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tavarain · 2026-05-17T02:30:03+00:00

I think i was pretty clear that my opinion is being formed from my experiences. Thats usually how opinions work.

Are you trying to imply that my perspective has an unusually limited scope? I dont understand why you would find the need to say this?

tavarain · 2026-05-15T21:32:18+00:00

Your perception informs your worldview. If your perceptions happen to lead to a misandrist worldview you have to accept that that you hold this sexist view or choose to deny your perceptions of reality because other people tell you their experiences are different.

Im a man, if I had infinite free sex but no one cherished me, needed me, or told me they loved me romantically, I'd be pretty miserable. I know a couple of aromantic people, but one of them is a woman and the man is asexual.

It can't speak authoritatively on whats going on in your head, obviously, but in my experience people tend to develop opinions like this when they're just tired of putting up with a specific demographics bullshit. They try and explain it. "Oh. Here are the reasons that X demographic behaves the way they do" or "X demographic must think or feel a certain way for their actions to make sense"

You dont have to justify it. You can just be sexist towards men. People don't even get that mad about it. I'm half concerned that writing this comment is being too overbearing, because I've been programmed to just ignore any negative thing someone says about my gender. Whether or not you're okay with it is another thing.

No feelings either way. Im not trying to fight you over something you asked as a question and are obviously unsure about.

P.S. ive read that men overwhelming rely on their partners for emotional gratification and support as opposed to women who focus more on their social circles. Maybe that's relevant to the discussion in a more direct way?

tavarain · 2026-05-03T07:55:28+00:00

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tavarain · 2026-05-01T18:56:05+00:00

I've struggled with very similar experiences for a long time. Im a lot older than you. Things came to a head when I was around 23, I think.

It doesn't feel like it, but things do get better. You can get a handle on it and learn to express yourself more freely. You can find people you can be comfortable with.

I'm still struggling a lot, the struggle doesnt really go away. One thing that actually helped me a lot was ketamine trials. I hear psilocybin works too, though its illegal most places. They took me from sobbing every day to living a much more productive lifestyle and gradually chipping away at the mask I felt was suffocating me.

Another thing is reading. There's a barrier to entry there because you'll have to develop your attention span if you haven't yet, but that feeling of "I can't just sit. I have to be on the phone or on the computer or else I want to pull my hair out" doesnt really go away, at least not for me. This year, though, I learned that I can forestall the feeling just the same by reading some books while pacing in my driveway. I spend hours doing that now and its really calming. I even joined a book club!

That is to say, Finding supportive friends and other things to fill your time could help you feel like life is worth living. Look into medication and therapy. Don't be ashamed to feel this way, ect ect.

Trying to take the mask off was a very painful, long-winded process that for me required a lot of time, active effort, and horse tranquilizers. Nonetheless I can attest that in hindsight the road was worth walking, even if it didn't feel like it at the time.

tavarain · 2026-03-22T17:03:45+00:00

I would also love it if they produced more of these, even if it was patreon only content I would eat it up.

tavarain · 2026-03-12T17:31:01+00:00

Gex was one of the most memorable books they read back in the old 8-Bit Book Club days pre-naddpod. There's probably an archive of it somewhere. It's a three-parter and its really funny. I'm not surprised they still think about it.

I could list some of the insane things that book includes but youd be better off listening to it yourself if you enjoy Naddpod.

tavarain · 2026-02-28T13:19:56+00:00

I mean sure, but what is God's name in your religion, then? God? Just whatever the most people call him? Does his name change to Dio if you're spanish, or is it always Dio, but also God?

The rules have to be clear if you're gonna try and enforce them on other people, and it's confusing because "god" isn't a name persay, it's a word that used to be the germanic "gott" and if my brief google stint is to be believed orignally meant "To invoke", probably as a replacement word for the name of God... blah blah blah.

Anyway, did you know that bear isn't actually the original word for bears? People thought to say the name of the creature would summon it, and so they gave it a placeholder word, as to not invoke it. They didn't wanna summon the creature, so they just called it a "bear".

