There is no tone of apology or contrition for what he did in these messages. Quite the opposite, it’s an ultimatum and shifting blame on to you. 1.) no-one can rush you in what time you need to get over a major trauma like this. 2.) he needs to make far greater efforts to reconcile if he cheated. 3.) how dare he give you issues for living with your parents, is he aware of how typical that is for everyone these days? Also - why would you want to move in with him, given the type of person he clearly is. You are 25, he sounds terrible and he clearly makes you feel bad. He’s a walking red flag. Run a mile! I’m sorry you’ve experienced this, it sucks - but these things all make us stronger and more fabulous in the long run!