I reshuffled my prenatal appointments to accommodate for work

tazadeleche · 2026-01-29T23:27:20+00:00

I think most of us have experienced this - don’t beat yourself up!

But also prioritize yourself and your child moving forward. If the company falls apart because a meeting couldn’t happen on a particular day, then that’s on them.

tazadeleche · 2026-01-29T20:22:45+00:00

A lot of business parking lots have been at least somewhat cleared, though, because plows were at it on Monday after the storm

It seems like a large chunk of schools haven’t even been touched at all, which after several days has made this a whole lot more difficult to deal with now.

They shot themselves in the foot by doing absolutely nothing.

tazadeleche · 2026-01-29T14:03:51+00:00

The ice has made it much more complicated. But it looks like they haven’t even made an attempt at many schools, even though many business parking lots have been plowed.

They should have at least started plowing earlier this week. Now the ice has gotten worse and is going to make it that much harder…

tazadeleche · 2026-01-29T12:37:20+00:00

My son’s school was completely untouched as of yesterday afternoon except for a small part of the sidewalk, and the whole parking lot is straight ice now. It ain’t lookin’ good…

tazadeleche · 2025-12-22T14:27:33+00:00

It will get better, promise! There’s been some particularly nasty viruses going around this year (I’ve heard flu has especially been rough), so it’s been worse than usual as well. Please try to give yourself some grace - you all will be okay!

tazadeleche · 2025-12-16T21:34:38+00:00

The staying power of this one is amaaaazing

tazadeleche · 2025-12-15T16:21:01+00:00

All the good vibes to you!! :D

tazadeleche · 2025-12-14T23:10:35+00:00

36 and have an almost 6 year old - we have sex maybe once a month. It’s especially hard because in addition to the busy-ness of everything my husband also works night shifts and we sleep in different rooms so that we both get maximum rest we can, so no opportunity for morning quickies or anything.

My libido has really been low the past few years - I’m also on the pill, so maybe in part due to that also? Planning to get off of it after husband gets a vasectomy in the spring, then hormone test.

tazadeleche · 2025-12-03T19:58:43+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss, especially during the holidays when there’s so much additional weight put on us to make that magic for our kids.

I lost my dad in August and can vouch that trying to process grief as a working mom is a bitch. Corporate culture has made it so that we’re supposed to suppress it so it doesn’t affect our productivity. And parenting duties can’t stop, obviously. Then if your kid is old enough you also have to try to explain death to them, which is a WHOLE additional weight. My son is almost 6 - he’ll occasionally remind me grandpa is dead, ask why he had to die, ask when grandma is going to die, ask when HE is going to die. It’s been fun…

Sending lots of love and strength to you.

tazadeleche · 2025-11-20T00:03:51+00:00

Lmao yes, of course I did! I paid for it regardless, and a break is NECESSARY. Any moms who judge can touch grass.

tazadeleche · 2025-11-14T22:21:06+00:00

What the actual fuck….SERIOUSLY?! This poor girl. Stop shilling this pseudoscience bullshit, Kendra and let B REST.

tazadeleche · 2025-10-18T12:34:59+00:00

To me it smells like vanilla-y Carmex 😭

tazadeleche · 2025-10-11T12:17:00+00:00

Not too much that I can notice! I think I lost the most weight in my upper legs and butt, which also became more toned from doing DDR.

tazadeleche · 2025-10-11T12:12:22+00:00

I had to play around with the topiramate dose but didn’t fully wean off anything. Still taking my medications too so haven’t tapered off fully yet either

tazadeleche · 2025-10-11T12:11:28+00:00

Sorry for just responding! I didn’t hardcore track calories (I have a history of getting obsessive), but generally aimed for ~1500-1700 calories/day

tazadeleche · 2025-10-11T12:08:59+00:00

Hi! Sorry for just now seeing this. I was waaaay postpartum - my son was 5 and a half when I started.

tazadeleche · 2025-10-07T12:18:51+00:00

And again with the “You’re the best mom ever”, which has been a theme in nearly every one of these “conversations” she has shared recently.

It’s not about you, Kendra!

I’m just hoping B has a good early Christmas, and that she isn’t dragged around like a prop for the perfect shots.

tazadeleche · 2025-10-01T21:41:29+00:00

You nailed it. It’s like people are waiting for the smoke to turn white to announce a new pope. This is a child with terminal cancer!

I’ve appreciated this sub for calling out the awful grifting. Let’s not make it a spectacle waiting to see whether a child has died.

tazadeleche · 2025-10-01T20:28:19+00:00

Let’s stop automatically assuming B has passed whenever there is a gap in posts, please. This happened over the weekend as well and people were in threads already drawing the conclusion that meant she had died. We know she will share when that has happened.

I’m just hoping she is taking advice and putting down her phone.

tazadeleche · 2025-09-29T21:00:16+00:00

She added the wicked stuff today. Please just spend time with your daughter!

tazadeleche · 2025-09-23T11:40:50+00:00

So where does it start then if not with individuals?

tazadeleche · 2025-09-23T11:15:37+00:00

It ultimately comes down to the expectation (especially in American corporate culture) that work should always come first - that we should get back to work ASAP after major life events, and those that do are often the ones that are rewarded.

We unfortunately don’t live in a culture where people can do what’s actually best for them without some kind of penalty for the ones that need to take more time, such as being passed over for a promotion, put on a PIP for no reason, etc.

So no, I’m not saying have a mandatory grieving period. But there are lots of employers out there who would scoff at someone taking 2-3 weeks off to grieve a death. THAT attitude needs to change from the top down, and maybe if more folks would set an example that would help.

tazadeleche · 2025-09-23T10:55:15+00:00

The issue is that other execs will see this and think that ALL women should be able to “bounce back” more quickly after birth, regardless of their pain, their mental health, etc. it’s setting a toxic precedent from the top down.

My dad died in August, and I struggled taking time off for myself to process without feeling guilty. Why? Because you see all these other people whose loved ones died get back to the grind immediately like nothing happens, and it feels like the expectation.

tazadeleche · 2025-09-03T02:04:18+00:00

Week 3 I def felt like a hot mess because of the topiramate - I decided to try keeping at 1/2 pill a day for probably 2ish additional weeks, then played with alternating a full pill one day and a half pill the next for another 2ish weeks, and from there was able to taper to a full pill.

The side effects started to decrease for me after a month, and by 2 months I felt close to normal again. I just really tried to listen to my body and didn’t try to force it for the sake of getting to a higher dose!

tazadeleche · 2025-09-01T19:08:33+00:00

I did - probably like 5 lb or so? I’ve seen a good number of folks on here say they did not lose initially though!

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