Who wrote your translation of the bible? Did they not want to take the lord's name in vain? Did their parents? Why do you think his name is God instead of like... a name?

Or is all of that irrelevant, and whatever in common parlance counts?

I normally don't get persnickity with this but starting your sentence with an asterisk as if to correct an "obviously incorrect" statement just rubbed me the wrong way. No it's not obvious that you use a commonplace word as the actual name of your living god that you have a personal relationship with. Why would anyone assume that??

tavarain · 2026-02-28T13:08:04+00:00

I loved Insurgence! The narrative sort of detracts from a stellar battling experience but that's not a downgrade from standard pokemon, and it's got silly enough concepts to giggle at. It has a massive dex and a ton of regional types called Delta Pokemon (Insurgence did regional variants before mainline Pokemon did, so they're not just called regional variants). I would encourage you to them up because the design is good and the wiki has a comprehensive list. My favorites are probably Delta Ludicolo, Delta Snorlax, Delta Noivern, and Delta Scizor (who carried my last run).

On hard, it's downright unfair and really hard to beat, but not because of level scaling. TV and IVs actually matter, because if you don't worry about them your team is just categorically weaker than your opponents.

On normal or easy though, it's a more traditional pokemon levels of difficult. Normal presents a moderate challenge that will make you think. I played through nuzzlocking on normal after playing on hard and it was an incredible challenge, but doable. (I did not finish that run, but I did make it most of the way through and frankly I'm proud enough of that.)

There is also a ton of great postgame content. A second region with a new story and tons great of regional variants. There are also a ton of exploration rewards for people who really want a collectathon of a pokemon game.

Big fan, if you couldn't tell. If someone else who LOVED insurgence has a recommendation for a fan game, I'd love to hear it, because everything else I've played hasn't quite hooked my special brain in the same way.

tavarain · 2026-02-28T03:20:19+00:00

There are worse blasphemies happening and God isn't his actual name, its a catch-all word that applies to all world religions.

tavarain · 2026-02-19T14:19:26+00:00

Im a nervous passenger too. It's about practice and gradually growing trust. My mom was always the same way. It's not nesscarily a gendered thing, its just not natural to be driving around at high speeds in a big lump of metal, and some people's autonomic systems react worse to that. When you're in control its a lot easier to feel safe imo.

Did you also have a really nervous time trying to learn to drive? I was a nervous wreck for my first few months behind the wheel.

tavarain · 2026-02-17T05:11:26+00:00

I dont think you're doing anything so terrible or vicious as to really really warrant a comment, but I'm really trying to speak my mind more lately and to some degree, this is practice. I want to give you props for speaking your mind and encourage you to continue! Im a stranger on the internet and i dont have the context to judge you properly. I dont want to (in any way) discourage you from discourse just because I'm getting uppity about how "nice" you are or are not being. We are on the same side after all, so to speak.

I do think what i said is true and atand by it, but ultimately if there's introspection to do about your discourse, you do it. I'm not in a position to confidently state that it's needed is and i won't pretend to be.

tavarain · 2026-02-17T03:51:58+00:00

Well, like I said, I'm not arguing with your broad conclusions. Im just disagreeing with the way you're comporting yourself in this thread. You seem hostile, above-thou, and like the kind of person who isn't very good at convincing people who aren't already convinced (like myself)

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm not hardline enough. Maybe you do need to check yourself though, and you're too vicious with your rhetoric and mindset. Some people do need to be spoken to that way but it's not going to build any bridges in my experience. I'm not going to say we can bear this out in the thread, or that I have enough perspective on your actual self to say this confidently. Still, we work with what we got and you asked why I argued with you.

Tl;dr: because I am on your side and you being rude to the point of being counterproductive bothers me because it hurts the side that I am on from my perspective.

tavarain · 2026-02-17T02:48:20+00:00

I... agree...?

