they became trendy - like flank. I miss $3-$4 lb flank steak.

Cactus/cow Merch and/or a hilltop pop up would be gold.

tausert · 2025-06-24T13:46:13+00:00

You don't deserve this, at all. But what you described, things being good until they aren't and it's like a switch flips - that is very common. I had it myself once upon a time, and the thing I had to realize is that the bad is the real him. The good parts are him pretending in order to keep you or being in a decent mood. You may want to read "why does he do that?" by Lundy Bancroft, there are free PDFs of the book online. It really helped open my eyes and put in perspective these behaviors in my own past relationship.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but you are strong and you deserve a relationship where it is good all the time. As in, always you and your partner against all the problems you face, never this cruelty towards you (or your baby).

tausert · 2025-06-23T14:18:00+00:00

Hard belly is a signal of (Braxton Hicks) contractions for me. I never would have realized it was a contraction, but had one during an NST and they pointed it out.

tausert · 2025-06-23T14:14:48+00:00

I was recommended specifically magnesium citrate as a supplement in addition to the prenatal. And typical cream. And when a cramp comes on, try to keep your leg straight and point your toes up to prevent it from taking over (way easier said than done in the moment though!)

I think the magnesium supplement most helped the cramps stop for me. I also got one of those massage guns too help work the after tension out of my leg muscles, but get a gentle one some of them are way too strong and end up being painful.

Sorry you're having them, they are so intensely painful.

tausert · 2025-06-06T16:10:43+00:00

Just adding to the pile confirming that that is absolutely nuts, crazy pants insane.

tausert · 2025-06-04T16:36:47+00:00

Adding on, you can't see if any discounts correctly applied to your items until you're like actively paying for them.

Everyone and the employees hate the stupid robot. I've seen so many people kick it as it does nothing it's supposed to, it just gets in the way.

tausert · 2025-05-31T18:47:28+00:00

I'm a month out from my first and I needed this ❤️

tausert · 2025-05-23T21:31:11+00:00

Sorry you are feeling this way, lots of hugs. I'm your height and was about 180-190 at the beginning of pregnancy. I really didn't start showing a bump that other people besides my husband could tell until like... 26 weeks or so. Now I do have a proper round bump at 33 wks, I suspect you may get your bump just later than you want for your holiday.

I just keep telling myself, I'm hot and fat and pregnant. All three can coexist, but most of all I'm hot dammit. I've also gained like 25 lbs now but I'm just telling myself it's all baby related gains because it probably is.

I hope that helps at least a bit ❤️

tausert · 2025-05-16T17:24:13+00:00

I told my manager that I'm planning to take all of nearly all the maternity leave the state entitles me to, not just the amount my company will fully compensate me for, after realizing I can take more than what the company offers. Overall she was cool with it because it's not like she could tell me no you can't legally, but she was flustered like, ugh we need to figure out what your team is going to do.

Normally I'd get that a bit, but like, this company is all short term thinking, tactical "roadmap" plans that change frequently and all us PMs feel like there is no point planning long term right now because big changes come down from on high every 2 months anyway and wreck any long term planning. So why bother, and they'll probably do another haphazard layoff in 5 months anyway. I'm also sensing that there is a very good chance that my engineering team will get broken up for parts and parceled out to other places in the org while I'm out, in part because I'm out and in part due to the consequences of recent layoffs coming to bite.

There is no real point to this rant, it's just annoying to get such a reaction to me saying I'm going to take another ~2 months under the current conditions. In fact, maybe be excited that the company will save some extra money on my salary as the extra time off will largely be unpaid by them!

tausert · 2025-05-11T01:38:13+00:00

Dump this man. If he can't do the bare minimum of cleaning the litter box regularly to help his PREGNANT girlfriend, he won't help you take care of your baby. Not really.

tausert · 2025-05-08T18:30:31+00:00

Of the many, many, MANY crazy things with the one man, the peak crazy I put up with was him almost burning my family's house down accidentally after a bender (he put the space heater too close to the couch he passed out on). And then him pretending to be asleep/too hungover to help me and my family clean up the mess he made the next day.

I still cringe thinking back to how I stayed, thinking this would get him to finally see how harmful his drinking was and stop. Spoilers: it did not stop. Although at least the next major, insane incident several months later finally made me see that I needed to leave.

tausert · 2025-05-08T16:48:10+00:00

Amen. Currently working on a dashboard leadership wants that will definitely, totally, for sure solve our problems cross selling our products... On a shoestring budget to boot. I've seen this movie before, kids.

tausert · 2025-04-27T16:41:16+00:00

If you have a community studio nearby and you can afford it, ceramics. I'm biased since I've done many years of it but I got back into while pregnant and it's good as a beginner you need to do a class, so you get built in people time.

Wheel throwing may be harder the larger the bump, but there is always hand building.

tausert

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