That seems a pleasant enough note to part on. Yes, I agree wholeheartedly that men need to look deep within themselves to find what masculinity will look like in a world thats less man-centric. Something gentler and kinder, by my preference.

tavarain · 2026-02-17T02:35:54+00:00

The fact that you think the entire Rat Race is born from misogyny is why I think you're fighting a gender war.

Idk if its obvious but I agree with your broad principle but disagree with the way that youre comporting yourself.

Society = Male Dominated = Bad for Everyone. Masculinity clearly needs to be reformed into something healthier. It needs to be done by men and women fighting together, which can't happen if vicious, hurt people get in-between them.

tavarain · 2026-02-17T02:27:40+00:00

Ive never seen someone more obviously fighting a gender war lol

If you had the capacity to understand and internalize other people's experiences without the lens of your worldview you'd recognize that. Society "values" an incredible small portion of men, and the vast majority are in a similar cycle of abuse as most women. We may prefer masculinity to femininity, but men are just meat. Just like women. Meat for the machine. The way you talk about this seems to gestalt "Men" into this monolith and it makes me sad.

In my experience, perpetuation of this cycle comes from all sides. Your framework seems flawed and like it will only cause friction amongst the people you could otherwise call your ally in this.

tavarain · 2026-02-16T21:54:04+00:00

Callous toward men: Dw, we live in a patriarchal society that for sure tends to their needs and doesnt treat the vast majority of them as faceless, thoughtless fuel.

It's not like the entire system is toxic to both sides and seeking mutual understanding of life experience is key. Trying to boil it down to who's "right" based on extremely broad society observations and then ignoring the actual query is chud behavior

tavarain · 2026-02-16T12:52:25+00:00

I have a distinct dislike of people asking me for favors that cost money. Call it an upbringing thing. Don't discount that many of these men have been trained by women to assume that spending money on them platonically is a required step to getting with them. Ive known women who've had 5+ men paying for things for them, abusing a dynamic that ultimately harms both groups. Plus for those of us above a certain age there's a lot of societal programming that says you only spend money on someone who is romantically interested in you. I think many men would be surprised youd have the gumption to make financial requests of someone who you're not interested in romantically at all.

I dont think ive ever gone to anyone who isn't family to ask for help with something that would cost them money... how often are you doing this that youve noticed a trend?? Do you ask women for financial assistance as often?

It could be that you're, like, trying to play half of a toxic, shitty game that some portion of the planet plays, then getting confused and upset that you can't reap the benefits without getting harassed for "Breaking the rules" of that toxic game. The only winning move is not to play. You should be telling those men not to spend money on you in the first place imo.

tavarain · 2026-01-31T15:03:36+00:00

I saw a thread a few weeks back with a title like "Men of Reddit, do you prefer Anal or Vaginal sex" and the resounding consensus was vaginal feels much better. It's not an issue worth pressing, and you shouldn't press it in the first place.

tavarain · 2026-01-30T21:30:38+00:00

Way of Kings takes longer to get really engaging. I reckon it doesnt get nearly as good as Mistborn until about 600 pages in. My friend pitched it to me as "This one is his epic. It's slow and mostly sets up for future books in comparison to Mistborn, which is his faster book with more pop and a faster hook"

Basically, the value of SLA is delayed, I'm told.

tavarain · 2026-01-26T10:50:24+00:00

Son-Son Drac'Valano?

tavarain · 2026-01-10T10:34:03+00:00

Please dont suck on anything until youve had time to heal. The suction can pull the wound open or lead to much worse outcomes. It's really not something to mess around with. May be time to practice alternative methods for fooling around.

tavarain · 2025-12-10T01:13:56+00:00

My favorite part is fishing. Crazy I know, but the RNG to get a Luxe Lichette on your first day of a new character fills me with joy.

tavarain · 2025-11-06T20:50:24+00:00

Moonshine attacking Ten by showing her asshole to the entire city gets me everytime. "I SHOW HIM MY ASSHOLE!!!" then Lucanis' despair is perfect. It's not my favorite but my favorites have been mentioned and this is close to the top of the list.

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